thavoice;1040212 wrote:I think it is different. As a step parent ya dont always have the last say in it to the kid. "Well my dad lets me......" and it is like many times they feel like they have two diff sets of rules and values.
It can be hard enough for two regular parents to be on the same page about things, but when the kid also has a dad of his own, maybe even a step mom, the kid has too many diff sets.
I understand how that can happen and unfortunately I think my family is in the minority when it comes to the step parents role. But my stepdad has always provided for us just like we were his own children. We lived under his roof and followed his rules (and I still do, actually). I could never see myself telling him no in his own home. Do we get in fights? Yes. Do I say I don't want to do something he asks me once in a while? Of course. But like I said...his house, his rules. When I am at my dads house...it's his rules. It may sound complicated, but it really, truly isn't. It's actually really, really easy and makes a lot of sense to me.