Fab1b wrote:

UA5straightin2008 wrote:

UA5straightin2008 wrote: LOL

my nick name is "eggs" everyone calls me it...ill let you guess my last name

Over easy?

iluvz wrote:

Con_Alma wrote: ^^^^

No that's not it at all. Good God! ...talk about an overreaction!

Its not? What exactly is it then. Some controlling non-optional condition that a woman must do? Because a majority of you are saying no way, and absolutely not. So what, a woman is supposed to change a big portion of what has defined her her entire life, but as men you're not willing to compromise and let her keep part of that with a hyphenization? The minute a man tried to tell me absolutely not, and this goes for anything, would be the minute he'd be out the door.

sherm03 wrote:

LJ wrote:

sherm03 wrote:

LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?

LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.

With her reasoning being what it is, you better double check on that one

So the kid issue is actually what changed her mind here. Last night, we had a good talk. I explained that I understand why she wants to keep her name, and also expressed why it is important to me for her to take my name. I asked if our kids were going to have the hyphenated name and she said no. I think that's when it clicked for her. Me, and our children, will all have one last name...while hers would be different. I don't think she had thought about the kids, and once she realized that her name would be different than her child(ren)'s...she wasn't as big of a fan of it.

LJ wrote:

sherm03 wrote:

LJ wrote:

sherm03 wrote:

LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?

LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.

With her reasoning being what it is, you better double check on that one

So the kid issue is actually what changed her mind here. Last night, we had a good talk. I explained that I understand why she wants to keep her name, and also expressed why it is important to me for her to take my name. I asked if our kids were going to have the hyphenated name and she said no. I think that's when it clicked for her. Me, and our children, will all have one last name...while hers would be different. I don't think she had thought about the kids, and once she realized that her name would be different than her child(ren)'s...she wasn't as big of a fan of it.

Glad I could be of service.

dwccrew wrote: Doesn't the family name end with her regardless? The children bore out of this union will have your last name, correct? Also, I know many women that want their children to have the same last name as them.

Unless the plan would be to give them the hyphenated name as well.

sherm03 wrote:

LJ wrote:

sherm03 wrote:

LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?

LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.

With her reasoning being what it is, you better double check on that one

So the kid issue is actually what changed her mind here. Last night, we had a good talk. I explained that I understand why she wants to keep her name, and also expressed why it is important to me for her to take my name. I asked if our kids were going to have the hyphenated name and she said no. I think that's when it clicked for her. Me, and our children, will all have one last name...while hers would be different. I don't think she had thought about the kids, and once she realized that her name would be different than her child(ren)'s...she wasn't as big of a fan of it.

The taking of the man's last name is just a tradition that I have always liked. I've always felt that when a woman hyphenates her last name, it's almost as if she doesn't want to be identified as a couple with her husband. I absolutely hate coming across a couple where the woman has hyphenated her name because you can't say, "hi, Mr. and Mrs. Smith." Instead, you have to fumble around with "hi, Mr. Smith and Mrs. Jones-Smith." It's not a fatal flaw, it's not a huge issue, it's just a tradition that I've always appreciated and hoped would carry on. In much the same way, my girl would have been upset if I did not ask her dad's permission to propose. She would probably still marry me, but she would be disappointed. The name change is the same thing for me. I'd still marry her, but I would be disappointed.

Some of you are acting like I'm some crazy misogynist. I'm not. I just like this tradition, and was asking if anyone else felt the same way.

cbus4life wrote: My fiancee will be keeping her last name. I'm absolutely fine with that.

P.S. Going along with the "what do you hate" thread, i'll throw the use of the term "your girl" into the mix as well.

FunFun7 wrote: Since customs got brought up, what happens when two gays are allowed to get married? Is it a coin toss to determine the douche?

iclfan2 wrote: What are your kids last name going to be? Honest question.

As for me, it will be my last name, and any guy that takes the last name of his wife is a douche.

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iclfan2 wrote:

cbus4life wrote: My fiancee will be keeping her last name. I'm absolutely fine with that.

P.S. Going along with the "what do you hate" thread, i'll throw the use of the term "your girl" into the mix as well.

What are your kids last name going to be? Honest question.

As for me, it will be my last name, and any guy that takes the last name of his wife is a douche.