se-alum wrote:
Here's a question. What do you draw the line between being whipped and being a good bf/gf?
Being respectful and nice to each other, and thinking about the other person's feelings is one thing; if you've ever seen someone that's truly 'whipped' it is completely different. In the case of the OP's situation, I would have no problem going and getting milk for my gf if she asked me nicely to do so, or if she asked if I would wanna ride with her to go get it etc. That's not a problem, because a question gives YOU the option to say what you WANT to do. The OP's scenario sounds like she's bitched at him so much in the past about not going to get her stuff like that as soon as she says "jump", that he's trained to do it now.
It's one thing to ask your significant other to do a favor for you, or to go get you something, it's quite another to just expect it as soon as you say it (and then get mad if they don't say "how high?" when she says "jump"). My gf knows that I'll generally do most things she asks me to do, if she does so nicely. And I do the same for her. We have a good relationship that way. I wouldn't put up with it for one second if she constantly expected me to do/get everything she needed without asking like I'm her servant; and I don't expect her to do things like that for me. We have that understanding, and she knows where I stand on stuff like that, and I know where she stands so luckily, we don't have to deal with things like this hardly ever. It's all about setting certain boundaries and standard parts of your relationships from the beginning, and reenforcing those when necessary. She's always known since our relationship began that if she asks, I'll likely do it for her. If she's demanding, she can do it her damn self. And I respect her the same way, by asking nicely (not demanding) and not getting mad at each other if the other person says they don't really want to do something.
So that's how I see a good healthy relationship, and being a good bf/gf.