ernest_t_bass;741968 wrote:Not necessarily. I think it is more human nature. Everyone wants to win, at any cost. There are many instances where there are exceptions. If I'm not winning, one would hope that I work my butt off to get ahead. But the sad truth is, many people will try to "bring others down to their level." Human nature, we do it through gossiping, putting others down, spreading rumors, etc. (This example has nothing to do with teaching, or this public/private debate). However, if I'm winning (insert Charlie Sheen comment) I care much less about "bringing others up to my level" than I would if I were losing.
This makes me better understand your Public versus Private mentality. Thank you for sharing it.
This is not my view at all. It's not a winning versus losing issue with me. I make a pretty good living. I don't ever have to worry about my wife or children's future. I'm not competing with anyone else and I hope if your skill set allows you to that you make more than I ever have.
There are costs to winning. I would never agree to win at "any cost". There are things in this world to me that are nonnegotiable...at any price/cost.
You mentioned some very interesting things like others "caring less" about bringing you up and their desire to bring you down. I've never worried about others and it was they that I needed to gain revenue from...just like you. I don't want others to help me or bring me up and I don't care if they are trying to tear me down. It's been my experience that if I focused on those things I would have lost sight of what they wanted as a service from me and how I could bring the best value to them in providing it.
In my opinion that's how people's incomes rise.