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Sykotyk

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Aug 20, 2010 1:10 PM
To follow up everyone else.

Definitely not normal or appropriate. And if she doesn't realize that, it's because she's quite enjoying the time with another man. Whether things are going on or not.
Aug 20, 2010 1:10pm
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Aug 20, 2010 1:15 PM
I have no problem with my boyfriend hanging out with a close friend that happens to be a girl. When we live together or even in the same city I definitely feel like we would just all go out together. Even so, if he wanted to hang out with her and I couldn't go I wouldn't stop him. He has several female friends that he is very close to and has been since high school and I am not going to come between that. I like them, they like me and I trust them. I really never even put any thought into it other than that.
Aug 20, 2010 1:15pm
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Aug 20, 2010 1:19 PM
Slinking in the house at 5 a.m. or even 9 a.m.??? Are you kidding me? Spending the night at a single guys house?? Hell no. Play dates and dinner with a single guy?? This woman is out of her mind. None of this appropriate behavior for a married person - be it man or woman! To your friend, I say grab the kids and run, run away! NOW!
Aug 20, 2010 1:19pm
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iluvz

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Aug 20, 2010 1:21 PM
I'd say there is a pretty vast difference in circumstance there though Fab4. I have no problem w/ my guy hanging out with his female friends either. But I also know them, and he's not going out getting hammered with them once or twice a week and spending the night at their houses while we have kids at home.
Aug 20, 2010 1:21pm
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Aug 20, 2010 1:26 PM
iluvz;457101 wrote:I'd say there is a pretty vast difference in circumstance there though Fab4. I have no problem w/ my guy hanging out with his female friends either. But I also know them, and he's not going out getting hammered with them once or twice a week and spending the night at their houses while we have kids at home.

I agree. I think what this woman is doing is wrong. I was just commenting on the conversation about men or women hanging out with friends of the opposite sex.
Aug 20, 2010 1:26pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Aug 20, 2010 1:28 PM
Guys don't hang out with girls thatthey wouldn't have sex with.
Aug 20, 2010 1:28pm
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Aug 20, 2010 1:58 PM
Fab4Runner;457097 wrote:I have no problem with my boyfriend hanging out with a close friend that happens to be a girl. When we live together or even in the same city I definitely feel like we would just all go out together. Even so, if he wanted to hang out with her and I couldn't go I wouldn't stop him. He has several female friends that he is very close to and has been since high school and I am not going to come between that. I like them, they like me and I trust them. I really never even put any thought into it other than that.

Its a huge difference when you know them, and LIKE them.
Aug 20, 2010 1:58pm
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Aug 20, 2010 2:13 PM
your friend should bang her sister and her mom....at the same time.
Aug 20, 2010 2:13pm
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Bigdogg

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Aug 20, 2010 2:32 PM
wes_mantooth;457155 wrote:your friend should bang her sister and her mom....at the same time.

Better then the tramp he is with now.
Aug 20, 2010 2:32pm
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Speedofsand

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Aug 20, 2010 2:38 PM
I'd take my electric tongue to another vagina
Aug 20, 2010 2:38pm
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thereddragin

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Aug 20, 2010 2:51 PM
Be worried...
Aug 20, 2010 2:51pm
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jmog

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Aug 20, 2010 2:54 PM
She's definitely cheating, so your friend should only be worried if he cares if his wife is cheating.

This would NOT fly in my house, either way if it was myw ife going out, or me going out.
Aug 20, 2010 2:54pm
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Aug 20, 2010 2:58 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;457109 wrote:Guys don't hang out with girls thatthey wouldn't have sex with.

Precisely. From a dude's point of view and from personal experience, I'm not having consistent play-dates involving my hypothetical kid(s), her kid(s) and her AND regularly drinking with her and letting her party and/or crash at my place unless (a) I'm tapping her or (b) at least in my mind, I'm on the verge of tapping her. If none of that's going on or "in the works" potentially going on, I'm wasting time I could be using to flirt/hang out/party with women more receptive to my goals.
Aug 20, 2010 2:58pm
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Big_Mirg_ZHS

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Aug 20, 2010 6:02 PM
Ill tell that to the old lady tonight Gerb!! Tell her you said we could as long as i didnt kiss her. Does this include down south too buddy?
Aug 20, 2010 6:02pm
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Aug 20, 2010 9:30 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;457109 wrote:Guys don't hang out with girls thatthey wouldn't have sex with.

