sej;477163 wrote:she may just really want to have a chance to find out who she is outside of your significant other. I've been there, and it's so easy to lose yourself at that age when you're in a relationship.

this was her main reason for doing this

She's already got an iron in the fire somewhere...maybe not banging the dude yet (OK she probably really is...but there is a small chance <very small> she's not) but I can almost guarantee this chick is "talking" to someone already. Chicks don't up and leave a relationship unless they have another one in the making, its simply not in their DNA. You wait a couple weeks UA and tell me if I ain't right, because part of their usual SOP is to "let you know" when they think they have landed the new prey.

Get back on the horse man as soon as you can. Do some really nasty chicks and definitely "let her know" before she drops the same bomb on you.

^^^^^ This guy has had his heart broken

Raw dog some randoms this weekend man...

But in all seriousness I know how you feel my ex broke up with me last summer after 2 years. Im still not over her and still wish I could get her back. Just good luck to you go out have some fun and try not to let it get you down too much.

UA, this breakup is a blessing in disguise for you. You are 20 years old and have been with this girl for 2.5 years. It is time for you to learn to be a single guy. You need to learn how to hang out just with the guys and with yourself for now. Learn how to go out and date women, but not be in a committed relationship with them. I am not saying you need to be a dog/player/whatever you call it, I am just saying you need to work on your game. It will serve you in the long run to being a happier adult and being a better man for the one you eventually land.

baseballstud24;477193 wrote:^^^^^ This guy has had his heart broken

Yes I have...a couple of times...and broke some along the way too. Point being I've been around the track a few times and at age 20 UA hasn't. That's not a knock just a fact. He asked for advice and sometimes it don't taste so good going down.

Tiernan;477181 wrote:She's already got an iron in the fire somewhere...maybe not banging the dude yet (OK she probably really is...but there is a small chance <very small> she's not) but I can almost guarantee this chick is "talking" to someone already. Chicks don't up and leave a relationship unless they have another one in the making, its simply not in their DNA. You wait a couple weeks UA and tell me if I ain't right, because part of their usual SOP is to "let you know" when they think they have landed the new prey.

Preach it brotha I can almost guarantee, from my own dealings with college age women, that this is exactly whats going on. You have to get yourself out there and try to move on, which in all seriousness the best way being able to do so is by fucking other bitches.

Good Advice:
Go enjoy some things you like to do.
Don't try to find another relationship, but let it happen if one develops.
Don't initiate contact with her.

Bad Advice:
Go bang a bunch of girls - is that really what you want hanging over you if you do get back together?
Compete with her to be the first into a relationship - exactly what do you gain from this?
Beg her to come back - guarantees she will not.
Give her an ultimatum or a timeline - you will not like the response.

BCBulldog;477303 wrote:Good Advice:
Go enjoy some things you like to do.
Don't try to find another relationship, but let it happen if one develops.
Don't initiate contact with her.

Bad Advice:
Go bang a bunch of girls - is that really what you want hanging over you if you do get back together?
Compete with her to be the first into a relationship - exactly what do you gain from this?
Beg her to come back - guarantees she will not.
Give her an ultimatum or a timeline - you will not like the response.

thanks for summarizing, thats what i have really come away with from this thread and from talking with my friends

UA5straightin2008;477305 wrote:thanks for summarizing, thats what i have really come away with from this thread and from talking with my friends

No problem. I've been there and can sympathize. Just keep your head up and remember to enjoy life.

Sucks to hear man. Unfortunately from my experiences, especially when it just "comes out of nowhere", I dont believe she will be back and do believe there is somebody else. Its happened to me before. Much like everyone else said..go out have fun with your friends and be open to meeting new girls.

well when i said it came out of nowhere, i meant i wasnt expecting it at all...she said she started thinking she was losing sight of who she was because of the long relationship about 5 weeks ago, which would have been before she went back to school and had the chance to meet someone

BCBulldog;477303 wrote:Bad Advice:
Go bang a bunch of girls - is that really what you want hanging over you if you do get back together?

I disagree. She wanted to be single. She should (probably doesn't) realize she opened the door for that when she wanted to be single. So it's not really hanging over him. It's the best way to not sit around and wonder what (or who) she's doing. I wasted all of college on one girl and then we broke up. I waited for her because I thought we would get back together because we were meant to be or some shit. I never really gave up on her until she married some other guy. What a waste of time. It wasn't her fault, but I should have been out having a lot of fun instead holding out for something that was never going to happen.

justincredible;476978 wrote:Great advice.

