Honestly, my advice to everyone who asks me about marriage...

Marriage is the best thing in the world if its with the right woman.
Marriage is the worst thing in the world if its with the wrong woman.

There is no in between...luckily I picked the right woman.

That is why you had better KNOW for sure that it is the right woman, you do NOT want to go through a divorce after just a few years.

Pitman: I hope for your sake she isn't a reader on the OC because your relationship will be toast. Maybe that's what you wanted?

jmog;864083 wrote:Honestly, my advice to everyone who asks me about marriage...

Marriage is the best thing in the world if its with the right woman.
Marriage is the worst thing in the world if its with the wrong woman.

There is no in between...luckily I picked the right woman.

That is why you had better KNOW for sure that it is the right woman, you do NOT want to go through a divorce after just a few years.

I would have to say that is totally true.

password;864076 wrote:In the end it comes down to sex, can you be happy with one piece of ass for the rest of your life? Since you are talking marriage, You only have about 5 more years of sex with her anyway.

What? Married people have sex?

Know in your head (not your heart) she is the one or Run you SOB Run and do it now before anymore time is wasted .

thavoice;864123 wrote:What? Married people have sex?

thavoice;864123 wrote:What? Married people have sex?

Yes, for the first 72hrs.

Like I mentioned before, each of the last 2 years she's gone with me to the OHSAA state baseball tournament in Columbus, and she has a blast. We keep book for every game, and take turns every inning. So, those are really nice 3-4 days weekends together, watching 4 baseball games a day, sleep, and repeat!

Jeez...what are you waiting for. How many women out there are going to do that? That's the precious stuff there. If you find her attractive and the sex is reasonably good, combined with the things you share in common listed above....then don't feel you are "settling." What the hell else do you want? You've already said you enjoy being with her a lot. Everyone is going to have times when they get annoyed at the other person. It just become a matter of whether the good times outweigh the bad....and if it is a lot more good than bad, that is all you can ask for.

From reading the stuff you posted, I think you really want to marry her but are just afraid of committing because you see her flaws and weaknesses. I assure you that everybody has them. Go marry the girl if that is what your heart is telling you. I wouldn't expect many on this site to agree with me. Hell, this forum was formed from guys and girls that couldn't/wouldn't commit to sending JJ $12 a year

Not married but been with same girl for 10yrs. I think marriage would ruin us.

I'd chill out and see how she handles the upcoming changes on her own. If she just sits on her ass and expects someone else to save her at age 26, she's going to be the same way for the rest of her life - you'll wind up raising a wife as well as your kids. A woman who can't get her own crap together is only going to add to yours.

Trust me - my five hetro sisters-in-law would have a hard time deciding if they should get out of the way of an oncoming freight train. Between 'em, they have nine divorces and four long-term cohabitation breakups. (Note - in Kentucky, "long term" means sticking around for more than nine months , or at least beyond past the six-week post-delivery checkup if you live south of I-64) .

First date. I knew then and there.

1_beast;863511 wrote:equal rights...make her get on her knees..... and she can propose when she finishes

Amazing.

thavoice;864123 wrote:What? Married people have sex?

Like I said, marry the "right" woman and marriage (and sex) is great...marry the wrong woman...not so much.

password;864076 wrote:In the end it comes down to sex, ....

In my opinion in the end it comes down to sex and money. If the two people are not on the same page regarding these two issues it typically doesn't last. The common factor regarding those two issues is communication. With solid communication all potential strifes can be worked out in a healthy manner including sex, money, religion, child raising, extended family matter, etc.