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Trueblue23

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Jan 28, 2011 1:17 AM
We're in no hurry. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 1/2 years, and it's obviously something we talk about. Not gonna rush it though.
Jan 28, 2011 1:17am
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Tobias Fünke

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Jan 28, 2011 2:35 AM
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Jan 28, 2011 2:35am
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sportswizuhrd

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Jan 28, 2011 2:36 AM
wildcats20;655827 wrote:Fab4 is relentless

The closest I have been pressured has been from my R to propose to her before you do to your R. Haha.
Jan 28, 2011 2:36am
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bwcomet89

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Jan 28, 2011 4:13 AM
Girl would pester me about it often, and just as I was about to cave and go get a ring, she dumped me. Problem fixed itself.

Just because you want to get married, doesn't mean it has to be now.
Jan 28, 2011 4:13am
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Con_Alma

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Jan 28, 2011 4:48 AM
Pressure is self imposed. I chose to not feel any pressure at all about getting engaged to my now wife. We dated for four years before I decided to ask her to marry. No pressure at all.
Jan 28, 2011 4:48am
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Jan 28, 2011 5:05 AM
If a woman is willing to leave her bf just because he won't give in and marry her, even if he's not ready, she doesn't deserve marriage or her bf.
Jan 28, 2011 5:05am
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Jan 28, 2011 5:32 AM
sportswizuhrd;656103 wrote:The closest I have been pressured has been from my R to propose to her before you do to your R. Haha.
Maybe you and wildcats should just plan it and do it at the same time :P.
Jan 28, 2011 5:32am
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Fab4Runner

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Jan 28, 2011 8:33 AM
sportswizuhrd;656103 wrote:The closest I have been pressured has been from my R to propose to her before you do to your R. Haha.


Haha this is awesome.
Jan 28, 2011 8:33am
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gerb131

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Jan 28, 2011 8:48 AM
After 10 yrs the heat has been on
Jan 28, 2011 8:48am
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O-Trap

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Jan 28, 2011 8:50 AM
sleeper;655859 wrote:Females are always trying to wife me, but no pressure here, I'm still counting my paper.

G.
Jan 28, 2011 8:50am
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CenterBHSFan

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Jan 28, 2011 9:07 AM
Yeah. My story is slightly different, though. He was the one pressuring me, even with knowing since day one that I have absolutely no interest on having that commitment ever again. Or at least anytime in the next 10-20 years lol.
We've since split. Which is the best thing for him, really. He deserves to get the kind of life that he wants.
Jan 28, 2011 9:07am
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Jan 28, 2011 9:12 AM
No pressure here to get engaged. i proposed three months after meeting her.

But we were engaged for two years before getting married. We got bugged all the time about whether we were actually going to get married. It didnt help she got pregnant two months after we were engaged. But we have been together 8 years now, and married for 6.
Jan 28, 2011 9:12am
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Fab4Runner

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Jan 28, 2011 10:09 AM
Okay I couldn't actually type out a response last night on my phone since I have no "a" key.

In all seriousness..I do give wildcats shit all the time about buying me something sparkly but I am only half serious. Would I love it if he proposed? Of course. We know we're going to get married someday so to me it's not a big deal to bring it up. That said...I know neither of us can afford a wedding right now. We don't even live in the same city and have a lot of decisions to make before that happens. As a girl it is fun to think about what our wedding will be like (my only hope is that everyone has a blast and it's the most fun they've ever had at one) and it would obviously seem a little less crazy to be planning things if I actually had the ring, lol. Either way I do not care when he proposes to me. I will wait until the time is right for both of us. I do want to have 4 kids so I don't want to wait until I'm 30 years old to even get engaged...but aside from that I truly am in no hurry.

PS it is also fun saying things about it and seeing the reaction I get from friends (Mexi, Tooth, etc.).
Jan 28, 2011 10:09am
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Jan 28, 2011 10:26 AM
Don't get engaged until you bang her best friend

Just a reminder that we are still on the OC
Jan 28, 2011 10:26am
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Jan 28, 2011 10:54 AM
Fab4Runner;656295 wrote:Okay I couldn't actually type out a response last night on my phone since I have no "a" key.

In all seriousness..I do give wildcats shit all the time about buying me something sparkly but I am only half serious. Would I love it if he proposed? Of course. We know we're going to get married someday so to me it's not a big deal to bring it up. That said...I know neither of us can afford a wedding right now. We don't even live in the same city and have a lot of decisions to make before that happens. As a girl it is fun to think about what our wedding will be like (my only hope is that everyone has a blast and it's the most fun they've ever had at one) and it would obviously seem a little less crazy to be planning things if I actually had the ring, lol. Either way I do not care when he proposes to me. I will wait until the time is right for both of us. I do want to have 4 kids so I don't want to wait until I'm 30 years old to even get engaged...but aside from that I truly am in no hurry.

PS it is also fun saying things about it and seeing the reaction I get from friends (Mexi, Tooth, etc.).

worst, poster, ever...ignore list you and wildcats go
Jan 28, 2011 10:54am
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June18

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Jan 28, 2011 11:15 AM
Marriage is dumb
Jan 28, 2011 11:15am
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Jan 28, 2011 11:17 AM
June18;656401 wrote:Marriage is awesome
Fixed.
Jan 28, 2011 11:17am
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Jan 28, 2011 11:24 AM
June18;656401 wrote:Marriage is work

Full Time, no holidays, or weekends off.

For sure!!!! :D
Jan 28, 2011 11:24am
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Jan 28, 2011 11:29 AM
coyotes22;656411 wrote:Full Time, no holidays, or weekends off.

For sure!!!! :D

That's fair.
Jan 28, 2011 11:29am
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Jan 28, 2011 11:34 AM
None at all. I had asked her father's permission, but her parents were surprised when I proposed to her.
Jan 28, 2011 11:34am
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that_guy

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Jan 28, 2011 12:07 PM
I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half, I'm 33 & she is 25, we've discussed marriage, and I'll probably propose sometime this summer. She's made a few comments, but hasn't really pressured me, her family hasn't said anything either.
My family on the other hand is a different story, I've got 7 younger siblings and all but two of them are married or engaged, getting married before 25 is the norm in that area. My Mom hasn't said much, but my two sisters and one of my sister in laws won't shut up about it. After a certain point it gets annoying as hell, it's not going to change my timing, and if anything it'll cause me to wait even longer to propose.
Jan 28, 2011 12:07pm
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Jan 28, 2011 12:08 PM
bigkahuna;655892 wrote:If you want to get technical, Mrs. BK and I only dated for about a month and a half before I proposed. We dated for 5 months then she broke up with me for about a month because she had graduated from her nursing program and started working full time right after we started dating and felt that I was immature for not having at least a steady part time job while finishing student teaching (Sounds shitty I know).

The point I'm trying to make is that I knew when the time was right. The best part about it was that nobody saw it coming. Her dad knew because I asked him, but he was even taken aback by it. Do it when you're ready and fuck everyone else.
This sounds like a marriage that I could enjoy....
Jan 28, 2011 12:08pm
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Jan 28, 2011 1:42 PM
Fab4Runner;656295 wrote: In all seriousness..I do give wildcats shit all the time about buying me something sparkly but I am only half serious. .
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Jan 28, 2011 1:42pm
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Jan 28, 2011 1:55 PM
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Jan 28, 2011 1:55pm
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MontyBrunswick

Jan 29, 2011 5:20 PM
My thoughts on marriage:

Fuck that
Jan 29, 2011 5:20pm