It's not like people are very open with their hidden gambling addiction or their plans for embezzlement. I would just prefer to cover my own ass for any situation, regardless of how outlandish. Never under estimate the level of crazy in women.

Automatik;1770755 wrote:Wow, weird. Very similar situation with my friend's mother in law. She managed the payroll at her job and took them for a LOT. She was MIA for a while and I saw my friend randomly in my hometown. He was visiting his MIL, she did like 8 months in a medium security prison. :laugh:

They were in the middle of a divorce, but the FIL still went through hell.

They were going along great. He had/has a really good job and no one thought anything of their spending. I still don't know how exactly she did it but I just know she got a felony and jail time. He divorced her while she was in jail.

Don't get insurance. If you're worried about wrecking your car, don't buy a car. /s&l logic

Commander of Awesome;1770758 wrote:If you're going to buy a house and worried about it being broken into/tornado/earthquake/flood/shitty next door neighbors you shouldn't buy it.

If you're going to travel and are afraid fo flying, you should stay home.

Dumb as shit logic S&L.

Lulz

I know it's a little different in the gay community, but when you find a woman that you really do like and trust, and after 4-5 years of nothing "crazy" happening, you can trust a joint account.

SportsAndLady;1770756 wrote:If you're worried about your wife embezzling money or gambling addiction you probably shouldn't marry her.

Do you even addiction, bro?

Automatik;1770760 wrote:It's not like people are very open with their hidden gambling addiction or their plans for embezzlement. I would just prefer to cover my own ass for any situation, regardless of how outlandish. Never under estimate the level of crazy in women.

Men are totally sane at all times and never gamble or embezzle.

Fab4Runner;1770772 wrote:Men are totally sane at all times and never gamble or embezzle.

Typical response from a woman. Show me where I said/inferred that men can't be crazy too.

Automatik;1770776 wrote:Typical response from a woman. Show me where I said/inferred that men can't be crazy too.

Automatik;1770776 wrote:Typical response from a woman. Show me where I said/inferred that men can't be crazy too.

You didn't say that. But you did make two statements about women being crazy as fuck, which is what I replied to.

I actually don't care at all. Some women are crazy. I can be crazy as fuck.

To answer the OP question - I'd say use the money just as you do your normal paycheck

My wife and I just use 1 bank account and that won't ever change. Don't really get the point of each other having separate accounts and then 1 shared but to each their own.

The only seperate accounts that my wife and I have are retirement/401k, and that is only because we can save more. There is a real problem with seperate accounts, and that is that if something should happen to one, the other night have trouble accessing the money if needed.
I've always felt that people who insist on seperate accounts have one foot outside their relationship... Kind of like they are hedging their bets.

Fab4Runner;1770779 wrote:You didn't say that. But you did make two statements about women being crazy as fuck, which is what I replied to.

I actually don't care at all. Some women are crazy. I can be crazy as fuck.

Points out flaw in man's argument. Follows it up with "I don't even care at all..."

Typical woman

We are same account and have little stashes of our own. I have two seasonal jobs and with one we use it as extra money for me, my wife and my poor college daughter. My other seasonal job I keep the majority of it for bigger purchases/extra stuff I wouldn't normally do. (All-star/HR derby last year)

Each of our regular checks goes to all the bills and money needed for our living style....little bit each check goes to Christmas fund, vacation fund and savings account.

My grandparents had separate accounts and both seemed to have endless money.

HitsRus;1770787 wrote:I've always felt that people who insist on seperate accounts have one foot outside their relationship... Kind of like they are hedging their bets.

Yea, COA seems a bit paranoid about this. I guarantee my wife would NEVER get a spending addiction because it would be obvious. And if you had one account, it would be even more obvious. We actually have 2 bank accounts currently due to hers being linked to a credit card and her needing to build credit (long story but her mom screwed it up) and closing a credit card would hurt it. But we both have each other's log ins and she writes me a check very couple of months because my account earns more interest. She only pays for Netflix out of hers to keep the account active. Don't see the need for split accounts unless there is an unusual reason.

Do people actually still get Christmas bonuses? We get a yearly bonus based on the company's performance but that isn't until January or Feb. Not sure my wife's company has a bonus plan or not (just started).

I get a nice bonus every year. Almost 20% of my annual salary. I just hand the check over and take my weekly allowance with a smile.

She doesn't buy stupid shit. She pays the bills, takes care of boys, buys the groceries and saves. I would spend it all on stupid shit, like beer and one of those hardhats that holds the beer and has straws coming out of it....

...my " Christmas Bonus" is actually performance based and just comes right before the holiday. If I would have hit all the metrics for 2015 it would have been a good chunk of $$$$$ but the company has them designed to never hit all of them but do general make 50 to 60% of them.

Man this thread is weird.

SnotBubbles;1770798 wrote:I get a nice bonus every year. Almost 20% of my annual salary. I just hand the check over and take my weekly allowance with a smile.

She doesn't buy stupid shit. She pays the bills, takes care of boys, buys the groceries and saves. I would spend it all on stupid shit, like beer and one of those hardhats that holds the beer and has straws coming out of it....

What you're calling stupid shit is what I'd call a life necessity.

Wife and i both get a modest Christmas Bonus. We usually give it to charity. Hope that helps.

My gf has a card to my bank account. In case she needs to pick something up from the grocery or for our daughter.

I don't get a bonus so it's a moot point.

Never worked a job which gave a Christmas bonus. In fact up until recently, I was working on most holidays.

My bonus comes after 4th quarter results have been completed.
My wife and I have separate checking accounts (we are each listed on each others account) with different bills we are responsible for, our direct deposit goes into our own account. Much easier this way.

ITT: How poor people manage their finances

sleeper;1770894 wrote:ITT: How poor people manage their finances

: thumbup:

Automatik;1770755 wrote:Wow, weird. Very similar situation with my friend's mother in law. She managed the payroll at her job and took them for a LOT. She was MIA for a while and I saw my friend randomly in my hometown. He was visiting his MIL, she did like 8 months in a medium security prison. :laugh:

They were in the middle of a divorce, but the FIL still went through hell.

One former friend of my girlfriend's mom was the office manager for a nursing home. Bitch was stealing money that was coming in from the families to take care of the old people and lining her pockets. She got caught and, somehow, only had to pay an IRS penalty. How this shady woman didn't do any jail time is stunning. Her & her husband were buying stuff at a ridiculous pace because they were the 'gotta keep up with the Joneses' type.

The kicker? She somehow got another job do the same thing at another nursing home. Every time I see this woman I want to punch her for stealing all of those old peoples caretaking money.