What’s the Hold Up?

posted by FatHobbit

Are we talking one night stand, relationship or marriage here? 

1. Smoking is annoying but i would definitely bang or date a chick who smoked

2. Not working sucks. I would still bang or date someone who didn't work. But i wouldn't support them. Also my wife is a relatively hard worker but she doesn't like having a "real" job. She is a stay at home mom and she teaches esl to Chinese kids online. It doesn't pay much and the fact she doesn't want a job pisses me off too. We have 2 kids and she does take care of them but somehow she thinks I don't pull my weight with the kids. She's God damned right i let her do all the shitty kid stuff. I'm up for the fun stuff but i have no issue handing her a kid with a shitty diaper or letting her deal with them at night. We didn't actually talk about this before we got married, but she finished her teaching degree right before we got married so i assumed she would work.  She was a sub for about 6 months and then a long term sub for another 6 months. The school she was subbing at changed principals and a big chunk of the teachers left. She could have applied for a full time job, but she got pregnant with our first kid and she said she was done working full time.  Which was complete bull shit because i got laid off that summer and it would have been awesome if we had benefits when our son was born. (But it was also super convenient because there were issues with the pregnancy and i was available 24/7 to take care of her and drive her to Dr appointments) Anyway... rant over...

I would not care about height, chest size or a little overweight. 

Damn, didn’t mean to bring up any touchy subjects...just a little convo about lazy, smokin, heavy, short, flat chested chicks lol

What about a smokin' body and absolute butter face vs. cute and 40 lbs overweight and flat chested?

posted by gut

What about a smokin' body and absolute butter face vs. cute and 40 lbs overweight and flat chested?

I’d take the butter face and hope good makeup and hairstyles can help out.

40 lbs and flat chested is funny....I call those FNB (fat no boobs)

posted by Ironman92

I’d take the butter face and hope good makeup and hairstyles can help out.

40 lbs and flat chested is funny....I call those FNB (fat no boobs)

That was my initial thinking....but then I went with dietician, trainer and boob job.

I should have probably said neither issue is remotely fixable to make it tougher.

posted by Verbal Kint

IMPO with a grain of salt and not knowing anying beyond what was posted.  Appears rant justified, but I see her point of view, but if it extended past when the youngest hit first grade, major problems.

 

I think it's probably something we should have talked about before we got married and we both just assumed. We were in a long distance relationship for about two years while she finished school and it was tough, but i just assumed she wanted to finish school (which was super smart on her part) because she wanted to work. Lol SURPRISE!

posted by Ironman92

Damn, didn’t mean to bring up any touchy subjects...just a little convo about lazy, smokin, heavy, short, flat chested chicks lol

 Lol might have hit a nerve

posted by gut

What about a smokin' body and absolute butter face vs. cute and 40 lbs overweight and flat chested?

Butter face and smoking body all day long!

Butter face > Butter body

posted by Ironman92

Woman has a beautiful face in your opinion

Rank these potential hold ups in order from whoa to meh...whatever

* 25 lbs overweight

* too tall or too short by 2+ inches

* smokes a pack of cigs a day

* flat chested 

* no job and not looking

Won't work.

Smoker.

Rest don't matter much

1. No job and not looking. Deal-breaker except in rare instances like if she inherited a shit-ton of money and doesn't need to work. That is, if we're talking serious relationship stuff; if it's a short-term fling, this is a DGAF thing.

2. Flat. I like curves.

3. 25 lb overweight. Curves, not spheres. That and chest aren't deal-breakers if she's really cool or fun to be around, but I have my preferences.

4. Height/smoking. Not really important at all.