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Nov 8, 2011 11:03 AM
Con_Alma;963356 wrote:Our earnings are household earnings as opposed to individual earnings. What I make as compared to what she makes is irrelevant. What we make is what truly matters to us.

No, it would not bother me at all.
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Nov 8, 2011 11:03am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:04 AM
Con_Alma;963356 wrote:Our earnings are household earnings as opposed to individual earnings. What I make as compared to what she makes is irrelevant. What we make is what truly matters to us.

No, it would not bother me at all.
That might become truer when we're married, I don't know. Right now, obviously, everything is seperate and it's pretty easy to distinguish.
Nov 8, 2011 11:04am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:04 AM
What's her golf handicap compared to yours? She got you beat there too?
Nov 8, 2011 11:04am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:06 AM
Commander of Awesome;963366 wrote:What's her golf handicap compared to yours? She got you beat there too?
No, but she's learning from the best so I guess it's possible (ok it's not really possible since she's a girl)

*** last part is a joke.. every single girl on the LPGA tour would beat me.
Nov 8, 2011 11:06am
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Con_Alma

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Nov 8, 2011 11:11 AM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;963363 wrote:That might become truer when we're married, I don't know. Right now, obviously, everything is seperate and it's pretty easy to distinguish.
You did ask if your spouse made more which is why I answered it that way.

What is the true concern regarding who makes more?

Someone most likely is going to make more. Why would it matter who?
Nov 8, 2011 11:11am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:15 AM
Con_Alma;963383 wrote:Someone most likely is going to make more. Why would it matter who?
Because guys are smarter than women who have a smaller brain, 1/3 the size of ours; It's science.
Nov 8, 2011 11:15am
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Con_Alma

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Nov 8, 2011 11:18 AM
Intelligence doesn't always equate to value being brought to an employer or the pure fact of timing as it relates to opportunity.

There are some really smart people in the world who make less than idiot entertainers.
Nov 8, 2011 11:18am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:18 AM
Con_Alma;963399 wrote:Intelligence doesn't always equate to value being brought to an employer or the pure fact of timing as it relates to opportunity.

There are some really smart people in the world who make less than idiot entertainers.
Why do you even respond to his stupidity?
Nov 8, 2011 11:18am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:19 AM
The bottomline is all I care about, don't really care how we get where we want to be.
Nov 8, 2011 11:19am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:21 AM
My fiancée works for the state. I make about 2.5x what she does. I would love it if she got a raise.
Nov 8, 2011 11:21am
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Con_Alma

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Nov 8, 2011 11:23 AM
se-alum;963402 wrote:The bottomline is all I care about, don't really care how we get where we want to be.
Exactly.

Total income is what determines how stable the household is.
Nov 8, 2011 11:23am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:23 AM
derek bomar;963405 wrote:My fiancée works for the state. I make about 2.5x what she does. I would love it if she got a raise.
Quit bragging!!!!

On a serious note, is she worried about Issue 2 today or does it not have much affect on her?
Nov 8, 2011 11:23am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:26 AM
Con_Alma;963410 wrote:Exactly.

Total income is what determines how stable the household is.
Wouldn't you rather have them fairly equal though incase of a loss of a job?
Nov 8, 2011 11:26am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:29 AM
I would want the most possible. If one can earn more are you suggesting they shouldn't so that the salaries remain equal? I say go earn more.

If it's loss of job that concerns you, why not encourage the spouse to to earn more and live on an equal amount stashing the difference away?
Nov 8, 2011 11:29am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:33 AM
Con_Alma;963425 wrote:I would want the most possible. If one can earn more are you suggesting they shouldn't so that the salaries remain equal? I say go earn more.

If it's loss of job that concerns you, why not encourage the spouse to to earn more and live on an equal amount stashing the difference away?
No quite the opposite... I'm saying maybe you're not living up to your end of the bargain if you can potentially earn more and are not.
Nov 8, 2011 11:33am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:35 AM
Wouldn't (and didn't) bother me.

Wife made more than me for 2 years while I was in a sales position out of college...We have a baby now and she works part time and I'm in a good salaried position, so I obviously earn more at this point...
Nov 8, 2011 11:35am
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Con_Alma

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Nov 8, 2011 11:38 AM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;963432 wrote:No quite the opposite... I'm saying maybe you're not living up to your end of the bargain if you can potentially earn more and are not.
I don't dispute that. Maybe you're not working to your full economic potential but someone else making more money doesn't confirm that.

If you are living up to your potential and still make less does it really matter? You're makeing as much as you can.

I can only answer it from the perspective that both are earning their potential. Does it bother me if my spouse earned more. The answer is still, heck no.
Nov 8, 2011 11:38am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:43 AM
Con_Alma;963437 wrote:I don't dispute that. Maybe you're not working to your full economic potential but someone else making more money doesn't confirm that.

If you are living up to your potential and still make less does it really matter? You're makeing as much as you can.

I can only answer it from the perspective that both are earning their potential. Does it bother me if my spouse earned more. The answer is still, heck no.
But can possibly make you realize it.

No ones technically ever going to achieve their full potential earning. You can always make more somehow someway. It comes down to willingness to do so.
Nov 8, 2011 11:43am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:46 AM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;963454 wrote:But can possibly make you realize it.

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No doubt. That just means that you not earning (near) your potential is what would be bothering you as opposed to someone else making more than you.
Nov 8, 2011 11:46am
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Nov 8, 2011 11:49 AM
Yes it would bother me, but not in the sense we are talking about.

Her student loan payment would max out, and that would make it about $2400 per month in student loans, and that's just ridiculous.
Nov 8, 2011 11:49am
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Nov 8, 2011 12:11 PM
I'd love for my wife to make more money!

I don't know why it'd be that big of a deal, unless you have "little man syndrome" or an "inferiority complex."

Heck, I'd love for one of us to have a full-time job!
Nov 8, 2011 12:11pm
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Nov 8, 2011 12:21 PM
Hell, that was the plan all along. I need someone to subsidize my lifestyle while I pursue my hobby of teaching. There is a reason I didn't date all the pretty girls in education classes....I knew what they would make.

The money is ours, so why would it matter where it came from. I am very proud of wife, and how she rocketed to the top of her field. Being a dean a university also throws in free tuition for the kids...so she has that covered....
Nov 8, 2011 12:21pm
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Nov 8, 2011 12:31 PM
For years my wife supported our family with a higher income than me .. It is a family and the sharing of funds and the equal distribution of those funds is part of the husband and wife relationship. Bill paying, buying and investing should be a equal and shared process. This will make both comfortable that the responsibility of the welfare of the family is on both parties. </SPAN>
It also prepares her an or you with the knowledge of were the money is, where it has gone and how much is there in case something should happen. Fewer surprises in a marriage the better …</SPAN>

Encourage her and be supportive … you’re a team </SPAN>
Nov 8, 2011 12:31pm
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Nov 8, 2011 12:33 PM
georgemc80;963528 wrote:Hell, that was the plan all along. I need someone to subsidize my lifestyle while I pursue my hobby of teaching. There is a reason I didn't date all the pretty girls in education classes....I knew what they would make.
But, but, but....teachers make 43% more than private sector workers, work 6 hours a day, have 3 1/2 months off in the summer, weeks at Christmas and sring break, don't pay anything for their lavish pension and cadillac health care plans, have job security for life, can retire at 42, etc etc etc.....

As for my family, she already does and it doesn't bother me one bit.
Nov 8, 2011 12:33pm
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Nov 8, 2011 12:59 PM
wkfan;963547 wrote:teachers make 43% more than private sector workers
Say wut?
Nov 8, 2011 12:59pm