UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Sep 9, 2010 12:29pm
..of 2.5 years. She said she has changed since weve been together and wants to know what she is like when she is single. Basically taking a break for a while so were not together so she can see if she really needs me. She just asked for her space while she figures things out. She says if its meant to be its meant to be and she'll be back once she realizes it... which is true i guess..It just hit me pretty hard because i really didnt see this coming and we have had ZERO problems in the past. I just dont know what to do, its been a really hard past 2 days...any thoughts?
gorocks99
Posts: 10,760
Sep 9, 2010 12:30pm
Find some strange, hit it, repeat. Free reign.
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Con_Alma
Posts: 12,198
Sep 9, 2010 12:33pm
You don't want her to "need" you. You want her to "want" you.
Remind yourself that your happiness comes from within not from another person. Wish her well if you truly care for her.
Go do the things that you enjoy.
Remind yourself that your happiness comes from within not from another person. Wish her well if you truly care for her.
Go do the things that you enjoy.
Fab1b
Posts: 12,949
Sep 9, 2010 12:34pm
Straight sucks bro. Time to just get back in the game. Keep yourself and your mind occupied!!
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Sep 9, 2010 12:34pm
She'll be back, they always come back.
OneBuckeye
Posts: 5,888
Sep 9, 2010 12:34pm
It is a WIN for you dude, take the time to enjoy college and do some things she wouldn't have approved of.
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Sep 9, 2010 12:34pm
sleeper;476968 wrote:She'll be back, they always come back.
this is what most people have told me
se-alum
Posts: 13,948
Sep 9, 2010 12:36pm
You're pretty young, correct?? I've met very few women that don't get the urge to to see what's on the other side of the fence. Especially if they've been in a relationship for 2.5 years at a young age. It's human nature to want to try different things Most likely she'll realize the single life isn't what it's cracked up to be, and come back. Just make sure, that when she does come back, you don't question what she did while you were apart. Also, you need to get out there and experience the single life as well. You might realize that she wasn't the one for you.
THE4RINGZ
Posts: 16,816
Sep 9, 2010 12:37pm
Bang her best friend, record it on your cell phone then post it all over the internet so she will be sure to see it.
But seriously, that does suck. You are young and have a great future in front of you, so enjoy college life while you can.
But seriously, that does suck. You are young and have a great future in front of you, so enjoy college life while you can.
RedRider1
Posts: 3,850
Sep 9, 2010 12:38pm
Great advice....she shouldn't define you. You should define you.Con_Alma;476964 wrote:Remind yourself that your happiness comes from within not from another person. Wish her well if you truly care for her.
Go do the things that you enjoy.
justincredible
Posts: 32,056
Sep 9, 2010 12:40pm
OneBuckeye;476969 wrote:It is a WIN for you dude, take the time to enjoy college and do some things she wouldn't have approved of.
Great advice.
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Sep 9, 2010 12:40pm
se-alum;476972 wrote:You're pretty young, correct?? I've met very few women that don't get the urge to to see what's on the other side of the fence. Especially if they've been in a relationship for 2.5 years at a young age. It's human nature to want to try different things Most likely she'll realize the single life isn't what it's cracked up to be, and come back. Just make sure, that when she does come back, you don't question what she did while you were apart. Also, you need to get out there and experience the single life as well. You might realize that she wasn't the one for you.
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Little Danny
Posts: 4,288
Sep 9, 2010 12:41pm
Life's too short. As others have noted you need to forget about her and get back out there. Enjoy being young and having so many potential women to date. Pretty soon, the fish will either not be biting anymore or they will be carry bags with them.
As to your girl, if she is meant to be she will come back. Keep your chin up. Finally, don't be too upset when you see her with another dude in a week or so (trust me, she will be). Do your own thing and enjoy life. Your to young to be settled down anyway.
