posted by AutomatikI have nothing to add to the OP
But this is funny to share...
My friend called off his marriage a week AFTER the engagement photos were taken and blasted all over the internet. He paid 30k for the ring, still hasn't gotten it back (and I don't think he will).
An attorney friend of mine told me when I was engaged that whoever gave the ring is entitled to get it back. Courts will rule in their favor, if needed.
posted by AutomatikI have nothing to add to the OP
But this is funny to share...
My friend called off his marriage a week AFTER the engagement photos were taken and blasted all over the internet. He paid 30k for the ring, still hasn't gotten it back (and I don't think he will).
LOL
Lol woah. Is your friend rich?
I wouldn't say "rich", but definitely well off and smart with his money.....until this happened.
His ex fiance's fam is loaded though. Rumor is they spent 20k+ on the fucking engagement party that was called off. I'm thinking that's why he hasn't fought much to get it back. It's a sensitive topic so I haven't really talked much about it with him.
He handled it in the absolute worst way though. He made the decision that he wanted out in the summer, but it took him months to sack up and break it off.
posted by AutomatikHe handled it in the absolute worst way though. He made the decision that he wanted out in the summer, but it took him months to sack up and break it off.
Should have waited until she took it off to do the dishes or something, then snatched that shit up. $30k is insane for a ring, even if you have the savings, unless you're making like $200k a year (and even then I still wouldn't personally)
100% agree. I wouldn't even consider being with, let alone marrying a girl that would get off to a 30k ring.
If a fiancé is not satisfied with say, a $6,000 ring, then my sense is things are probably not going to turn out well in the long run.
posted by OSHGave my wife my mom's first set. They upgraded after 10 years. I told my wife that was her option -- upgraded ring or hot tub. She'll get a hot tub.
Diamonds are a scam. Ain't no reason to put that much money into something that truly doesn't mean/do anything. I'll never allow my kids to do the same with a ring (2 girls and 1 boy). Young marriages could do so much more than spending thousands on a circular band.
Diamonds are not a scam. You’re just cheap and have no style. And LOL @ you thinking your son is going to listen to ANYTHING you say at that point. Hopefully he buys a nice diamond ring for his fiancé and doesn’t think like you do.
posted by j_crazygot mine at kohls, 70% off sale. paid $749 for the engagement ring and the wedding band combo. absolutely best decision ive ever made.
Is this for real? $749 ring? Why even buy a ring? Why not just propose to her and say “sorry honey I don’t have a ring because I don’t believe in spending money on my fiancé”
How much did you drop on a ring?
About $8,500
What's the amount needed to spend to show that you believe in spending money on your fiance? Does the 3 month salary rule apply?
posted by AutomatikWhat's the amount needed to spend to show that you believe in spending money on your fiance? Does the 3 month salary rule apply?
Guess that depends on who you're trying to impress, and where you buy it from. My ring, I bought from a client of mine who owns a jewelry store. He could have probably sold my ring for $10-12k in his store. So I knew I was getting a good diamond.
My fiance' wanted an oval diamond. So I was able to sacrifice a little on karat because oval's naturally pop out. I went highest possible quality on color (D), but little less on quality of the diamond--but you'd literally have to look through a microscope to see the imperfections on the ring. I was cool with that.
If you're ever in Chicago, let me know and i'll hook you up with this guy. He educates on what to look for, and then spends a few weeks looking for what you want. Sells it to you a few hundred bucks more than what he buys it for so that he can buy some blackhawks tickets or something for his kids. You know you're getting top quality at a fair price.
https://www.brilliantearth.com/rings/cyorings/purchase_review/?sid=1279023&did=6830005
looking at something like this..i am still a few months away from having the money aka. tax time and then i will adjust to the specific diamond i want. i would like to get a full carat center stone.
posted by SportsAndLadyDiamonds are not a scam. You’re just cheap and have no style. And LOL @ you thinking your son is going to listen to ANYTHING you say at that point. Hopefully he buys a nice diamond ring for his fiancé and doesn’t think like you do.
Do you work for big diamond?
posted by SportsAndLadyDiamonds are not a scam. You’re just cheap and have no style. And LOL @ you thinking your son is going to listen to ANYTHING you say at that point. Hopefully he buys a nice diamond ring for his fiancé and doesn’t think like you do.
Cheap? Sure. Not sure why that'd be a bad thing. Being sentimental isn't bad, nor is it "unstylish" if that's what you want.
If he wants to buy a nice ring, so be it. But, it'll be communicated the thoughts. My wife will do the same, as she doesn't think it's wise to drop that much money on a ring either. Same with our two girls, they'll understand the value of the marriage is bigger than anything a ring can buy.
posted by Automatik100% agree. I wouldn't even consider being with, let alone marrying a girl that would get off to a 30k ring.
Yeah that is insane.
Personally, I was not willing to spend thousands on a ring. Thankfully my wife has a similar value and didn't want an engagement ring so it was never an issue. I don't judge others that want a ring, more power to em!
Honestly out of my friends, I've had two instances where the guy wanted to buy an engagement ring and the women did not want one. To each their own.
posted by OSHAn attorney friend of mine told me when I was engaged that whoever gave the ring is entitled to get it back. Courts will rule in their favor, if needed.
ironically I was told by my son-in-law's sister (also an attorney) just the opposite--unless it's in writing
posted by Commander of AwesomeYeah that is insane.
Personally, I was not willing to spend thousands on a ring. Thankfully my wife has a similar value and didn't want an engagement ring so it was never an issue. I don't judge others that want a ring, more power to em!
Honestly out of my friends, I've had two instances where the guy wanted to buy an engagement ring and the women did not want one. To each their own.
It's way too early to tell in my situation, but I assume if I proposed with a 10k ring, she'd flip the fuck out. I'm somewhat materialistic, I spend money, I like nice things. She's the complete opposite.
posted by Commander of AwesomeDo you work for big diamond?
No. I knew jack shit about diamonds up until a year ago when I got engaged.
