Belly need help in Barnsville or Byerville

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Belly35

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Apr 28, 2010 8:33 PM
If you are a long time resident and still live in those two areas please PM Belly if you’re willing to help.

Capsule of the situation: I was give up at birth to my biological birth mom …sister. I was born on the kitchen floor of a old farm house and when the country doctor came to help asking who is this giving birth the family decided to switch names. So I have a legal birth certificate but with the wrong parent / mother name information.
My bio mom was young and unmarried. Some of you many know but I grew-up poor and was moved from family member to family member over my childhood. Over the past 10 years many of the older family member my grandma (Matriarch of the Family), mom and aunts that knew of this are now gone but they have left behind information. Some in the form of letters, Bible, photos and even some attempt to represent a family tree. I have known about the birth switch after I got out of the Army and started to make my own family, I was almost 28 years old. My mom first approached me after the birth of my first daughter and gave me a letter from my bio mom (her younger sister). After that the family and my mom provide no more information. This was a family secret and one of the other reasons was because she died early when I was only thirteen. The family keep this secret and all agreed never to tell or release the information. Three weeks ago one of my relatives stopped in to see me. Told me what is father had told him before he die. He was able to provide me the name of my bio father, job/work at the time and the potential location. After piecing some additional information gather over the years this seemed to be truthful and other points that he had mention fit the story.
He told a story about this guy willing to do the right thing and take the responsibly but my bio mom rejected the offer and the family made a decision also …. the relationship and communication ended. Late my bio mom run off and had other children and rejected me. So the Family rejected her and any attempts to communicate with me.
I have given this much thought and come to a peaceful understanding and not sure I even want to pursue this but if he is still alive …I will make this decision (with my family) of what to do. Please note: I want nothing nor do I need anything from this man family and I expect nothing. I’m even Ok with the idea of being rejected and my worse fear is that I many hurt his family and I don’t want to do that.

This is not a joke so please serious individual if you want to help contact Belly …PM

If you have comments on this threat or feeling about this please comment. I’m open to listen to all aspect of reason both pro and con of contacting this individual and or pursuing this search.
Apr 28, 2010 8:33pm
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Fab1b

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Apr 28, 2010 8:52 PM
Belly nothing but the best wishes in your endeavor!!
Apr 28, 2010 8:52pm
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wes_mantooth

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Apr 28, 2010 9:30 PM
Fab1b wrote: Belly nothing but the best wishes in your endeavor!!
Word....Good luck.
Apr 28, 2010 9:30pm
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ernest_t_bass

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Apr 28, 2010 9:35 PM
Best wish in you endeavor.

Seriously, though. I have two adopted cousins. One had a rough time when he found out his bio-mom had other kids. Took him a few years to get over it. Other cousin... Said, "no, I have no desire to meet my bio-mom. I love my parents."

It's really a "to each his own" thing, and if you feel you have to do it, you will not be at peace until it is done.

Best wishes in your endeavor.
Apr 28, 2010 9:35pm
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Apr 28, 2010 9:37 PM
Fab1b wrote: Belly nothing but the best wishes in your endeavor!!
+1
Apr 28, 2010 9:37pm
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Apr 28, 2010 9:42 PM
Just stopping in to wish you luck since I can't offer any help.
Apr 28, 2010 9:42pm
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Chesapeake

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Apr 28, 2010 9:43 PM
I thought this post was about Farmville.
Apr 28, 2010 9:43pm
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ernest_t_bass

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Apr 28, 2010 9:45 PM
Chesapeake wrote: I thought this post was about Farmville.
It's not.
Apr 28, 2010 9:45pm
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ernest_t_bass

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Apr 28, 2010 9:45 PM
Chesapeake wrote: I thought this post was about Farmville.
It's not.
Apr 28, 2010 9:45pm
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Apr 28, 2010 9:48 PM
ernest_t_bass wrote:
Chesapeake wrote: I thought this post was about Farmville.
It's not.
Oh.
ernest_t_bass wrote:
Chesapeake wrote: I thought this post was about Farmville.
It's not.

Oh.
Apr 28, 2010 9:48pm
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ernest_t_bass

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Apr 28, 2010 9:49 PM
Oh face?
Apr 28, 2010 9:49pm
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Apr 28, 2010 9:54 PM
Barnesville isn't that big of a town, neither is Byesville (I think this is the town you mean?).
Unfortunately, I'm about 35-40 miles from there and don't know anybody from those areas. So, all I can do is wish you good luck in your quest, Belly. But who knows, maybe I can look up a name for you in the phone book. It might turn up something, ya never know.
Apr 28, 2010 9:54pm
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ICEMAN59

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Apr 28, 2010 11:40 PM
Yeah, that's an amazing story.