As to your girl, if she is meant to be she will come back. Keep your chin up. Finally, don't be too upset when you see her with another dude in a week or so (trust me, she will be). Do your own thing and enjoy life. Your to young to be settled down anyway.
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Gblock
Sep 9, 2010 12:42pm
Do you want her back?
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Sep 9, 2010 12:44pm
Gblock;476985 wrote:Do you want her back?
yes, very much so...i never saw this coming thats why i'm having a hard time understanding what it is that prompted her to do this
Art Modell
Posts: 2,338
Sep 9, 2010 12:45pm
Sounds to me that she is looking to bang some other guys. Get over it.
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Sep 9, 2010 12:47pm
Normally I'd say do you really even want her back once she has decided she "needs" you? But in this case, since you are both so young, I can understand where she is coming from. I remember being 20 and being in a long term relationship and thinking we had it all figured out. Clearly we didn't since I am not with him. We ended things but remained friends and in the 4.5 years since I have grown and changed a lot. Maybe in your case you two will come back to each other but if not just remember that you are young and still have a lot left to do and learn. I didn't meet "the one" until I was almost 25.
Yeah, yeah I know it's gay that I just called wildcats "my one".
Yeah, yeah I know it's gay that I just called wildcats "my one".
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Sep 9, 2010 12:47pm
UA5straightin2008;476987 wrote:yes, very much so...i never saw this coming thats why i'm having a hard time understanding what it is that prompted her to do this
She's probably young too.
I know I broke up with my ex girlfriend a while back(I was 20 at the time as well) and we had a perfect relationship. I broke up with her because I wanted to see what else was out there, and her and I are still friends to this day. This is probably the most likely explanation, and like I said SHE WILL BE BACK!
Keep your head up, don't get discouraged, and try to move on as hard as that may be.
CinciX12
Posts: 2,874
Sep 9, 2010 12:51pm
Keep your head up man..
Keep yourself occupied is good advice. Have your buddies take you out this weekend. Forget about it for a few nights.
Keep yourself occupied is good advice. Have your buddies take you out this weekend. Forget about it for a few nights.
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Sep 9, 2010 12:57pm
CinciX12;476996 wrote:Keep your head up man..
Keep yourself occupied is good advice. Have your buddies take you out this weekend. Forget about it for a few nights.
well i will be at the osu miami game so that speaks for it self..only thing is she was supposed be coming with me
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jmog
Posts: 6,567
Sep 9, 2010 12:57pm
Keep your head up man, just remember that most people don't find the "one" that young.
I happen to have found my wife of nearly 11 years at about your current age (I was nearly 20) and we got married just before my 21st birthday, but that is so rare its unbelievable nowadays.
So, keep your head up, go out "looking", and find someone even better.
I happen to have found my wife of nearly 11 years at about your current age (I was nearly 20) and we got married just before my 21st birthday, but that is so rare its unbelievable nowadays.
So, keep your head up, go out "looking", and find someone even better.
CinciX12
Posts: 2,874
Sep 9, 2010 12:58pm
Perfect situation then. Stare at some OSU girls for a day. Those are never in short supply. And you get to make a friend really happy by taking them instead lol
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jmog
Posts: 6,567
Sep 9, 2010 12:58pm
UA5straightin2008;477011 wrote:well i will be at the osu miami game so that speaks for it self..only thing is she was supposed be coming with me
Want to sell your extra ticket?
I'm just kidding, just trying to be opertunistic
Seriously, PM me if you want to sell the ticket...
OneBuckeye
Posts: 5,888
Sep 9, 2010 1:00pm
I'll take the extra ticket and I am not kidding.UA5straightin2008;477011 wrote:well i will be at the osu miami game so that speaks for it self..only thing is she was supposed be coming with me
gerb131
Posts: 9,932
Sep 9, 2010 1:00pm
Sorry man. 2.5 is a good bit of time together. I wish you nothing but the best. I wanted to Cool Story Bro you but its not appropriate at this time.