lhslep134;1453771 wrote:FWIW, all joking aside, IMO Kobe didn't rape her. He cheated on his wife with her, and she tried to extort money from him by crying rape.
lhslep134;1453771 wrote:FWIW, all joking aside, IMO Kobe didn't rape her. He cheated on his wife with her, and she tried to extort money from him by crying rape.
First, been a long ass day (being up and around at whatever time I posted earlier isn't my thing), so if I'm less coherent than usual, it's tiredness as opposed to drunkenness.
The Kobe thing confuses me because there were so many mixed signals coming from so many sides. Hell there was his own comments from after charges were dropped (swiped from Wiki) "Although I truly believe this encounter between us was consensual, I recognize now that she did not and does not view this incident the same way I did. After months of reviewing discovery, listening to her attorney, and even her testimony in person, I now understand how she feels that she did not consent to this encounter."
That kinda led me to at least believe it might have gone the route of a consenting encounter that went farther than she'd like. I do remember, solely due to the hilarity of the comment, that in his testimony, Kobe made a comment about putting it up the ass because that's what he does. Might not have been her thing, though, so part of the lawsuit was based on getting something other than what she wanted. Or not.
To tie that in with Ben, when it comes to the two cases I know about (CoA said three, but I don't know of that third one and my lazy glance at Wiki only mentioned two unless I was so lazy I completely missed one...if anyone actually has a link to the third, I'd at least be interested in reading it), my honest feelings are this.
1. The chick in the hotel was looking to extort. I don't recall anything particularly trustworthy about her, but do recall testimony from a coworker saying she was talking about doing him and not in the rape way before any complaint was ever made.
2. The bar chick, I think, was along the lines with what I inferred from that Kobe quote. They went into the bathroom, she got cold feet (because, you know, bar bathroom sex...), he kept going, the general drunkenness of the night wound up making it hard to get stories straight and whatnot in order to get enough evidence to file charges.
So personal opinion is that he probably did commit one rape and at least I'm usually grounded enough to not let emotions guide me in this sort of thing. Just hard for me to say something definitely happened and go forward with 100% certainty when neither incident is remotely cut-and-dry IMO.