Ladies....does it have to be a diamond for engagement?

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Belly35

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Feb 1, 2010 1:27 PM
The wife and I years ago (39 years) when the traditional way with a Diamond. Not a bad investment both from a personal and material value.
She loves sapphire (Blue) and she just purchase a Black Diamond cluster ring.
Both rings she can wears with her wedding ring, making nice differences to plain look of a Diamond wedding ring.

I think that a quality gem (don’t go cheap) and classic styling imaging your taste and personality is proper for today engagement and wedding ring. Diamonds are nice but remember the engagement/ wedding ring is reflection of the love of each other so what make you (the bride) happy should be the first consideration when making this decision.
Feb 1, 2010 1:27pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:32 PM
I always get a chuckle out of this. People who need a symbol to show their love, I would argue, aren't really in love in the first place and shouldn't get married.

If I was truly in love, which I never will be, I wouldn't need anything... Especially a ring. Their love would simply be enough.

Women who make demands on their rings... Well... That's a red flag, gentlemen. But don't say Papa Sage didn't try to warn you.
Feb 1, 2010 1:32pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:39 PM
Sage wrote: I always get a chuckle out of this. People who need a symbol to show their love, I would argue, aren't really in love in the first place and shouldn't get married.

If I was truly in love, which I never will be, I wouldn't need anything... Especially a ring. Their love would simply be enough.

Women who make demands on their rings... Well... That's a red flag, gentlemen. But don't say Papa Sage didn't try to warn you.
An engagement ring is a symbol of betrothment and commitment, not of love.
Feb 1, 2010 1:39pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:39 PM
I'd go with whatever makers you happy.
Feb 1, 2010 1:39pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:42 PM
Again, shouldn't your commitment and betrothment (aka love) trancend something man-made like jewelry?
Feb 1, 2010 1:42pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:47 PM
Sage wrote: Again, shouldn't your commitment and betrothment (aka love) trancend something man-made like jewelry?
Yes and no. An engagement ring in itself is a symbol dating back almost 700 years. I think personal agreement and selection of the ring should be something that should not be placed above your love for one another.

Also, betrothment and commitment are not aka love, lol. Love is a factor in getting engaged, but getting engaged is not a factor of love.
Feb 1, 2010 1:47pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:47 PM
I like the look of blue stones. I am not much of a pink girl myself. But as long as it isn't yellow gold, and is either white gold or platinum I don't really mind.

The boyfriend and I have similar taste, I know he will pick out something I like.
Feb 1, 2010 1:47pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:50 PM
I guess I would see berothment and commitment as something that would fall under the definition of true love among life partners.

Obviously, if I was truly in love with something, I wouldn't need a manmade piece of metal to symbolize my commitment to her.
Feb 1, 2010 1:50pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:51 PM
Why would you care if it was yellow gold, if you loved him, bamagirl?
Feb 1, 2010 1:51pm
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Heretic

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Feb 1, 2010 1:52 PM
Girl best be happy with an onion ring. Lot more value in a good batch of those than in any stone.
Feb 1, 2010 1:52pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:52 PM
Sage wrote: Again, shouldn't your commitment and betrothment (aka love) trancend
something man-made like jewelry?
Holy crap! I actually agree with Sage? I have somewhat the same view on marriage in general too. I don't need a piece of paper to prove i love someone and am 100% committed to them.

Also never really understood women actually picking out their own ring, or 'upgrading' rings... Just plain odd to me.
Feb 1, 2010 1:52pm
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bamagirl

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Feb 1, 2010 1:54 PM
Sage wrote: Why would you care if it was yellow gold, if you loved him, bamagirl?
I don't need a ring to signify our love. I actually wouldn't really care if I got a ring. I would want a wedding band though.
Feb 1, 2010 1:54pm
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Feb 1, 2010 1:56 PM
Well you clearly care, if you already know what kind of ring you want and which you don't want. If you didn't care... You wouldn't have thought about it.
Feb 1, 2010 1:56pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:00 PM
Sage wrote: Well you clearly care, if you already know what kind of ring you want and which you don't want. If you didn't care... You wouldn't have thought about it.
Honestly, other than not yellow gold I know nothing of what I want. I don't like anything yellow gold, hence where that choice came from.
Feb 1, 2010 2:00pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:02 PM
Talking about diamonds eh? Just hypothetical? ;)