Great advice!

UA5straightin2008;477037 wrote:honestly, most of you have been very helpful and i appreciate it...i'm gonna give her all the space and time she needs in great hopes she'll be back, the hard part will be goin out and trying to find someone else because its hard not to think of her

This was the hardest part for me when i broke up with my girlfriend that i really, really cared about. I found that a little bit (a lot) of alcohol and a few single buddies when going out on the town is the best remedy. You slowly but surely learn to move on. And if you do wind up back together you know what its like to be with other people and have something to compare this relationship to. Its hard to know if its right when its all you've ever had.

Prayers from Massillon.



But seriously, sorry to hear it bro. Like its been said already. You are young. Enjoy the free time for a bit.
And as well as it sounds like you are in school, dont let this affect your grades dude. Aint worth it.

One less person to shop for around the holidays too.

that sucks man, sorry that it happened to you.

I have a feeling you're the kind of guy that'll bounce back pretty quickly

UA5straightin2008;476958 wrote:..of 2.5 years. She said she has changed since weve been together and wants to know what she is like when she is single. Basically taking a break for a while so were not together so she can see if she really needs me. She just asked for her space while she figures things out. She says if its meant to be its meant to be and she'll be back once she realizes it... which is true i guess..It just hit me pretty hard because i really didnt see this coming and we have had ZERO problems in the past. I just dont know what to do, its been a really hard past 2 days...any thoughts?

Dude, let me tell you that she is looking for some new dick. I know that's harsh, but I have seen friends go through this before when I was younger (I am now 28). You guys are both so young, you need to experience more. Don't look at it as losing a girlfriend, look at it as gaining many notches on your bed post. When I was 21 and broke up with my GF of 2 years, I was hurt.......for about 6 hours until I went to the bar and realized how lose the young/hot women's morals were. Trust me, this isn't a bad thing at all. It is actually a great thing. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't worry about 1 broad until you're older and by older I mean like 70.

UA5straightin2008;477011 wrote:well i will be at the osu miami game so that speaks for it self..only thing is she was supposed be coming with me

I can sell that ticket for you for some big money.

Two songs, and I'm being dead serious... Listen to them.

- Darryl Worley - Second Wind
- Tracy Lawrence - Used to the Pain

Listen to them often, when you're feeling down.

ernest_t_bass;477803 wrote:Two songs, and I'm being dead serious... Listen to them.

- Darryl Worley - Second Wind
- Tracy Lawrence - Used to the Pain

Listen to them often, when you're feeling down.

Whiskey lullaby is a good one for this situation as well.

karen lotz;477807 wrote:Whiskey lullaby is a good one for this situation as well.

LOL... Seriously? The dude kills himself.

ernest_t_bass;477811 wrote:LOL... Seriously? The dude kills himself.

He didn't mean it.

Darryl Worley - Second Wind:

There's an old friendly breeze that blows in the Gulf of Mexico
Somehow it always knows when I'm feeling low
So I'm gonna anchor down and wait till it comes around
Leave the rest of the world behind, yeah that's how I'll pass the time

Chorus:
Till I catch my second wind, get back up and gain control again
Find the strength I lost back when you stopped loving me
I guess I'll just stay out here until I know the coast is clear
Sit and watch the tide roll in till I catch my second wind

There's a peace in the way I feel when the water's still
And as long as it's calm out here I've got time to kill
But as soon as it starts to stir I'll lose track of the way things were
Float away on the open air, but I'm not going anywhere

Tracy Lawrence - Used to the Pain:

6 a.m alarm goes off
I reach for you no longer lie but don't feel quite as lost
Everyday, I drive my truck a little farther into work before your memory catchs up.
The radio on, I'm not afraid
I can listen to most any song the DJ wants to play
Slow but sure, I'm coming around

No I'm not looking back I'm moving on now
but I won't go so far as to say that I'm fine too much of what I felt for you remains.
I'd like to believe in the healing hands of time but the truth is I really can't say if
I'm getting better or just used to the pain.
End of the day head back home have a bite to eat then sit down in the living room alone.
Easy chair, watch tv.
Half way through the news I'm soundly sleeping but
I won't go so far to say that I'm fine too much of what I felt for you remains.

I'd like to believe in the healing hands of time but the truth is
I really can't say if I'm getting better or just used to the pain.
No I won't go so far as to say that I'm fine too much of what I felt for you remains.
I'd like to believe in the healing hands of time but the truth is
I really can't say if I'm getting better or just used to the pain.
If I'm getting better or just used to the pain.