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FatHobbit

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Feb 1, 2010 1:37 PM
My fiance is "friends" with a married couple who in the past (over a year ago) have told me I'm not welcome in their home. One of the "friends" is a VP in the company where I work, and they think it looks bad for them to associate with one of the common people in the company. (at least that's my take, they worded it differently) Now they've invited her to dinner this week, and they said "you can bring your fiance too."

I don't see any reason for me to go somewhere I'm not welcome. She wants me to go and thinks they are extending an olive branch by telling her she can bring me. She says I should do it for her. I've been telling her for a week to just go by herself and she's getting pretty pissed at me.

Should I bite the bullet and take one for the team to make her happy, or do what I want and hang out with people I like? (who aren't snobby bitches)
Feb 1, 2010 1:37pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:39 PM
So these people just straight up told you "don't come to our house", or was it more implied? Seem like pretty shitty people to just up and say that w/o any reason.
Feb 1, 2010 1:39pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:40 PM
Go. Have a nice time. Then upper deck the toilet.
Feb 1, 2010 1:40pm
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ytownfootball

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Feb 1, 2010 1:41 PM
Take one for the team and prepare for the next time the team needs you, it won't be far off.
Feb 1, 2010 1:41pm
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Laley23

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Feb 1, 2010 1:41 PM
Always make the woman happy, it will pay off in the end.
Feb 1, 2010 1:41pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:42 PM
Go. Drink some of the expensive shit from their liquor cabinet. Maybe they are swingers and it could all turn out great for you. Get a little strange and the key to the executive washroom at work. Look around the house for shit you can use to blackmail the guy, you'll soon be on the fast track.
Feb 1, 2010 1:42pm
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Nate

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Feb 1, 2010 1:43 PM
A lot of companies have policies about fraternizing. Management is not supposed to associate with non-management/union employees outside of work related functions. I know at UPS this was a huge deal but still happened but it was kept very hush-hush because it was usually going to the bar and such.

Just bite the bullet. The guy was probably trying to keep his job safe.
Feb 1, 2010 1:43pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:45 PM
gorocks99 wrote: So these people just straight up told you "don't come to our house", or was it more implied? Seem like pretty shitty people to just up and say that w/o any reason.
My fiance was staying with them and I would go over to see her. (We were not engaged yet) Apparently they talked to her about having people over to their house, but nobody told me. The last time I was there they sent me a txt the next day that said I was not welcome and it was innapropriate because I was her subordinate. I can't remember exactly what it said, but it started with the words "You are not welcome at our house"
Feb 1, 2010 1:45pm
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berry

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Feb 1, 2010 1:46 PM
Take one for the team, but make sure that your fiancee knows that she will have to take one for the team later.
Feb 1, 2010 1:46pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:47 PM
Screw them I would not go!!
Feb 1, 2010 1:47pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:48 PM
FatHobbit wrote:
gorocks99 wrote: So these people just straight up told you "don't come to our house", or was it more implied? Seem like pretty shitty people to just up and say that w/o any reason.
My fiance was staying with them and I would go over to see her. (We were not engaged yet) Apparently they talked to her about having people over to their house, but nobody told me. The last time I was there they sent me a txt the next day that said I was not welcome and it was innapropriate because I was her subordinate. I can't remember exactly what it said, but it started with the words "You are not welcome at our house"
Whoa, complicated. So ... engaged to a (former?) boss, who's friends with a VP, who used to live with said VP. I'd say, get a camera and film what happens, 'cause it'll be an NBC sitcom next year.
Feb 1, 2010 1:48pm
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bamagirl

