Heard it? I'VE TRIED IT! Lol2quik4u wrote: you never heard of beating it out of them?
hahaGoChiefs wrote:Heard it? I'VE TRIED IT! Lol2quik4u wrote: you never heard of beating it out of them?
He wont even answer his phone, I've left him about a dozen msgs.No snow we go! wrote: Rather than kicking his ass (which would feel good,) I think it would be better to talk to him.
1. If you want to cut him loose from your life, tell him why he can no longer be a negative drain on your life. And give him a lucid well thought out list of reasons why you are cutting him loose.
2. If you want to salvage the relationship, tell him why you are struggling dealing with his issues and how it negatively impacts your life. Also provide another list of requirements necessary for him to maintain a relationship with you. If he fails, he can no longer be in your life.
You need to decide what you want to do.
Best wishes... It is never easy, but nothing in life worth a damn comes easy.
In that case:Trueblue23 wrote:He wont even answer his phone, I've left him about a dozen msgs.No snow we go! wrote: Rather than kicking his ass (which would feel good,) I think it would be better to talk to him.
1. If you want to cut him loose from your life, tell him why he can no longer be a negative drain on your life. And give him a lucid well thought out list of reasons why you are cutting him loose.
2. If you want to salvage the relationship, tell him why you are struggling dealing with his issues and how it negatively impacts your life. Also provide another list of requirements necessary for him to maintain a relationship with you. If he fails, he can no longer be in your life.
You need to decide what you want to do.
Best wishes... It is never easy, but nothing in life worth a damn comes easy.
Yep, exactly.Fab1b wrote: That may be all you need to know then bro, he doesn't even have the balls to talk with you over the phone.
Yeah man I know who you're talkin about. That's too bad it's come to this. I remember you being good to him in high school. I know it'll be hard to cut all ties, especially in WCH, but they may be for the best.Trueblue23 wrote: Firad knows this guy, and he probably knows who I'm talking about from this thread.
Thatta boy!Fab1b wrote: Trulz I hear ya man
I've had this problem and have had to burn those bridges. Completely cut him off. It's hard to do, emotionally , but you can't let someone take advantage of you.Trueblue23 wrote:Thanks Fab.Fab1b wrote: Sometimes you have to cut your losses and walk away. If this cat was like a brother to you ne wouldn't do whatever it is he has been doing to push you this far!!
It sucks because I think of my good friends as family, and it sucks to lose a brother. This dude is basically a piece of shit though. He has screwed himself, his mom and his grandparents over financially. He is 21 years old and about to file bankruptcy.
WOW Fab, I've lurked, and respected your posts for quite a while, but I cannot imagine doing this, and really really respect you now.Fab1b wrote: Let me share a little something with you about this situation, I had to cut my ties with my real brother and that hurt my friend. My brother can't get off the drugs and it ended up costing him his family. A few years ago when my ex wife and I split I took the opportunity, against my better judgement to let my troubled brother move in with me. I thought I could fix the problem. I did for a short period of time, I had him working, paying his bills, hanging with my friends, etc....for about 5 - 6 months. Had his drug use mainly down to pot and that was keeping him out of trouble. Well one weekend he brings this chick home and they don't leave his bedroom for 3 days straight, I know right then something is up. After those three days he stayed confined to his room with this chick, wasn't going to work, stopped paying his bills. Stole from my mother (who at the time was killing herself between her full time job and caring for my very ill father who was slowly dying) and stole from me. Then he took off, didn't hear from him for weeks sometimes months. Wouldn't visit my father, etc....Then in Oct 06 my father passed and we had no way of contacting him. Well my sister shot off an email and he showed back up with this chick, but the first question was about insurance money! I loved my brother to death but I had to cut all ties from him, I couldn't do it anymore and my poor mother damn sure didn't need the stress and I wanted to kill him for the pain he causes. Getting my mother to cut ties was the hardest part, I mean how does a mother do that, but she had too. I haven't talked to my brother since Beanie Wells scored the opening TD in the OSU/LSU championship game when he called me out the blue right after that TD. I don't and won't talk to him ever again. That wasn't my true brother in my eyes, my friends I grew up with my whole life, they are my brothers!! I share this because I know where you are at my friend, but cutting the losses sometimes is what has to be done!
some strong stuff in here, you did what you had to doFab1b wrote: Let me share a little something with you about this situation, I had to cut my ties with my real brother and that hurt my friend. My brother can't get off the drugs and it ended up costing him his family. A few years ago when my ex wife and I split I took the opportunity, against my better judgement to let my troubled brother move in with me. I thought I could fix the problem. I did for a short period of time, I had him working, paying his bills, hanging with my friends, etc....for about 5 - 6 months. Had his drug use mainly down to pot and that was keeping him out of trouble. Well one weekend he brings this chick home and they don't leave his bedroom for 3 days straight, I know right then something is up. After those three days he stayed confined to his room with this chick, wasn't going to work, stopped paying his bills. Stole from my mother (who at the time was killing herself between her full time job and caring for my very ill father who was slowly dying) and stole from me. Then he took off, didn't hear from him for weeks sometimes months. Wouldn't visit my father, etc....Then in Oct 06 my father passed and we had no way of contacting him. Well my sister shot off an email and he showed back up with this chick, but the first question was about insurance money! I loved my brother to death but I had to cut all ties from him, I couldn't do it anymore and my poor mother damn sure didn't need the stress and I wanted to kill him for the pain he causes. Getting my mother to cut ties was the hardest part, I mean how does a mother do that, but she had too. I haven't talked to my brother since Beanie Wells scored the opening TD in the OSU/LSU championship game when he called me out the blue right after that TD. I don't and won't talk to him ever again. That wasn't my true brother in my eyes, my friends I grew up with my whole life, they are my brothers!! I share this because I know where you are at my friend, but cutting the losses sometimes is what has to be done!
Shit mt, I hit your mom a BUNCH of times last nightmtrulz wrote: If they hit a girl.
We agree on something! :@mtrulz wrote: If they hit a girl.