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How often do you call/talk to your parents and/or adult children?

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justincredible Honorable Admin
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 9:10 AM

I realized on Sunday that it had been over a month or so since the last time I talked to my mom. I felt pretty crappy about that so I gave her a call. Typically it's every other week or so. We're 2.5 hours away from each other so we don't get to see each other as often as we would like. For those of you that aren't close, distance wise, how often do you call your parents/kids? 

vball10set paying it forward
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:13 AM

We have three kids, all in the Cbus area (we live in Toledo), along with 4 (going on 5) grandchildren. We're not only down there every 2-3 weeks, but we talk to one or more of the kids anywhere from 2-3 times a week, with Facetime being a big part of it.
j_crazy 7 gram rocks. how i roll.
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:25 AM

i call my mom at least every thursday. I have been going to her house every other weekend to take care of things with her being sick and going through treatment. she's stopping treatment for her cancer and going to just let it take her. so i'll be down more often and i've been calling every other day or so. Also planning to take a couple trips in the last few months she has left.
Heretic Son of the Sun
20,517 posts 204 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:43 AM

Usually call twice a week (occasionally more if there's a reason beyond small talk) and visit every other week. Only about an hour away, so neither of those things is remotely a bother.
jmog Senior Member
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:50 AM

I talk to my mom 2 or 3 times each week and my dad at least once a week. They live close and are actively involved with my kids' lives.

 

Even when we lived in Marysville (family is in Akron) it was at least once a week and we saw them every other weekend.
Fab4Runner Tits McGee
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:52 AM

I text my mom almost daily and we talk on the phone once a month or so. She's my bff. She lives about 75 minutes from us, but we still try to visit once a month if we can. Selfishly, we like going in the summer because they have a pool, lol. I was there a lot the last few months. I don't call my stepdad, but we text occasionally and I see him when we visit.

I text with my dad a couple times/week. Usually about the Indians, Browns or Buckeyes. We rarely talk on the phone, but to be fair, I don't talk on the phone with anyone. I hate it. I think my husband and I call one another maybe twice/month and it's usually a, "did you already leave the store? We need ___." 

My husband is the opposite. He talks to his mom, dad and brother multiple times/week, sometimes for 30-45 minutes at a time. They love phone calls. We see all of them less because they live 3+ hours away.

 
Commander of Awesome Senior Pwner
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:59 AM

I probably talk to my mom on the phone 4 times a week or so. Usually on my morning commute walk (~12-15 min). I rarely talk to anyone else in my family except when I see them in person.

Probably see my mom 3-4 times a year, tough as we're about 3k miles away. I usually spend a week + at home around thanksgiving, and she comes out to the bay 2-3 times.
justincredible Honorable Admin
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 11:13 AM

Damn. Looks like I'm the asshole kid that doesn't talk to his mother enough.
QuakerOats Senior Member
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 11:17 AM
posted by j_crazy

i call my mom at least every thursday. I have been going to her house every other weekend to take care of things with her being sick and going through treatment. she's stopping treatment for her cancer and going to just let it take her. so i'll be down more often and i've been calling every other day or so. Also planning to take a couple trips in the last few months she has left.

 

Sorry to hear; hope you have some quality time left with her.  Take care.
friendfromlowry Senior Member
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 11:21 AM

My parents live 45 minutes away. We talk maybe twice a week either by phone or Facetime (so they can see grandchildren), and text several days a week. We see each other at least once a week. 
OSH Kosh B'Gosh
4,424 posts 18 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 11:22 AM

Multiple times a week by phone. More regularly by text.

We don't go there often, my parents are more likely to come to us (mom is retired). Hopefully the schedules will settle down a little once little guy is off the tit (come February, if not earlier).
Laley23 GOAT
33,369 posts 133 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 12:02 PM

I hate talking about nothing, don’t care who it is with. So I talk to my parents about 1x a month. And it usually is because we have something to talk about (then small talk takes over for a bit). 

I’ll call my dad a bit more during Indiana basketball season, but not much.
ernest_t_bass 12th Son of the Lama
26,698 posts 204 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 12:32 PM
posted by justincredible

I realized on Sunday that it had been over a month or so since the last time I talked to my mom. I felt pretty crappy about that so I gave her a call. Typically it's every other week or so. We're 2.5 hours away from each other so we don't get to see each other as often as we would like. For those of you that aren't close, distance wise, how often do you call your parents/kids? 

It's a two-way street.  She didn't call you either, so why feel bad?  I just don't think you should beat yourself up over it.

 
justincredible Honorable Admin
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 12:46 PM
posted by ernest_t_bass

It's a two-way street.  She didn't call you either, so why feel bad?  I just don't think you should beat yourself up over it

I'm not beating myself up about it at all. It happens every once in a while when we're both busy, but doesn't affect our relationship at all. We just end up talking for a bit longer than normal.

 
ernest_t_bass 12th Son of the Lama
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 12:48 PM

We live 2 hours from my parents.  I give them a lot of credit, b/c they come to as many of our children's stuff as they can.  Brother lives in CBus (1 hour from them) and sister lives in Miami, FL.  I think they are just resigned to the fact that they are now travelers.  We text as needed, and very rarely speak on the phone.  We have a decent relationship, I suppose.
Belly35 Elderly Intellectual
10,015 posts 56 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 3:22 PM

My daughter's call me everyday or my wife everyday. my two daughters usually call me before 8 in the morning and my other daughter calls me usually around 6 or 7 at night.... 
iclfan2 Reppin' the 330/216/843
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 3:51 PM

I prefer texting my parents. I'll call my dad driving home from work every few weeks but we'll text more about sports/ politics. They split time between here and Ohio so for half of the year I see them often. 
Automatik Senior Member
15,737 posts 99 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 5:49 PM

I talk to my parents at least once a week. 

My grandmother every few weeks, but she's getting up there. I should reach out to her more. I try with my grandfather, but he's your typical grouchy prick.
Ironman92 Administrator
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:17 PM

We live in same town, mom and dad no longer together

I talk with/see Dad about once a week and mom close to the same maybe 4x in 5 weeks. We have everyone over for Sun dinner about once a month.

My daughter is 23 and I message her about once a week to wish her well and she’ll message about once a week to communicate something. She messages with my wife several times a day. I see her about once every 6 weeks it seems.
Ironman92 Administrator
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Wed, Sep 26, 2018 10:19 PM
posted by j_crazy

i call my mom at least every thursday. I have been going to her house every other weekend to take care of things with her being sick and going through treatment. she's stopping treatment for her cancer and going to just let it take her. so i'll be down more often and i've been calling every other day or so. Also planning to take a couple trips in the last few months she has left.

Sorry man
CenterBHSFan 333 - I'm only half evil
7,259 posts 55 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, Sep 26, 2018 11:19 PM

I don't talk much about my private life. When I have I could probably count on two fingers lol.

But I take care of my mother who have physical disabilities and now also has alzheimer's. So I'm around her every day, all day. 
Just lost my dad over the summer due to a horrific car wreck (back broke in 2 places, shattered pelvis, compound fracture of femure, brain bleed, bruised heart along with a heart attack - it was brutal). I had 2-1/2 weeks to say my last goodbyes. Wish I could talk to him, I'd give anything to hear him on the phone right now or to see him.

At the risk of sounding extremely trite and preachy, making the effort "now" is worth the while later in life. Don't convince yourself that "they know I love them" is equal to time spent. It's not.

With everything that's happened, I have made it a point to reach out to other family members that I haven't seen in decades, talk to closer family more often, go visit when I can, etc. It's a work in progress!

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