I wish you the best of luck in coming to the decision that's right for you . . . and best of luck with the search, should you pursue it.
Apr 28, 2010 11:40pm
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Belly35

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Apr 29, 2010 6:41 AM
ICEMAN59 wrote: Yeah, that's an amazing story.

I wish you the best of luck in coming to the decision that's right for you . . . and best of luck with the search, should you pursue it.
Wow! Iceman59 Thanks What a small world, never expected to hear from someone who share the same birthday with me...:D

Thank you for your support...
Apr 29, 2010 6:41am
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Belly35

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Apr 29, 2010 6:46 AM
CenterBHSFan wrote: Barnesville isn't that big of a town, neither is Byesville (I think this is the town you mean?).
Unfortunately, I'm about 35-40 miles from there and don't know anybody from those areas. So, all I can do is wish you good luck in your quest, Belly. But who knows, maybe I can look up a name for you in the phone book. It might turn up something, ya never know.

I have already gone throw the phone book on line and listed the names, adress and phone numbers.
What I was hoping for is someone from those areas that could narrow the search to just a few calls or contacts. I did not want to start calling because I could be contacting maybe the relative and that could create some problem for his family before I have a chance to meet him or not.
Apr 29, 2010 6:46am
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Fred Flintstone

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Apr 29, 2010 7:50 AM
Belly I know that you said that you were a little older than most of us on here. You might be able to find some more info on your biological father depending on when he was born. If he was alive in 1940 you can check the 1940 US Census which was just released earlier this month.
Apr 29, 2010 7:50am
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Belly35

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Apr 29, 2010 8:03 AM
Fred Flintstone wrote: Belly I know that you said that you were a little older than most of us on here. You might be able to find some more info on your biological father depending on when he was born. If he was alive in 1940 you can check the 1940 US Census which was just released earlier this month.
I know his name, where he worked at the time and his last know living area. (barnsville or byesville)

I'm 61years old and from what I have been able to figure out he was around 19-20 in 1949......
Where do I get a report from the US Cenus?
Can I go on line and get this?
Apr 29, 2010 8:03am
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power i

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Apr 29, 2010 8:18 AM
I can't help you out either, but wish you the best and hope you find whatever answers you need.
Apr 29, 2010 8:18am
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Belly35

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Apr 29, 2010 8:27 AM
Let me tell a little more as the story goes:

When my biological mom (let call her A) found out she was pregnant ..the family, she (A) and her sister (let call her B) plotted the family secret.
My mom (B) that raised me was married at the time to a guy that was in the Army serving oversees that just started his one year duty, the man I called dad. He died 20 years ago and he knew, we talked for 10 minutes 2 days before he passed away. I never knew him because …well you’ll find out later.

So once it was confirmed that she (A) was pregnant the family sent a letter to the Army and to my (not the father) serving oversee, married to (B) the sister faking being pregnant and falsifying who was give birth to the country doctor. ( I almost feel like Obama) Informing my dad married to (B) (not the father) of her (B) being pregnant (which she was not). The plan was in action and the beginning of my future was being laid out.

Confusing I know……

I will tell you more later I have to get going……. I do work two jobs….at the same time
Apr 29, 2010 8:27am
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heel023

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Apr 29, 2010 8:39 AM
Good luck.
Apr 29, 2010 8:39am
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CenterBHSFan

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Apr 29, 2010 10:04 AM
Belly your life could make a movie!
Apr 29, 2010 10:04am
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Pick6

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Apr 29, 2010 10:07 AM
belly, pm me.. i live around the area. the age might be a problem though. dont know a WHOLE bunch of older people, but some.
Apr 29, 2010 10:07am
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Belly35

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Apr 29, 2010 10:27 AM
CenterBHSFan wrote: Belly your life could make a movie!


It not over it gets better .... hint .... (A) comes back after few years (time line a little skewed) pregnant ……

Note: some information I have is pieced together and the ..when... is not alway a known time frame but close I think
Apr 29, 2010 10:27am
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Apr 29, 2010 10:35 AM
I hope you find what you are looking for my friend. You might want to make a trip to the county seat in the county of which these towns are a part of and check some records in the probate court. Best of luck.
Apr 29, 2010 10:35am
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Apr 29, 2010 11:04 AM
i grew up in byesville and while im only 37 i know everyone in that town pretty much so if you had a name i could certainly ask some folks for info
Apr 29, 2010 11:04am