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iluvz

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Dec 28, 2009 3:22 PM
So guys... If you brought up the topic of moving in with your girl, and she said no... Would you be ok with that? Or would you be upset? Possibly end it? Not sure what the typical reaction to expect would be?!
Dec 28, 2009 3:22pm
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Fab1b

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Dec 28, 2009 3:23 PM
Depends on where I thought we were at in the relationship.
Dec 28, 2009 3:23pm
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sleeper

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Dec 28, 2009 3:26 PM
I would be okay with it, unless we were engaged or had been banging for 5+ years exclusively.
Dec 28, 2009 3:26pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Dec 28, 2009 3:27 PM
Well I'd never live with a girl before marriage.. not for religious reasons, but b/c I'm not giving up freedom for a girl I'm only dating. So... i guess I'd ask her why she can't seem to find any available apartments if she suggested moving in.
Dec 28, 2009 3:27pm
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power i

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Dec 28, 2009 3:31 PM
I'm not a guy but seeing that most men are usually so desperate, they should be more than happy to wait around til you decide what you want.
Dec 28, 2009 3:31pm
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Dec 28, 2009 3:36 PM
iluvz wrote: So guys... If you brought up the topic of moving in with your girl, and she said no... Would you be ok with that? Or would you be upset? Possibly end it? Not sure what the typical reaction to expect would be?!
Get ready for the volume on the insecurity to hit 11.

The crappy thing for me is, I've asked three different people to move in with me over the course of a lifetime, thinking each time they'd say "no" and that would open the door for my "we aren't on the same page" speech. Sadly, they all moved in and my little speech didn't really make sense a couple months later.
Dec 28, 2009 3:36pm
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iluvz

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Dec 28, 2009 3:37 PM
Officially dating not quite a year. Known each other longer. His daughter basically has taken over my spare bed room as hers. He hasn't left my house in like a month. And I'm ok with that. I guess its just the control part of me... I like knowing there's the option of him NOT being there if I don't want him too be. Plus I'm neurotic about my space, and things being exactly as they should, and where they should. And if he moves in I'd possibly have to compromise on that. That's awful of me right?
Dec 28, 2009 3:37pm
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Dec 28, 2009 3:38 PM
Quick question: Am I needing her to move in to pay my rent or other bills? If so, I'd be upset. If not, I'd be cool and tell her that she doesn't need to live with me in order to bring me a sandwich.
Dec 28, 2009 3:38pm
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Dec 28, 2009 3:41 PM
I would be ok with it if she let me go "backdoor" as a consolation prize.
Dec 28, 2009 3:41pm
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iluvz

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Dec 28, 2009 3:41 PM
Power I... That's hysterical!! And actually, he's not desperate. He's actually quite amazing. And its not that I don't know what I want... Its just that I honestly don't know if I'm capable of doing what I want! I am seriously OCD anymore lol
Dec 28, 2009 3:41pm
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Dec 28, 2009 3:41 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: Well I'd never live with a girl before marriage.. not for religious reasons, but b/c I'm not giving up freedom for a girl I'm only dating. So... i guess I'd ask her why she can't seem to find any available apartments if she suggested moving in.
Would NEVER marry a woman without living with them first. Just b/c you love a woman..doesn't mean you can live with her.
Dec 28, 2009 3:41pm
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iluvz

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Dec 28, 2009 3:44 PM
No backdoor Wes. Not happening. Lol and he doesn't need me to pay bills, nor do I need him to pay mine :)
Dec 28, 2009 3:44pm
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enigmaax

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Dec 28, 2009 3:45 PM
iluvz wrote: I'm neurotic
Wow...and a woman....would've never guessed.
Dec 28, 2009 3:45pm
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enigmaax

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Dec 28, 2009 3:46 PM
GoChiefs wrote: Just b/c you love a woman..doesn't mean you can live with her.
Like I always say, "Women...can't live with 'em....can't live with 'em."
Dec 28, 2009 3:46pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Dec 28, 2009 3:47 PM
GoChiefs wrote:

Would NEVER marry a woman without living with them first. Just b/c you love a woman..doesn't mean you can live with her.
The thought of seeing a gf in my house every day I come home for work upsets my stomach.
Dec 28, 2009 3:47pm
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iluvz

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Dec 28, 2009 3:50 PM
Whatever Zwick. You can act like you're the man. But I recall quite well you saying far different things than that lol
Dec 28, 2009 3:50pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Dec 28, 2009 3:52 PM
what r u talkin about
Dec 28, 2009 3:52pm
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power i

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Dec 28, 2009 3:53 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: what r u talkin about
You just got busted. :D
Dec 28, 2009 3:53pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Dec 28, 2009 3:54 PM
shiiiiit
Dec 28, 2009 3:54pm
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iluvz

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Dec 28, 2009 3:55 PM
All I'm sayin is LOL :-D
Dec 28, 2009 3:55pm
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Dec 28, 2009 3:55 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: The thought of seeing a gf in my house every day I come home for work upsets my stomach.
And then you marry her and realize how horrible it is living with her..so you divorce in a year..yeah..good call.
Dec 28, 2009 3:55pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Dec 28, 2009 3:55 PM
GoChiefs wrote:

And then you marry her and realize how horrible it is living with her..so you divorce in a year..yeah..good call.
No u just suck it up.

Take a lil more overseas projects for work.
Work some longer hours.
You're golden.
Dec 28, 2009 3:55pm
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Dec 28, 2009 4:00 PM
iluvz wrote: Whatever Zwick. You can act like you're the man. But I recall quite well you saying far different things than that lol

Can I frame this quote?
Dec 28, 2009 4:00pm
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Dec 28, 2009 4:01 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: Take a lil more overseas projects for work.
So that's why I'm laid off huh? Dick. :dodgy:
Dec 28, 2009 4:01pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Dec 28, 2009 4:01 PM
GoChiefs wrote:
ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: Take a lil more overseas projects for work.
So that's why I'm laid off huh? Dick. :dodgy:
Take that up with Timmy.
Dec 28, 2009 4:01pm