It takes Zwick to be the voice of reason in this thread.
Aug 20, 2010 9:30pm
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Aug 20, 2010 10:42 PM
fan_from_texas;457039 wrote:Essentially going out on dates with an opposite-sex friend while still in a meaningful relationship creates a number of potential problems that often have long-term negative effects.

If you're 17 and dating someone, sure, I think it's fine to hang out with opposite-sex friends. If you're 30 and married, it's probably a bad idea to be spending significant amounts of time one-on-one with an opposite-sex confidante. I'm willing to bet that the vast majority of affairs started as two opposite-sex friends hanging out together. In theory, it shouldn't pose a problem, but in practice, it rarely ends well.
Bingo! I am 37. I do remember the days when I was in college and shortly thereafter where I hung out with girls of the opposite sex. When the years go by and you are married and have children; it just does not happen anymore. I know nobody in the later demographic who hang out with the opposite sex on a one on one basis while the spouse sits at home. It just does not happen. The is a fairly good reason for it--- you either eventually have sex with the person or one of the parties really wants to and ends up causing other problems at home and ending the friendship. There are just different issues at play when one is married versus just having a BF/GF that you do not live with or have kids with.

The human psyche is a crazy thing. I am guessing the woman is a) wondering if other guys find her attractive still b) is going through a quasi-midlife crisis after realizing she is now married with two children with all of these responsibilities c) looking for an escape from the relationship d) just wanting a little strange.

Bottom line: Your friend's wife is screwing the guy or at the very least sucking his schlong.
Aug 20, 2010 10:42pm
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Aug 20, 2010 10:51 PM
Big_Mirg_ZHS;457304 wrote:Ill tell that to the old lady tonight Gerb!! Tell her you said we could as long as i didnt kiss her. Does this include down south too buddy?

You know what they say about a snowballs chance in hell
Aug 20, 2010 10:51pm
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Aug 20, 2010 10:58 PM
gorocks99;456894 wrote:Her vagina is getting pounded into another dimension, no doubt. The only question is, can this guy man up and solve the problem, or will he be stuck making his own sandwiches while his wife wakes up half the block in the throes of passion?

Somebody should post the hot dog in the alley picture. HAHA
Aug 20, 2010 10:58pm
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Aug 20, 2010 11:20 PM
Glory Days;456837 wrote:although i do have a female best friend who i have gone on trips with just me and her and slept in the same bed together. we've never messed around or anything. my last gf wasnt too thrilled(then again, she still stayed in contact with her ex), my current one doesnt mind.
Umm maybe its just me, but if I was that girls bf I'd be like what the hell. That's weird dude.
Aug 20, 2010 11:20pm
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Aug 21, 2010 2:42 AM
Not acceptable in a marriage. My gf and I live together, and we both still hang out with friends of the opposite sex; sometimes we take the other one along, sometimes we don't, but she knows the couple girls I hang out with and knows we're not doing anything on the side, and I know the dudes she hangs out with and I trust them too (mostly nerdy dudes who can't umm, do the damn thing like what she has at home :))so we currently don't worry too much about it. But there is NO WAY in hell if we ever get married and have kids that I would put up with her going out and getting hammered with two young children and staying at some dude's house. I'd tell her from now on, to call me and I'll come get her when she's ready to leave the bar and drive her home. And as previously suggested, I would tag along/drop in on these "playdates" and see for myself what's really going on. If she has a problem with any of that, or acts strangely about it, I would seriously get a PI. Your friend needs to get to the bottom of it and get it over with, because the longer it drags out, the more the stress and wondering is going to get to him. Good or bad, he needs to know. Marriage is the most serious, committed level of a relationship you can be in, and I'm sorry, but sleeping at another guy's house, especially with him being single, is not acceptable EVER unless her husband is there with her.
Aug 21, 2010 2:42am
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Aug 21, 2010 6:29 AM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;457109 wrote:Guys don't hang out with girls thatthey wouldn't have sex with.

TRUTH.
Aug 21, 2010 6:29am
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Aug 21, 2010 9:15 AM
Bang that hooer and eliminate all questions. Bros before hoes.
Aug 21, 2010 9:15am
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Aug 21, 2010 6:27 PM
If it's time to get a PI, it's time to say bye bye. Save your money on the PI and just add it to the divorce or defense attorney.
Aug 21, 2010 6:27pm
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Aug 21, 2010 8:57 PM
sounds like your friend needs the services of this guy...



Hope it doesn't end up like the episode where the dude got aught with a shemale dominaitrix
Aug 21, 2010 8:57pm
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Aug 21, 2010 9:03 PM
Or the episode where the host gets shot.
Aug 21, 2010 9:03pm