mexappeal12 wrote:
well i am not sure if this is directed at me or just in general to women but i never said anything about what i expected out of him... i am actually not making a huge deal out of v-day i just wanted to see if anyone has any good ideas ...i am not a flowers girl (they die and then i get to clean the nasty vase) or even jewelery it is just awkward unless you are for sure heading towards marriage... my bf doesnt do anything he doesnt want to do and i shouldnt be expected to either.... getting it up the pooper isnt something i would qualify as out of my comfort zone type of thing..i would qualify it as a never going to happen why would i ever do anything that hurts and doesnt feel good (i dont have a prostate men do and thats why it feels good for guys)... if he wants me to do something outside of my comfort zone like see a horror movie or i dunno something that wouldnt make me feel violated then i would... i consider up the pooper a little different
i mean guys would you take it up the butt? i mean c'mon just go outside your comfort zone it isnt a big deal, right? (hmmm i am sure you wouldnt do it either)
It was in general. Well you never really know how it would make you feel until you do it.
Your second point is correct. However, there is a difference between a girl taking it up the pooper and a guy taking a finger. It is pleasurable for a guy to give it to the girl. It is not pleasurable for the girl to give it to the guy. So there is somewhat of a difference.
But if guys expect that then they should be willing to take a finger in return.