Is there a tactful way to tell a woman this and not get slapped?

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thavoice

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Nov 14, 2009 12:26 PM
That if they would drop about 20-30 then they would absolutely stunning and ya would go on more dates with her?

Just wondering......
Nov 14, 2009 12:26pm
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Nov 14, 2009 12:30 PM
Yeah.....just feed her a tapeworm....problem solved.
Nov 14, 2009 12:30pm
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ridgerunner88

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Nov 14, 2009 12:30 PM
I'm guessing you're a big time player.
Nov 14, 2009 12:30pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Nov 14, 2009 12:31 PM
just slap her then tell her. Then she'll know her place.
Nov 14, 2009 12:31pm
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Mooney44Cards

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Nov 14, 2009 12:35 PM
Pull this one: "I'm just not attracted to you. That doesn't mean I COULDN'T be attracted to you, but as it is right now I'm not."

If she's smart she'll get the hint.
Nov 14, 2009 12:35pm
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thavoice

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Nov 14, 2009 12:38 PM
ridgerunner88 wrote: I'm guessing you're a big time player.
not really. Just gettin tired of datin women 10-12 years younger who are hight maintenance. ONe i am talking about would be perfect...if she dropped the lbs
Nov 14, 2009 12:38pm
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enigmaax

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Nov 14, 2009 12:38 PM
You would go on "more" dates...or you would go on "a" date? Or you would be more likely to admit to your friends that you've been nailing her?
Nov 14, 2009 12:38pm
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Nov 14, 2009 12:46 PM
I can't think of a safe way to do that!
Nov 14, 2009 12:46pm
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thavoice

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Nov 14, 2009 12:46 PM
Are you T H E enigma?
Went out once...friend set me up who is kind of on the shit list for it but hey......extremely pretty but, you know.
Nov 14, 2009 12:46pm
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ss7

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Nov 14, 2009 12:52 PM
There is no way for that conversation to go well.
Nov 14, 2009 12:52pm
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Nov 14, 2009 12:55pm
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Mooney44Cards

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Nov 14, 2009 12:57 PM
As for a more technical answer: Over the phone.

Seriously, she can't slap you over the phone.

Or yell it to her from really far away.
Nov 14, 2009 12:57pm
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dazedconfused

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Nov 14, 2009 1:03 PM
get her addicted to cocaine - those lbs will start flying off...but then you'll have a whole host of additional problems
Nov 14, 2009 1:03pm
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enigmaax

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Nov 14, 2009 1:31 PM
thavoice wrote: Are you T H E enigma?
Went out once...friend set me up who is kind of on the shit list for it but hey......extremely pretty but, you know.
Gotcha. I met a girl online once who was characterized from her pics was really pretty but "goes a little back and forth". On our date, she was a little "forth". But being that no one would ever really see her or know.....you know. When she asked if I wanted to go out again, I said, "Sure, let me know when you come back." I don't think she knew what I meant and I just didn't answer her calls after that.

The thing is, even if you handled that conversation perfectly and she wasn't offended, are you really going to wait around for a year on the chance that she might actually drop that much?
Nov 14, 2009 1:31pm
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Upper90

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Nov 14, 2009 2:02 PM
I guess, I don't know why it HAS to be said. Just don't date her?

I dunno. There's no good/polite/respectful way to say that without hurting her, so it probably could go without being said. JMO.
Nov 14, 2009 2:02pm
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heel023

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Nov 14, 2009 2:20 PM
I don't see a very good ending to this.
Nov 14, 2009 2:20pm
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butkus51

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Nov 14, 2009 2:30 PM
Never a god way to say it. the only thing you could tactfully do, if you really like her, is get her interested in some sort of exercise you both like. Biking, walking, heading to the local Y....something like that.


Or.......and I have seen this..........Take her out and pay some dude you know that she doesn't to act like a drunken stooge and say it for you. :)
Nov 14, 2009 2:30pm
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Nov 14, 2009 2:33 PM
butkus51 wrote: Or.......and I have seen this..........Take her out and pay some dude you know that she doesn't to act like a drunken stooge and say it for you. :)
This is brilliant. I am ashamed I didn't come up with it. Here's your gameplan.
Nov 14, 2009 2:33pm
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newarkcatholicfan

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Nov 14, 2009 3:03 PM
No.
Nov 14, 2009 3:03pm
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BGbobcat4life

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Nov 14, 2009 4:10 PM
What u should do is get a football helmet and wear it then tell her to lose weight that way if she slaps you, you will not feel it. You also might want to get a cup just incase she goes below the belt
Nov 14, 2009 4:10pm
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dancinbear

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Nov 14, 2009 4:30 PM
maybe when your friend set you up, he didn't know you were so shallow......
Nov 14, 2009 4:30pm
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Nov 14, 2009 5:23 PM
If you don't have any weight to lose then you might be able to get away with it. I know that if someone else is fit they will most likely want to be with someone who is fit. If you need to lose some weight then I do not see how you can tell her without looking like a shallow jerk. On the other hand, you could tell her and maybe she will lose weight and be perfect for the next guy. Either way the most polite way to do it is to start working out with her or ask her if she likes to go on walks... most likely the only way she will get the hint without being super offended.
Nov 14, 2009 5:23pm
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Nov 14, 2009 7:52 PM
Welcome mexappeal12. Love your avatar!
Nov 14, 2009 7:52pm
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charliehustle14

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Nov 14, 2009 8:02 PM
Working out together is a pretty novel idea.
Nov 14, 2009 8:02pm