Wife Swap

kizer permanente Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:08 PM

So we have a group of us that have been friends since Jr high/high school. We all have kids that are around the same age. So we're still relatively close since now ours kids are in the same classes, same sports team..etc etc...

The two couples that have been together the longest (both couple's started dating in high school) are in the process of getting divorces and are dating each others spouses. The one are already pregnant with a kid on the way and divorces aren't even final. I made a comment to another mutual friend that it's kinda uncomfortable around them right now, He in so many words told me to grow up lol. I dunno.. maybe I am the one that needs to lol ?

Is this normal? Am I the weird one for being uncomfortable in the group presently? 


friendfromlowry Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:14 PM

Is everyone cool with what’s going on or is there a lot of drama? If there was constant tension or arguing then I would be uncomfortable, too. But if everyone is okay with the situation then I guess whatever. Good luck to all of them though. It all sounds pretty cringeworthy. 

kizer permanente Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:17 PM
posted by friendfromlowry

Is everyone cool with what’s going on or is there a lot of drama? If there was constant tension or arguing then I would be uncomfortable, too. But if everyone is okay with the situation then I guess whatever. Good luck to all of them though. It all sounds pretty cringeworthy. 

They say everyone's cool with it, but no ones going to same baseball games anymore and school functions... I asked what was up and that's when I found out the story.  So if everyone is cool with it, they have a funny way of acting like it.

gut Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:19 PM

I imagine the holidays will be very interesting for them all.

justincredible Honorable Admin
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:23 PM

33,369 posts 125 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, May 25, 2022 1:28 PM

I'd be making so many jokes. 

justincredible Honorable Admin
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:32 PM

I was honestly expecting something much different when I opened the thread and read the first line. Thought it was going to be a key party kinda thing.

kizer permanente Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:41 PM
posted by justincredible

I was honestly expecting something much different when I opened the thread and read the first line. Thought it was going to be a key party kinda thing.

I think maybe it started that way? Lol I dunno  


Heretic Son of the Sun
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:42 PM
posted by gut

I imagine the holidays will be very interesting for them all.

And class reunions!

justincredible Honorable Admin
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Wed, May 25, 2022 1:46 PM

Reminds me of this great song:

33,369 posts 125 reps Joined Nov 2009
Wed, May 25, 2022 2:12 PM

Reminds me of the Keegan-Michael Key show, Friends From College

iclfan2 Reppin' the 330/216/843
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Wed, May 25, 2022 2:40 PM

Sounds pretty fucked up to me. And for the first time agree with your opinion lol. 

BRF Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 2:59 PM

Ask Fritz Peterson and Mike Kekich. 

Dr Winston O'Boogie Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:00 PM

I would imagine feeling awkward about it too.  I don't know any of these people, but if it were friends of mine, in a tight group, going back to school days, I think it'd mess up the group chemistry big time.  I see a lot of trouble on the horizon for the four principles.

gut Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:03 PM
posted by Dr Winston O'Boogie

I would imagine feeling awkward about it too. 

Like when everyone gathers for a barbecue, and you forget who's now with who.
Dr Winston O'Boogie Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:04 PM
posted by gut
Like when everyone gathers for a barbecue, and you forget who's now with who.

Not to mention if there are kids involved.  Their  confusion will be high.

friendfromlowry Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:06 PM

I always assumed if I got divorced I’d want to lay low for a while and not immediately start dating. These couples went the opposite route, especially with the pregnancy. Yikes.

gut Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:14 PM
posted by Dr Winston O'Boogie

Not to mention if there are kids involved.  Their  confusion will be high.

Especially with the pregnancy.  So that means all the other kids will be his half-brothers and sisters?  You have to name him Oliver, right?

geeblock Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:29 PM

I know of a similar situation and they are all cool with it last I heard it’s from my hometown so I only see it on Facebook tho 

QuakerOats Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 3:53 PM
posted by iclfan2

Sounds pretty fucked up to me. And for the first time agree with your opinion lol. 


Ditto   /   Ditto

Zunardo Senior Member
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Wed, May 25, 2022 5:35 PM
posted by kizer permanente

Am I the weird one for being uncomfortable in the group presently? 

No, you are not.   I'd have to walk away from the parties for a while, because I know I'd say something to alienate everyone.

Reminds of Groucho Marx's son Arthur, who became a successful playwright and screenwriter in Hollywood.  He married at 22 and had kids, then 20 years later decides he doesn't love his wife, and ends marrying his best friend's spouse.  That was scandalous stuff in the early 1960's.  But at least they waited until the divorce was final to get married and move in.

I knew two co-workers who were married to each other, then the husband died.  My cubicle wife at the time said, "Well, I guess now she can shack up with Charlie" (another co-worker also married), "and he can leave his wife now".  I was stunned.  She said,  "You didn't know they've been having an affair for several years?"   I had no idea.  I'd been on a few work trips with Charlie and listened to him brag about his wife, thought he had a nice life and marriage.  

Went to the first husband's funeral, listened to the eulogies from two other couples who regular partied with the first couple.  Not sure why, but I suddenly got the distinct impression all six of them had been swingers, and that everyone else in the world kinda knew except me - and now Charlie is in this mess.   I was stunned by both developments.  Couldn't speak to either co-worker for a long time.   What would I say - "Hey, I'm sorry one of your spouses just croaked and that you'll be dumping the other spouse, and I wish you crazy kids a happy swinging marriage"? 



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