I'm also moderately surprised you didn't see this coming. Chances are she didn't just wake up today and realize she wants to be single, it might have been festering for a long time and she just didn't know when to tell you.

Also, what a CLOWN for dumping you before the OSU Miami game. She doesn't sound like the sharpest tool in the shed, so you are probably better off anyway.

She may come back, she may not. You need to live your life like she's not. It hurts now, but as time goes on and you move on, it will hurt less every day. Hang out with old friends, meet new ones. You are way too young to be sitting around waiting for a girl who may or may not come back.

well as hard as it will be i would reccommend that you get back in the game and show her how great you are doing without her. kinda show her what she's missing....if you are walking around all sad and calling her all the time its gonna look weak and pathetic. imo girls are attracted to confidence. nobody wants to eat at a restaraunt with no customers kinda thing. act like your happy and that although you miss her that this was a great idea. and dont call/text her unless she text you and even then make her wait a while before responding....it sounds like your playing games but it works.

however while it does happen i would say only a small percentage of people are still with the person they dated in hs/college and most people dont stay the same person as they get older.....so maybe you should try out some other things.......i know in my case i got divorced and thought i would never find someone that could live up to her and actually found someone better in almost every category. so maybe you need to try out some other girls and see what else is out there.

Definitely she's either banging other guys or looking to bang them. The space line is such a freaking cop out.

If she wants time and space.... give it to her. It might be tough but dont call, text, email etc.... If she wants to try to work things out you have to let her come to you.

tk421;477033 wrote:Definitely she's either banging other guys or looking to bang them. The space line is such a freaking cop out.

i agree when a girls says she doesnt know what she wants....it means she does know what she wants and its not you

honestly, most of you have been very helpful and i appreciate it...i'm gonna give her all the space and time she needs in great hopes she'll be back, the hard part will be goin out and trying to find someone else because its hard not to think of her

Time to move on. If she was happy with your relationship, she wouldn't want for anything else. Obviously, that isn't the case.

UA5straightin2008;477037 wrote:honestly, most of you have been very helpful and i appreciate it...i'm gonna give her all the space and time she needs in great hopes she'll be back, the hard part will be goin out and trying to find someone else because its hard not to think of her

You don't need to go out and try to find someone else. Just don't close yourself off from something happening. Actively searching for someone to take her place is a bad idea, IMO.

UA5straightin2008;476980 wrote:20

So you started dating around 17 or so. This was gonna happen eventually. Even if you stayed together she would eventually start to wonder what she has missed or is missing by being in a long term relationship at such a young age. I've had quite a few friends that married young, and everyone of them have gone through a rough stretch in their marriage due to the fact that they never really got to live life and have fun at the age they should have. It could honestly be a blessing in disguise.

PS. When you're drunk Saturday, leave your phone @ home!!

Fab4Runner;477043 wrote:You don't need to go out and try to find someone else. Just don't close yourself off from something happening. Actively searching for someone to take her place is a bad idea, IMO.

thats a good answer

UA5straightin2008;477037 wrote:honestly, most of you have been very helpful and i appreciate it...i'm gonna give her all the space and time she needs in great hopes she'll be back, the hard part will be goin out and trying to find someone else because its hard not to think of her

Thats because its fresh, give it some time.

Off topic, but you should change your thread title. I thought she died.

UA5straightin2008;477037 wrote:honestly, most of you have been very helpful and i appreciate it...i'm gonna give her all the space and time she needs in great hopes she'll be back, the hard part will be goin out and trying to find someone else because I get hard when I think about her.

fixed it for young man. Good Luck

Fab4Runner;477043 wrote:You don't need to go out and try to find someone else. Just don't close yourself off from something happening. Actively searching for someone to take her place is a bad idea, IMO.

Good advice. Dont think that you need to find a replacement. You're 20 yrs old, its ok to make a few "mistakes".

You can't find love... it just happens.

Happens to the best of us. Enjoy your free reign now. Take advantage of it. Don't contact for ANYTHING. Don't let her know what you are doing. Don't ask what she is doing. The suspense alone will drive her crazy.

se-alum;477046 wrote:PS. When you're drunk Saturday, leave your phone @ home!!

This!

My girl broke up with me almost 2 years ago. We had been together for 5 years. It took over a year to get over the break-up and we still talked a ton. We sort of left it open ended if we would get back together, but that aint happening at this point. She is still my best friend though, and we talk a few times a week.

Although, it seems in your case it was random, in mine I probably deserved it lol. I will say that if you can remain friends and eventually get over each other, the sex is just as good if not better than when you were together (especially if she has a new BF)

She just gave you a gift. You may not know it, but some day you'll appreciate it. I dated the same girl all through college and then we broke up.

Listen to me, I got no reason to lie to you, don't make the same mistakes I made when I was young. Fuck a lotta women kid, not just one woman, a lotta women.

Sorry to hear that. My girlfriend and I of 3 years ended it when I was 20. It was the end of my sophomore year and I didn't have a serious relationship again until the summer before my senior year. Had some fun in the process but I was still hurt. You have gotten great advice and for starters I'd look no further than:

She may come back, she may not. You need to live your life like she's not. It hurts now, but as time goes on and you move on, it will hurt less every day. Hang out with old friends, meet new ones. You are way too young to be sitting around waiting for a girl who may or may not come back.

If she wants time and space.... give it to her. It might be tough but dont call, text, email etc.... If she wants to try to work things out you have to let her come to you.

You don't need to go out and try to find someone else. Just don't close yourself off from something happening. Actively searching for someone to take her place is a bad idea, IMO.

I also second leaving your phone at home when your at the OSU game.

se-alum;477046 wrote:PS. When you're drunk Saturday, leave your phone @ home!!

THIS X INFINITY

My girlfriend/fiance of 7 years broke up with me at the beginning of the summer for pretty much the same reasons. At first I told myself that we'd be back together within a few months and everything would be okay, but the more I'm out and about and single, the more I'm not sure if she's really what I want anyway. It's definitely a huge change in my life. We dated since I was 18 (she was 16)...so a big part of our life was together. It's been about 3 months now, and I'm not gonna lie, the nights are lonely, but things are getting easier. Hang in there man.

Fab4Runner;477043 wrote:You don't need to go out and try to find someone else. Just don't close yourself off from something happening. Actively searching for someone to take her place is a bad idea, IMO.

I agree 100% with this. Don't go out with the mindset that you're looking for someone to fill that place. Reconnect with old friends and rediscover (or perhaps discover, since you've had little adult life without her in it) who YOU are.


And for those who are saying she's just wanting to bang other dudes, while that may be true because some women are crazy and evil, she may just really want to have a chance to find out who she is outside of your significant other. I've been there, and it's so easy to lose yourself at that age when you're in a relationship.