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Jan 27, 2011 9:38 PM
Who was it from? How did you deal with it?

My girlfriend isnt bad at all. She makes a few comments every now and then but its nothing that bothers me.

however

Her sister and aunts are awful, my mom isnt too far behind. It gets pretty annoying after awhile and it has gotten much worse since I graduated and started making some money. I plan on doing it this year, just get tired of the questions.
Jan 27, 2011 9:38pm
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wildcats20

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Jan 27, 2011 9:48 PM
Fab4 is relentless
Jan 27, 2011 9:48pm
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O-Trap

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Jan 27, 2011 9:49 PM
Nope. Did it in my own time.
Jan 27, 2011 9:49pm
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Jan 27, 2011 9:50 PM
Nope, and I took my damn time as well. I'd tell her sister, aunts, and your mom to piss off or you'll delay it even longer.
Jan 27, 2011 9:50pm
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O-Trap

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Jan 27, 2011 9:51 PM
"Not another word about it ... or NO GRANDCHILDREN/NIECES/NEPHEWS/etc.!"

Beat them at their own game.
Jan 27, 2011 9:51pm
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Mr. 300

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Jan 27, 2011 9:52 PM
Nope. Will celebrate 20 years this summer.
Jan 27, 2011 9:52pm
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Jan 27, 2011 9:56 PM
I heard it all the time. Friends, family, married friends, the girl. You name it, I probably heard it from them.

I just didn't let it affect me. I knew there were things I had to accomplish and do before I was going to get married. I knew both of us had to be done with college so our student loans would be a lot less; both parents said if we were to get married then we'd have to pay for college ourselves (this was said to me before I went to college and met my wife, and also said by her parents to her before she met me). I knew that getting married would just prevent some things from happening, and it is true. I didn't want to have to think and act for two, I just wanted to have no worries when I wanted to accomplish something. We actually got married a year before I really planned on, but it was time, and am glad it happened when it did.

Now, it's the annoying "when are the kids coming..." I hate that even more.
Jan 27, 2011 9:56pm
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Little Danny

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Jan 27, 2011 9:59 PM
I dated Mrs. Little Danny for 3 years before I proposed. She never pestered me before we got engaged. I found out after we got married that she was only giving me one more year to make an honest woman out of her...
Jan 27, 2011 9:59pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:04 PM
Females are always trying to wife me, but no pressure here, I'm still counting my paper.
Jan 27, 2011 10:04pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:07 PM
No pressure from Lady D'Friskies - although it was four years before I proposed. Both of us realized I had to finish college, and then get a job before we could get married - she was going to have to leave her job and move to a new city where she didn't know anyone but me. You don't ask someone to do that without a ring.

We were only engaged four months, though - once things were set, I wanted it as much as she did.
Jan 27, 2011 10:07pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:10 PM
Which time?
Jan 27, 2011 10:10pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:10 PM
^I'm in your same boat dude. I haven't really set a timeframe of when I'm going to do it, but her whole family makes comments pretty much all the time. My girlfriend, like yours, isn't bad at all about it. It's mostly her mom, sister and (female) cousin, who all got knocked up and had kids before they were like 18-19. My girlfriend will be 21 in about 3 weeks, so apparently they think she is way behind. I've tried to explain that (like you it sounds like) the only reason I'm waiting is to try and find a job in my career field that offers benefits and the like, so we both don't have to work menial jobs and try to afford a wedding, honeymoon and to start a family. I'll never have a career making 6 figures, because that's what I chose to do in college, but at the very least I would like to have some stability and a set monthly income before we dive into a whole new level of debt lol.
Jan 27, 2011 10:10pm
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Speedofsand

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Jan 27, 2011 10:14 PM
wait until she says "I'm pregnant."
Jan 27, 2011 10:14pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:15 PM
Not a lot. My gf is 27, I'm 25, we've lived together for 2+ years, but she's in grad school now. I figure it'll happen in its own time, probably sooner rather than later.
Jan 27, 2011 10:15pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:20 PM
If you want to get technical, Mrs. BK and I only dated for about a month and a half before I proposed. We dated for 5 months then she broke up with me for about a month because she had graduated from her nursing program and started working full time right after we started dating and felt that I was immature for not having at least a steady part time job while finishing student teaching (Sounds shitty I know).

The point I'm trying to make is that I knew when the time was right. The best part about it was that nobody saw it coming. Her dad knew because I asked him, but he was even taken aback by it. Do it when you're ready and fuck everyone else.
Jan 27, 2011 10:20pm
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Jan 27, 2011 10:39 PM
All day, every day. We moved together and since then its mentioned at least 5 times a day. We've been together 14 months. I'm 24, shes 25. I don't see the rush but hearing about it is getting pretty old.

But as someone said on this site I outkicked my coverage so I put up with it.
Jan 27, 2011 10:39pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:01 PM
no girl right now..but ill have probably 60k in debt after college so i dont plan on getting married til atleast a year out of college and with a decent job and probably not have kids til at least a year after that.
Jan 27, 2011 11:01pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:06 PM
I would never pressure my boyfriend.





Lol.
Jan 27, 2011 11:06pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:07 PM
no girl... don't plan on getting married for a while anyways... it'd be nice to be with someone but seemingly everyone I went to HS with and their brother is getting married early right now and its just not smething that I think I'm ready for
Jan 27, 2011 11:07pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:08 PM
Fab4Runner;655952 wrote:I would never pressure my boyfriend.
Lol.

Not what the word on the street is.



Lol.
Jan 27, 2011 11:08pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:09 PM
darbypitcher22;655954 wrote:no girl... don't plan on getting married for a while anyways... it'd be nice to be with someone but seemingly everyone I went to HS with and their brother is getting married early right now and its just not smething that I think I'm ready for

they probably arent ready either..financially that is.
Jan 27, 2011 11:09pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:13 PM
^^^^

I'm sure that most of them are not.

On the other hand most of them attend OSU and didn't pay for a private school education like we have and also worked and stuff throughout school. So they might be in a little bit better sitauation than I give them credit for
Jan 27, 2011 11:13pm
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Jan 27, 2011 11:17 PM
Red_Skin_Pride;655958 wrote:Not what the word on the street is.



Lol.

Eh. I'm fine with it.
Jan 27, 2011 11:17pm
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tk421

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Jan 27, 2011 11:20 PM
Not getting married anyway. So if some woman wants to pressure me for it, good for her. Hell will freeze over first.
Jan 27, 2011 11:20pm
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Jan 28, 2011 12:35 AM
sleeper;655859 wrote:Females are always trying to wife me, but no pressure here, I'm still counting my paper.

this is actually a dream of mine...ever since i saw your dance moves
Jan 28, 2011 12:35am