I Wear Pants wrote:
If you think most poor people want to be poor than you are an idiot and nothing I can say can help to change your mind or make you have more mental capacity.
I think "want," or even "choose," is too strong a word. Those are both volitional. What I think it really boils down to is apathy.
There ARE many people who are on welfare because they recognize that getting out of it will be the more difficult road to travel, and they honestly don't care enough about getting out to put that extra burden on themselves.
I live in a neighborhood where there is a LOT of poverty. I work with dozens and dozens of kids who live in households (can't call many of them "families" because of how they function ... or don't function) that are below the welfare line.
Some of the parents are working, but they are extremely limited in their own marketability because they did get pregnant (or get a girl pregnant) while in high school. While that is absolutely a choice, it is the choice of a fifteen- or sixteen-year-old child, who in many cases was never told about the repercussions of such actions. Hell, their parents don't care. Most of their teachers don't care. So they don't even learn to think ahead far enough to take their careers into consideration.
And as was stated earlier, there are cases of white, middle- or upper-class kids who knock up their girlfriends or get knocked up themselves as well (Bristol?). Their parents simply have the assets to help overcome that.
Many of the adults in my neighborhood would do things differently if they could go back and finish high school and/or go to college, because now they see the ramifications of their actions as middle teens. However, because nobody cared enough to TELL them about those ramifications WHILE they were middle teens, they didn't act with those consequences in mind while they were younger.
There are a lot of them who have simply reserved themselves to the idea that those actions they made earlier have determined where they are now ... that they are set in stone ... and thus, they don't even consider the notion of getting out of poverty as a reality.
chs71 wrote:People make decisions regarding school, drug use, pregnancy, and crime that cause their poverty.
Ask your average fifteen-year-old what they think about school. MOST don't want to be there, whether they are a suburbanite whose parents love and are able to take care of them or they are an urbanite whose father is gone and whose mother spends more nights at her boyfriend's house than she does at home with her teen or preteen kids, who basically live on their own while she's gone. I know I didn't want to be there.
However, I had parents who made sure I went. They made sure to explain to me why I had to go. They watched, and cared about, the grades I got.
It's a good thing, too. I was fifteen. I didn't give two piss squirts about most of those things.
Now, if I'd had parents who didn't care whether or not I went to school, never told me why it was important, and never spurred me to get good grades, what motivation would I have had to graduate with honors ... or even at all?
Maturity level needs to come into play when discussing this issue. Were the mistakes made while the person was young and immature, but the person has since developed a necessary work ethic and desire to climb out of their bad circumstances? If so, SOMEONE needs to help them get on their feet.
However, if the person is perpetuating their state, they should not be aided, as they are callously and ungratefully using other people's money to fund their own lazy lifestyle.
To paint "the poor" with a single brush ... or even a couple brushes ... though, is foolish, and would only be done by someone who doesn't know enough about the spectrum of the poor in society.