sleeper;1846770 wrote:I'll let Con_Alma answer this question first.

like_that;1846767 wrote:Another wedding thread. I had this discussion with a couple friends.

If you are in the wedding party and you are spending a decent amount of $$$ to be a part of the party (travel, bachelor party, suits, etc), do you think you are still obligated to buy the groom/bride a gift? Why or why not?

wildcats20;1846778 wrote:Was a groomsmen in a wedding awhile back. Our tuxes were over $200 and we had 2 out of town bachelors parties. I didn't get them anything. Call me cheap, call me whatever you want. But don't expect me to shell out hundreds of dollars to be in your wedding and then expect me to spend even more money on something you will likely return or not ever use.

Oh and to everyone...stop making your groomsmen RENT a tux/suit. It's the biggest waste of money ever. Go to a nice men's store and have suits/tuxes to purchase. I was in a wedding several years ago and we bought our suits. Yeah it was somewhat pricey, but at least I didn't have to return it the next morning.

like_that;1846784 wrote:100% agree with you. If they get butt hurt for not receiving a gift after spending that money on their wedding, that tells all I need to know more about the groom/bride. Also 100% agree about renting tuxes. I had to rent a $300 tux for a formal wedding I was best man in (formal attire does not fit the couple's personality or taste, but that's another story). I would much rather purchase a suit for that much or more and be able to keep it.

Automatik;1846789 wrote:Good question, I would assume you still have to get a gift.

I'm in a wedding in April and the groom is guilt tripping me about not going to the bachelor party. It's in Lake Norman, NC. I politely told him that I just can't swing it. My sister is getting married in August. I can't take that many days off and financially I just don't want to do it. He's actually pissed about it. The nerve of people in these situations blows my fucking mind.

This is what's expected of me....

Flight to bachelor party
Cabin rental
Boat rental

Flight to Columbus for wedding
Hotel
Tux rental
Gift

Then you factor in vacation days and other random expenses. It's absurd.

Belly35;1846803 wrote:NO... Wedding a waste of time, money and effort... for everyone...
Simple wedding, nice party... reap the gifts and cash... dont piss away that $10,000 plus and have a nice down payment on a house for the future.

Belly35;1846803 wrote:NO... Wedding a waste of time, money and effort... for everyone...
Simple wedding, nice party... reap the gifts and cash... dont piss away that $10,000 plus and have a nice down payment on a house for the future.

wildcats20;1846778 wrote: Oh and to everyone...stop making your groomsmen RENT a tux/suit. It's the biggest waste of money ever. Go to a nice men's store and have suits/tuxes to purchase. I was in a wedding several years ago and we bought our suits. Yeah it was somewhat pricey, but at least I didn't have to return it the next morning.

Fab4Runner;1846810 wrote:Do you boycott all weddings? Or do you go but not give gifts?

wildcats20;1846854 wrote:I think a lot more people are doing couple showers. I've never been invited to one and my gf has gone to a couple but they've mostly been relatives.

Commander of Awesome;1846851 wrote:The idea of a wedding gift should go the way of a dinosaur. It's absurd. I usually go the donate to a charity in their name aspect. If they try and guilt trip me, they look like dicks.

Sidebar- Do ppl still have wedding showers? My mom got invited to one recently for a friend of her's daughter. The couple has lived together for 4 yrs, and are now getting married. WTF? The idea of a wedding shower back in the day sort of made sense. Ppl historically lived with their parents and didn't have things like plates, etc...Now, GTFO