See how we can let you guys think you're right, then you stop whinning. Gotcha.

jmog wrote:
You do realize that the divorce rate among people who don't live together before marriage is MUCH lower than the ones who do live together right?

Yes, but inferring causation would be incorrect, IMO.

jmog wrote: You do realize that the divorce rate among people who don't live together before marriage is MUCH lower than the ones who do live together right?

Oh really? Is that a question that's on the divorce papers? Do they ask EVERYONE that gets divorced that? I'm gonna guess..probably not. :rolleyes:

jmog wrote:

GoChiefs wrote:

ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: The thought of seeing a gf in my house every day I come home for work upsets my stomach.

And then you marry her and realize how horrible it is living with her..so you divorce in a year..yeah..good call.

You do realize that the divorce rate among people who don't live together before marriage is MUCH lower than the ones who do live together right?

90% of all statistics are made up on the spot.

GoChiefs wrote:

jmog wrote: You do realize that the divorce rate among people who don't live together before marriage is MUCH lower than the ones who do live together right?

Oh really? Is that a question that's on the divorce papers? Do they ask EVERYONE that gets divorced that? I'm gonna guess..probably not. :rolleyes:

No they don't, it is a bullshit statistic taken from too small a sample to be of any importance. I have been divorced and they had no clue if I did or did not live with partner before we were married.

iluvz wrote: Eh.. The conversation wasn't like him saying 'can I move in with you' more along the lines of maybe we should think about just moving in together... But I love my house, and no way in hell am I moving out of it. So yeah, when u boil it down.. It would be him moving in with me.

In that case it sounds like he was "testing the waters" so to speak. I would not be upset at all if I were him as long as both of you are happy with the current arrangment.

Sounds like he has already moved in if he hasn't left in a month. If you aren't sure you want him there fulltime, I'd say something now before it is too late. If you are uncertain, then you probably aren't ready.

But, who knows. Life sometimes just happens and you just roll with it.

Don't know really what to tell you.

power i wrote: This is why everyone should marry a fireman. Every third day and it's like a vacation at my house.

(j/k Honey!!)

I got a farmer! May-Nov is all mine! And he's home just in time for the winter months to keep me warm.

BCSbunk wrote:

GoChiefs wrote:

jmog wrote: You do realize that the divorce rate among people who don't live together before marriage is MUCH lower than the ones who do live together right?

Oh really? Is that a question that's on the divorce papers? Do they ask EVERYONE that gets divorced that? I'm gonna guess..probably not. :rolleyes:

No they don't, it is a bullshit statistic taken from too small a sample to be of any importance. I have been divorced and they had no clue if I did or did not live with partner before we were married.

Virtually every legitimate study that's been done in Western countries has concluded that the divorce rate for couple that live together before marriage is significantly higher than for those who do not. However, researchers generally feel (which means they can't prove it statistically ) that cohabitation itself isn't the cause - it's more likely that those who live together first are also more inclined to stray or split to begin with.

Bear in mind that a tendency means that there will still be plenty of examples to the contrary. I would guess that "when" and "why" a couple moves in together before marriage would be a huge clue - one of my sisters-in-law (married to husband #6 at age 46) tends to move in with a new guy every time she gets a few weeks behind in the rent.

power i wrote: See how we can let you guys think you're right, then you stop whinning. Gotcha.

Actually, it's the other way around. And there was no end of whining (since there was no whining in the first place), we men just realize it is foolish to argue with a fool!