How long have you been with your significant other?

  • Wed, Jul 3, 2019 10:15 PM

    Mine isn’t as easy as those. But was very happy to have 2015 as the year. Pretty easy math and an easy year to remember. Then June is my birthday month and 20 is a round number.

    Wed, Jul 3, 2019 10:54 PM

    Yeah, 6/27/09 isn't easy. 

    Thu, Jul 4, 2019 8:47 AM

    What's the secret sauce for you all who have been married for so long?  Especially for those who had kids.   I am happy to see ETB still married.  His posts during the early OC years were not that favorable for having kids. 

    Thu, Jul 4, 2019 9:52 AM

    I don't have any issues remembering dates, and not just my anniversary. I have 6 siblings, plus in-laws and 4 nieces and nephews (so far) and I know everyone's birthday. I also know all 4 parent's, all grandparent's, etc. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    Thu, Jul 4, 2019 10:35 AM

    ^^^^^^^* Because you’re a woman. 

    ;-)

    Thu, Jul 4, 2019 1:50 PM
    posted by like_that

    What's the secret sauce for you all who have been married for so long? 

    At some point - preferably early on -  both of you have to make a decision that your marriage is too important for either of you to give up on.  And you have to remind yourselves of that as often as is needed.

    Or, as Bernie Mac so eloquently puts it from the male perspective .....

     

    Thu, Jul 4, 2019 5:51 PM
    posted by like_that

    What's the secret sauce for you all who have been married for so long?  Especially for those who had kids.   I am happy to see ETB still married.  His posts during the early OC years were not that favorable for having kids. 

    Being master of the obvious, I think it starts with finding the right person, someone who you see spending the rest of your life with. While not a believer that there is just one "right" person for everyone, I can't imagine those who had more game in dating than I (which includes just about everyone) dated more than two or three such people.

    I stayed away from the "I'm X years old and tired of the dating scene, so I might as well settle down".

    Stay away from cliche sayings like "don't go to bed mad". If it works for you great, but our experience is the opposite. The few times we've argued,we go to bed mad, wake up civil, and in next few hours realize it just isn't worth the fight and come to a conclusion.

    I married a woman with a then 14 year old son. He participated in several of the activities I did in school. Seeing these from the perspective of a thirty-something was awesome.

     

    Fri, Jul 5, 2019 7:22 AM
    posted by like_that

    What's the secret sauce for you all who have been married for so long?  Especially for those who had kids.   I am happy to see ETB still married.  His posts during the early OC years were not that favorable for having kids. 

    Just to reiterate the two thing above. 

    1. Marry the right person. I don’t believe in the “only one soulmate” BS either. But if you marry the wrong person marriage is hell. If you marry the right person it is heaven with a few rough spots (even the best couples argue). 

     

    2. Decide to love each other and decide that divorce is NOT an option, period. Love is not an emotion, love is an action/verb. You choose to love that person and show love every day. Infatuation is an emotion, not love. 

    Fri, Jul 5, 2019 8:24 AM

    Dated my now wife for 4 years and have been married 30 years last May.

     

    The key in my opinion is to choose wisely.

    Sun, Jul 7, 2019 12:22 AM

    Married 4 years this past May. Today marked 8 years since we started dating, according to her.

    Mon, Jul 8, 2019 9:56 AM
    posted by Fab4Runner

    I don't have any issues remembering dates, and not just my anniversary. I have 6 siblings, plus in-laws and 4 nieces and nephews (so far) and I know everyone's birthday. I also know all 4 parent's, all grandparent's, etc. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    This...I have three kids and five grandchildren, and I remember all their birthdays and years they were born (and my DIL and SIL's as well), along with my kid's anniversary dates.

    Mon, Jul 8, 2019 10:01 AM

    June 30th ...... 46 Years this year 

     

    Mon, Jul 8, 2019 10:22 AM
    posted by Belly35

    June 30th ...... 46 Years this year

    BELLY!!!

    Mon, Jul 8, 2019 11:13 AM
    posted by Belly35

    June 30th ...... 46 Years this year 

     

    hey, buddy, welcome back--you got me by four years 

    Mon, Jul 8, 2019 11:47 AM

    Together for 46 years in December.

    Just celebrated our 40th Anniversary

    Mon, Jul 8, 2019 3:31 PM
    posted by wkfan

    Together for 46 years in December.

    Just celebrated our 40th Anniversary

    My wife and I meet in 1968 .... 51 years ago  ...because she was heading to college and I was headed to Vietnam ... time and distance makes the heart grow fonder

     

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