Raw Dawgin' it;1162239 wrote:Translation - "I give vague answers on what my faith and beliefs tell me to do but in reality i have no idea what i would do and most likely would move on"

Con_Alma;1162246 wrote:Happiness comes from giving to the one you love. Giving the woman I vowed my life to the care and continued needed oversight of her medical needs is not a recipe of a miserable life.

Con_Alma;1162256 wrote:It's not a vague answer. I am legally her husband. The relationship does not legally end.

like_that;1162254 wrote:It would be interesting to see what would happen if Con_Alm's other half banged another guy. Would he tell his his relationship isnt over, but it has "changed?" What if she passes away at a young age in your marriage? I guess you can't find happiness anymore.

like_that;1162258 wrote:You can end that legal contract once she doesnt know who you are and she is banging other guys. You are contradicting yourself and going back and forth.

Manhattan Buckeye;1162257 wrote:So sayeth someone who's spouse (assumedly) doesn't have Alzheimer's. Even in my limited experience with it, it was pretty obvious that it would drive a spouse nuts - which it did with my wife's grandfather. I don't think he even spoke to her in the year leading up to his death, and they had been married for over 50 years. It was that painful for him. He was worn out and tired and probably just wanted to die himself, and I could see where it came from. Heck, spending just 30 minutes a day for a few days a year was painful enough for my wife and me.

Manhattan Buckeye;1162257 wrote:So sayeth someone who's spouse (assumedly) doesn't have Alzheimer's. Even in my limited experience with it, it was pretty obvious that it would drive a spouse nuts - which it did with my wife's grandfather. I don't think he even spoke to her in the year leading up to his death, and they had been married for over 50 years. It was that painful for him. He was worn out and tired and probably just wanted to die himself, and I could see where it came from. Heck, spending just 30 minutes a day for a few days a year was painful enough for my wife and me.

Con_Alma;1162260 wrote:If my wife were unfaithful would I still be married to her?

If she passed away would I still be married to her?

Those are your answers.

Raw Dawgin' it;1162262 wrote:Con_Alma says he's a better person for giving up in the face of hardship. He would not walk away from a legal contract no matter what the circumstances. Your wifes grandfather clearly did not respect his vows.

Con_Alma;1162267 wrote:I have never spoke of being better or worse than anyone else.

Con_Alma;1162246 wrote:Happiness comes from giving to the one you love. Giving the woman I vowed my life to the care and continued needed oversight of her medical needs is not a recipe of a miserable life.

Raw Dawgin' it;1162265 wrote:I may not always answer questions, but when i do i answer with a vague question.

Con_Alma;1162264 wrote:How can I speak from any other perspective than from someone who is not currently in this position.

Con_Alma;1162272 wrote:If my wife were unfaithful I would still be her husband.

If my wife died I would no longer be her husband.

Raw Dawgin' it;1162268 wrote:Do you know what the word imply means?

like_that;1162274 wrote:SMH.

ernest_t_bass;1162275 wrote:LOL at you guys picking Con_alma apart for his stance on this. Why do you guys have such a problem with his stance? He doesn't have a problem with your stance. He's only defending his own.

Can't believe I just did that...

Manhattan Buckeye;1162273 wrote:Empathy. Or if not empathy, the idea that being in a certain situation, and in this case an EXTREME situation, may cause one to question a belief system they may hold unquestionable.

friendfromlowry;1162270 wrote:The question wasn't "Your altered mental status wife is having sex with another man, because she doesn't know any better. Should you pretend she doesn't exist anymore?" The question was, "Your wife has found happiness, so should you also?"
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Con_Alma;1162277 wrote:Are you suggesting I would not legally be her husband because she was unfaithful?

like_that;1162283 wrote:Yes, the "legal contract" should be terminated.

Con_Alma;1162286 wrote:It's not, however. You may think that it should be but I am responding to the question based on the fact that the contract is still in place and I committed to it for life even when disastrous sickness in involved.

like_that;1162288 wrote:So you will still remain faithful to your wife even if she bangs 5 guys behind your back, all because of a contract?