Con_Alma;1486495 wrote:...depends what your desired outcome is.

If you are seeking to let your view be known, have at it. If the desired outcome is to try and humiliate them, not sure your any better than they are.

If you are trying to change their view....you are wasting yoru time.

I think accepting it and tolerating it is a decision to permit it in your prsence. Simply asking them to respect you by keeping such views private while in your presence isn't an unreasonable request.

Fly4Fun;1486504 wrote:To humiliate someone that person must know that what they are being humiliated for is wrong, and when someone points out that what they were doing was wrong to the extent that they are humiliated then maybe they won't do that behavior in the future. While it might not be the nicest way to try to curb behavior, it's certainly not as bad as someone acting in a prejudiced and hateful manner towards another human being.

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Con_Alma;1486506 wrote:Even if convinced they are wrong, a person still may not be able to be humiliated. That would require the person being concerned about what others think of them. Many people don't. I know I sure don't.

Fly4Fun;1486524 wrote:Many people don't care what strangers think of them. I think the majority of people care what certain people think. I know I care what my family, close friends and significant other think. But beyond those, most people do care what others think whether they acknowledge it or not, that's the reason societal norms exist such as proper manners or how to dress in particular situations.

reclegend22;1486522 wrote:Another way to look at the situation might be to think back to the era that many of these types of people grew up, when racial hatred such as this was actually the common thinking of the time. They grew up around it, and these beliefs were instilled in them at a very early age in many cases. Bad habits don't die easily. It's doesn't excuse their ignorance, but it does at least explain it.

Sonofanump;1486648 wrote:Whenever old people use the word "colored" I ask if they mean purple or green.

Devils Advocate;1486492 wrote:I have a few in my family, and I know of a few. How do you respond to them?

In a public setting, I usually ignore them, or pretend that I didnt hear what they said.

In private, I tend to call them out on it and halarity ensues.


Discuss,

Gblock;1486745 wrote:we had a few in my moms side of the family. usually the only times ive seen people change their views is if they have a mixed grandchild or in some cases develop a great friendship with a person of color at work. i have seen some of the most staunch racists completely change their ways when they have a mixed grandchild both in my family and in my hometown

HitsRus;1486860 wrote:elaborating on my earlier post...

A neighbor of mine growing up served in the Pacific theater in World War II and was unapologetically anti Asian and in particular anti Japanese. One day, while visiting at my parents house my son, who worked for a Japanese company, met him and was treated to a diatribe of anti asian rhetoric. No doubt, this man's strong feelings, born of negative experiences was passed to his children. These kinds of feelings deeply instilled in youth, are not going to be legislated away.


So how do I respond to it?
I usually try to convert them to libertarianism, or conservatism, or at least to the Republican party. If they are a member of said groups, then I ask them to be true and hold to the values they profess. It is more difficult with Dems and Libs....they really are the worst kind of racist...wolves in sheep's clothing....and some don't even realize it. Divide, parse, section, us all into little groups, for their financial and political gain....all the while pretending, intentionally or unintentionally, to be 'friends'. Alan West and other black conservatives have alluded to this...and of course, get shouted down or ostracized by the media or sychophant black "leadership" who make their living keeping 'their people' ensnared in a web of dependency. Instead of Condi Rice, Colin Powell, Thomas Sowell, Hermain Caine, Clarence Thomas...we get Jesse and Al Sharpton and the incessant drumbeat around the Trevon Martin case. I suspect when subsequent generations look at this period they will discuss the contrdiction of what we said and legislated, and what we did in making sure that racism wasn't eradicated, but perpetuated and institutionalized in government and media.

Sonofanump;1486648 wrote:Whenever old people use the word "colored" I ask if they mean purple or green.