posted by OSHCheap? Sure. Not sure why that'd be a bad thing. Being sentimental isn't bad, nor is it "unstylish" if that's what you want.
If he wants to buy a nice ring, so be it. But, it'll be communicated the thoughts. My wife will do the same, as she doesn't think it's wise to drop that much money on a ring either. Same with our two girls, they'll understand the value of the marriage is bigger than anything a ring can buy.
Yeah keep thinking that Lol
posted by geeblock
https://www.brilliantearth.com/rings/cyorings/purchase_review/?sid=1279023&did=6830005
looking at something like this..i am still a few months away from having the money aka. tax time and then i will adjust to the specific diamond i want. i would like to get a full carat center stone.
I might be in the minority, but I prefer just one big center stone and a thin, plain-ish band.
I'm gonna guess OSH has the type of woman who gives fuck all about flashing her ring to a group of friends and saying her fiance spent $xxx.
posted by Fab4RunnerI might be in the minority, but I prefer just one big center stone and a thin, plain-ish band.
i said the same thing and was intent on doing it anyway, but her bff has told me that would be a death sentence. My first marriage i bought a solitaire just one big $15,0000 diamond. (her parents gave me half the money).
posted by vball10setironically I was told by my son-in-law's sister (also an attorney) just the opposite--unless it's in writing
No idea about the legalities, but understood that the proper thing depended on who broke up with whom (if he ended it, she keeps the ring and vice versa).
I grew up thinking it was not classy to have anything but a single stone, but since im not the one wearing it...
posted by OSHAn attorney friend of mine told me when I was engaged that whoever gave the ring is entitled to get it back. Courts will rule in their favor, if needed.
Unless it's done on Christmas or birthday, or valentines day, or any day that it could be seen as a "gift." I can't verify this, but they were talking about it on the radio. Fake news?
Wow. I haven't looked at the cost of loving index for a while, that's for sure. Think I paid $200 at Roy's for a 1/4 carat engagement ring for Mrs. Z, that was 30 years ago. I may be a cheap bastard, but it WAS a diamond ring.
Four years later, paid about $1000 for diamond "wrap" for the first ring. Told me wife that was it on the diamonds, they'd have to last her a long time.
Sports, if you want to drop that kinda coin on a ring, that's all you. Who am I to judge you for doing that? But who TF are you to judge others for not basing their love on an expensive material possession? What's next? You going to buy fully loaded Benz over a more practical car (for the wife), just b/c more money = more love?
posted by geeblockI grew up thinking it was not classy to have anything but a single stone, but since im not the one wearing it...
I don't think it's not classy, it's just personal preference.
posted by SportsAndLadyYeah keep thinking that Lol
Will do! Thanks.
posted by queencitybuckeyeNo idea about the legalities, but understood that the proper thing depended on who broke up with whom (if he ended it, she keeps the ring and vice versa).
There is a lot to this. Conditional/unconditional gift meanings.
Good breakdown here -- https://www.primermagazine.com/2013/learn/legally-speaking-who-gets-the-engagement-ring-if-the-wedding-is-called-off
posted by ernest_t_bassSports, if you want to drop that kinda coin on a ring, that's all you. Who am I to judge you for doing that? But who TF are you to judge others for not basing their love on an expensive material possession? What's next? You going to buy fully loaded Benz over a more practical car (for the wife), just b/c more money = more love?
Why do you guys keep saying basing love off of a ring? It has nothing to do with love. You’re just buying an asset. You’re not throwing away money when you buy a ring.
The only judgment I’ve had is cracking fun at someone for spending $750 on a ring. At that point, you might as well just not buy a ring.
posted by SportsAndLadyYou’re just buying an asset. You’re not throwing away money when you buy a ring.
Unless you're planning on selling, you may be right in theory, but not as a practical matter.
posted by queencitybuckeyeNo idea about the legalities, but understood that the proper thing depended on who broke up with whom (if he ended it, she keeps the ring and vice versa).
you'd think that'd be the case, but it doesn't always work out that way
Let's be real here. The only reason to spend a lot on a ring is so the woman can tell her friends and family, which some will translate to the "omg he spent that, he must really love you!"
The key is to find someone who doesn't value what I just quoted, which is rare these days.
posted by SportsAndLadyIs this for real? $749 ring? Why even buy a ring? Why not just propose to her and say “sorry honey I don’t have a ring because I don’t believe in spending money on my fiancé”
100% true. the ring means dick, what the ring stands for means everything. we both thought and think that. my ring was a $150 POS that i lost after like 2 months, we replaced it with a heavier ring that i have kept, but 90% of the time i wear nothing.
posted by AutomatikLet's be real here and I'll reiterate. The only reason to spend a lot on a ring is so the woman can tell her friends and family, which some will translate to the "omg he spent that, he must really love you!"
The key is to find someone who doesn't value what I just quoted, which is rare these days.
I don’t think so at all (your last sentence). Why is it so bad that my fiancé gets happy that I spent money on a ring so that she can flaunt it around (when asked..she wouldn’t do it unless asked about it)? My fiancé didn’t ask for an expensive ring, I got her one because I knew it would make her happy
I think ETB’s and OSH’s problem is they think it’s a waste to buy something expensive for their SO, whereas I want to becuase it makes her happy.
I had no idea what my husband spent on my ring until 6 months after he proposed, and that was only because I lost it (😳😩) and we had to deal with the insurance company and jeweler to get a new one.
Cost didn't matter to me. What made me happiest was that he helped design it.
Of course she didn't ask, but I'd bet every dollar I have that she implied and dropped hints along the way.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to flaunt it. I'd prefer to be with someone who wasn't that way. I'd take that 10k and travel the world. Different strokes.....