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Feb 1, 2010 1:49 PM
No offense but if someone told my boyfriend he wasn't welcome at their place. When he has done nothing wrong. I would tell him the eff off myself. Your girl shouldn't be wanting you to go somewhere you aren't welcome for a completely stupid reason.
Feb 1, 2010 1:49pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:49 PM
I would go and leave a mark, maybe an opened can of sardines or a block of limburger cheese under the couch.
Feb 1, 2010 1:49pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:50 PM
Part of being a grownup is sometimes doing things you don't particularly want to do. There are at least two compelling reasons that make this decision a no-brainer to me. Go.
Feb 1, 2010 1:50pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:54 PM
gorocks99 wrote:
FatHobbit wrote:
gorocks99 wrote: So these people just straight up told you "don't come to our house", or was it more implied? Seem like pretty shitty people to just up and say that w/o any reason.
My fiance was staying with them and I would go over to see her. (We were not engaged yet) Apparently they talked to her about having people over to their house, but nobody told me. The last time I was there they sent me a txt the next day that said I was not welcome and it was innapropriate because I was her subordinate. I can't remember exactly what it said, but it started with the words "You are not welcome at our house"


Whoa, complicated. So ... engaged to a (former?) boss, who's friends with a VP, who used to live with said VP. I'd say, get a camera and film what happens, 'cause it'll be an NBC sitcom next year.
I'm doing a poor job of explaining. The VP is the wife from the couple. (and also my bosses boss) My fiance stayed with them for a couple of summers.
Feb 1, 2010 1:54pm
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SnotBubbles

Feb 1, 2010 1:54 PM
Sounds to me like your "fiance" is involved in sexual relations with your boss....and his wife.

I'd go...maybe they're ready for you to join in.

Just sayin.
Feb 1, 2010 1:54pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:55 PM
queencitybuckeye wrote: Part of being a grownup is sometimes doing things you don't particularly want to do. There are at least two compelling reasons that make this decision a no-brainer to me. Go.
What's the second one?
Feb 1, 2010 1:55pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:56 PM
take the olive branch and shove it up their ass.

Edit:

It should be noted that I would cut off my nose to spite my face. I'm spiteful like that.
Feb 1, 2010 1:56pm
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SnotBubbles

Feb 1, 2010 1:56 PM
FatHobbit-
I can't see QCB's original post, because he's a cock and I hate him.

However, I'm sure he's talking about 1) your fiance and 2) your job. I actually agree with the cock on this one (all joking aside).
Feb 1, 2010 1:56pm
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enigmaax

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Feb 1, 2010 1:57 PM
Wait, maybe I'm not following. Did/do you, the fiance, and the VP guy all work for the same company? You are/were your fiance's subordinate?
Feb 1, 2010 1:57pm
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queencitybuckeye

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Feb 1, 2010 1:58 PM
FatHobbit wrote:
queencitybuckeye wrote: Part of being a grownup is sometimes doing things you don't particularly want to do. There are at least two compelling reasons that make this decision a no-brainer to me. Go.
What's the second one?
If I'm invited to dinner at the home of a VP of a company I work for, I go, even if he/she makes Hitler seem like Mother Teresa.
Feb 1, 2010 1:58pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:00 PM
I suck at this.

Mary and Bob are married. Mary is a VP where I work. Bob is a VP (or maybe even president) for a different company.

I'm engaged to Sally, who is friends with Mary and Bob.
Feb 1, 2010 2:00pm
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El Jefe Grande

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Feb 1, 2010 2:00 PM
Do what you want and hang out with people you like; whom aren't snobby bitches.
Feb 1, 2010 2:00pm
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FatHobbit

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Feb 1, 2010 2:01 PM
queencitybuckeye wrote:
FatHobbit wrote:
queencitybuckeye wrote: Part of being a grownup is sometimes doing things you don't particularly want to do. There are at least two compelling reasons that make this decision a no-brainer to me. Go.
What's the second one?
If I'm invited to dinner at the home of a VP of a company I work for, I go, even if he/she makes Hitler seem like Mother Teresa.
Thanks for the clarification. :)
Feb 1, 2010 2:01pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:01 PM
You got any naked pictures of Mary?

'Cause that could change things.
Feb 1, 2010 2:01pm