I need more details of some sort.
Feb 1, 2010 2:02pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:06 PM
Fly4Fun wrote: Talking about diamonds eh? Just hypothetical? ;)

I need more details of some sort.
I'm getting engaged to myself, and my other personality is nervous about getting something I'll like so I was gathering some style suggestions:)
Feb 1, 2010 2:06pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:07 PM
I haven't really thought about what kind of ring I want. I want my engagement to be a complete surprise so there will be no ring shopping, etc. Hopefully my future husband has good taste! Haha.
Feb 1, 2010 2:07pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:09 PM
sej wrote:
Fly4Fun wrote: Talking about diamonds eh? Just hypothetical? ;)

I need more details of some sort.
I'm getting engaged to myself, and my other personality is nervous about getting something I'll like so I was gathering some style suggestions:)
Hmmmmm, for some reason I feel like one of you is lying to me.
Fab4Runner wrote: I haven't really thought about what kind of ring I want. I want my engagement to be a complete surprise so there will be no ring shopping, etc. Hopefully my future husband has good taste! Haha.
And man... you're getting whipped. I thought you were the girl that was never going to get married... Wildcats must be putting out pretty well ;)
Feb 1, 2010 2:09pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:10 PM
Fab4Runner wrote: I haven't really thought about what kind of ring I want. I want my engagement to be a complete surprise so there will be no ring shopping, etc. Hopefully my future husband has good taste! Haha.
Other than requested suggestions/information, this is my game plan.
Feb 1, 2010 2:10pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:12 PM
So u wouldn't like a yellow gold engagement ring the love of ur life got u? Smh.
Feb 1, 2010 2:12pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:14 PM
Sage wrote: So u wouldn't like a yellow gold engagement ring the love of ur life got u? Smh.
Not to answer for bamagirl, but if he was the love of my life he'd likely know I don't like yellow gold, nor do I ever wear yellow gold.
Feb 1, 2010 2:14pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:22 PM
Sage wrote: I guess I would see berothment and commitment as something that would fall under the definition of true love among life partners.

You need love to marry someone, but you do not need to marry someone to be in love.
Feb 1, 2010 2:22pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:23 PM
sej wrote: I'm getting engaged to myself, and my other personality is nervous about getting something I'll like so I was gathering some style suggestions:)
great, just what freehuddle needs, someone else with multiple personalities haha.
Feb 1, 2010 2:23pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:24 PM
sej wrote:
Sage wrote: So u wouldn't like a yellow gold engagement ring the love of ur life got u? Smh.
Not to answer for bamagirl, but if he was the love of my life he'd likely know I don't like yellow gold, nor do I ever wear yellow gold.
Thanks SEJ. First of all I doubt a man who loves you is going to purposefully get you something he knows you don't like...and if he does well maybe it isn't meant to be.

It's like your significant other buying you a horrible sweater....except you aren't going to be expected to wear that sweater the rest of your life.

You make me sound as if the only reason I am dating him is because I one day might get a ring. I don't expect it to be a huge ring...I actually hate big rings and would kick him for spending a crazy amount of money. The "love of my life" knows me, knows what I like. Like I said I know he will pick out something I will love.
Feb 1, 2010 2:24pm
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Feb 1, 2010 2:32 PM
Fly4Fun wrote:
sej wrote:
Fly4Fun wrote: Talking about diamonds eh? Just hypothetical? ;)

I need more details of some sort.
I'm getting engaged to myself, and my other personality is nervous about getting something I'll like so I was gathering some style suggestions:)
Hmmmmm, for some reason I feel like one of you is lying to me.
Fab4Runner wrote: I haven't really thought about what kind of ring I want. I want my engagement to be a complete surprise so there will be no ring shopping, etc. Hopefully my future husband has good taste! Haha.
And man... you're getting whipped. I thought you were the girl that was never going to get married... Wildcats must be putting out pretty well ;)
Well I won't lie he is great in the sack, haha. I really have no idea if I will get married or not. If so it's still years away.
Feb 1, 2010 2:32pm