Archive Just having a bad night

Crimson streak

Posts: 9,002

Jul 15, 2013 11:10pm

Going through a tough break up with my ex fiancé of 5 years, we have a 3 year old child together and I'm just having a really tough time with it. All my family is 6 hours away and I just feel alone right now. Any advice from anyone who's been through it?

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Tiernan

Posts: 13,021

Jul 15, 2013 11:24pm

Get rid of the gun and any live ammo on the house...no really do this now.

wes_mantooth

Posts: 17,977

Jul 15, 2013 11:24pm

I honestly just keep super busy. Probably not the best advice but when I stress.. I run, play video games, whatever it takes to keep my mind from racing

rmolin73

Posts: 4,278

Jul 15, 2013 11:28pm

wes_mantooth;1473100 wrote:I honestly just keep super busy. Probably not the best advice but when I stress.. I run, play video games, whatever it takes to keep my mind from racing

This is excellent advice.

Crimson streak

Posts: 9,002

Jul 15, 2013 11:33pm

It's just tough not having any family around. I pretty much lost my best friend in my fiancé. I try to stay busy as much as I can but its the nights in the apartment by myself is when it hits me the most

killer_ewok

Posts: 11,379

Jul 15, 2013 11:49pm

Even though it's probably hard to imagine right now.....you're gonna be okay. It's gonna take some time to get through this but you will. Just hang in there. I know it's easy for me to say that but I have been through a somewhat similar situation. It's normal to feel angry, sad, depressed, etc. in a situation like this but just don't do anything stupid. Better days are ahead, buddy.

Sorry that those words are nothing groundbreaking but sometimes simple is all it takes. I'll keep you in my prayers, crimson.

Crimson streak

Posts: 9,002

Jul 15, 2013 11:53pm

killer_ewok;1473107 wrote:Even though it's probably hard to imagine right now.....you're gonna be okay. It's gonna take some time to get through this but you will. Just hang in there. I know it's easy for me to say that but I have been through a somewhat similar situation. It's normal to feel angry, sad, depressed, etc. in a situation like this but just don't do anything stupid. Better days are ahead, buddy.

Sorry that those words are nothing groundbreaking but sometimes simple is all it takes. I'll keep you in my prayers, crimson.

Thanks I appreciate it. I know it's for the better. I won't do anything stupid. I have a little girl to think about. It's just a shitty situation

Ironman92

Posts: 49,363

Jul 15, 2013 11:57pm

Crimson streak;1473085 wrote:Going through a tough break up with my ex fiancé of 5 years, we have a 3 year old child together and I'm just having a really tough time with it. All my family is 6 hours away and I just feel alone right now. Any advice from anyone who's been through it?

It's tough man. Hang in there. Staying busy is definitely key. It's one thing to break apart from your significant other....but the kid part is the killer. I just can't fathom the thought of it.

How often do you get to see the 3 year old?

Classyposter58

Posts: 6,321

Jul 16, 2013 12:13am

Golf.

mcburg93

Posts: 3,167

Jul 16, 2013 12:20am

Damn fella, just keep your head up and stay busy. Find something you are interested in and do it just to keep your mind off things. You will live through this and become better for it.

Crimson streak

Posts: 9,002

Jul 16, 2013 12:37am

Ironman92;1473109 wrote:It's tough man. Hang in there. Staying busy is definitely key. It's one thing to break apart from your significant other....but the kid part is the killer. I just can't fathom the thought of it.

How often do you get to see the 3 year old?

We're splitting custody 50/50. But I get off 2 hours earlier than her so I swing by her day care and pick her up and spend and few hours with her till she gets off on her days. So I get to see her almost every day which is nice. She's being really cool about the whole custody issue but it still sucks since she was basically my best friend. I know it's for the better but it doesn't make it any easier

Crimson streak

Posts: 9,002

Jul 16, 2013 12:38am

mcburg93;1473114 wrote:Damn fella, just keep your head up and stay busy. Find something you are interested in and do it just to keep your mind off things. You will live through this and become better for it.

I've been trying to. It's the nights that get to me. I haven't slept worth shit since. Maybe getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night. My head just spins at night.

ernest_t_bass

Posts: 24,984

Jul 16, 2013 12:49am

Kill yourself. Best option. Don't be a puss like snot.

ernest_t_bass

Posts: 24,984

Jul 16, 2013 12:50am

Crimson streak;1473119 wrote:I've been trying to. It's the nights that get to me. I haven't slept worth shit since. Maybe getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night. My head just spins at night.

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Tiger2003

Posts: 15,421

Jul 16, 2013 12:52am

Get her back?

ernest_t_bass

Posts: 24,984

Jul 16, 2013 12:56am

Tiger2003;1473124 wrote:Get her back?

Kill her! Fucking murder, ftw.

Midstate01

Posts: 14,766

Jul 16, 2013 4:41am

ernest_t_bass;1473121 wrote:Kill yourself. Best option. Don't be a **** like snot.

Good god...grow the fuck up. Maybe you were just fucking around, but seriously gtfu.

Keep your head up man. Find someone you can spend some time with. Go to a gym and play hoops or do something active.
And do everything you can to not show your daughter you are hurting because even at her age she can sense those things and is already hurting herself. She needs you most right now.

So sorry man.

GoChiefs

Posts: 16,754

Jul 16, 2013 5:47am

Midstate01;1473137 wrote:Good god...grow the fuck up. Maybe you were just fucking around, but seriously gtfu.

Keep your head up man.

:thumbup:

Mohican00

Posts: 3,394

Jul 16, 2013 6:17am

Crimson streak;1473119 wrote:I've been trying to. It's the nights that get to me. I haven't slept worth shit since. Maybe getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night. My head just spins at night.

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The offer's on the table.....

Belly35

Posts: 9,716

Jul 16, 2013 6:26am

Relationship with a kid and no marriage commitment is just wrong... so you better rethink this order of importants.

Second if this is how you are feeling, it time to rethink what when wrong and change and correct the issues between the relationship and yourself. Time to have a honest conversation with her and make some type of real commitment, sincere changes and fix the problems .. Remember this is about you and your commitments not her so it you who has to change (if she love you, your action and changes will alter hers also) asking for demanding changes from her don’t go there.

Avoiding the issue and not approaching the problem is not the way to a solution just a means to make matters worse.

Raw Dawgin' it

Posts: 11,466

Jul 16, 2013 7:11am

Belly35;1473142 wrote:Relationship with a kid and no marriage commitment is just wrong... so you better rethink this order of importants.

Second if this is how you are feeling, it time to rethink what when wrong and change and correct the issues between the relationship and yourself. Time to have a honest conversation with her and make some type of real commitment, sincere changes and fix the problems .. Remember this is about you and your commitments not her so it you who has to change (if she love you, your action and changes will alter hers also) asking for demanding changes from her don’t go there.

Avoiding the issue and not approaching the problem is not the way to a solution just a means to make matters worse.

Way to be a judgmental asshole :thumbup: