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Sonofanump
Nov 19, 2013 12:51pm
I think once they turn four and self dependent it becomes a great time to enjoy, until they turn 13.ernest_t_bass;1538615 wrote:Young kids are great. A lot of time and effort, but it is these days that will be missed the most. I have an 8/4 year old daughter. 8 year old is already reaching the age of attitudes, but she's still very sweet. 4 year old reminds me daily of why I will miss them being young.
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Sonofanump
Nov 19, 2013 12:52pm
Beat me to it.TedSheckler;1538843 wrote:So you just haven't told them you're gay then....
Automatik
Posts: 14,632
Nov 19, 2013 12:56pm
Straight as an arrow. My family is old school though, they probably do think I'm doing it wrong.TedSheckler;1538843 wrote:So you just haven't told them you're gay then....
"Maybe he's one of them gaysssss?!" :laugh:
TedSheckler
Posts: 3,974
Nov 19, 2013 12:57pm
Burden of proof is on you.Automatik;1538858 wrote:Straight as an arrow.
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BR1986FB
Posts: 24,104
Nov 19, 2013 1:02pm
Enjoy your youth. I was always told "if you're going to get married, wait until you're at least 30."Automatik;1538858 wrote:Straight as an arrow. My family is old school though, they probably do think I'm doing it wrong.
Automatik
Posts: 14,632
Nov 19, 2013 1:02pm
Sorry to disappoint you Ted.
My parents had me when they were 21, my sister at 24. I couldn't imagine dealing with a kid at that age. People in the 70s were gettin downnn.BR1986FB;1538862 wrote:Enjoy your youth. I was always told "if you're going to get married, wait until you're at least 30."
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 1:16pm
Had one daughter at 24, and one at 29.
HitsRus
Posts: 9,206
Nov 19, 2013 1:33pm
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html
I hardly have everposted anything from HuffPo, but this article is the honest to goodness truth.
Marraige isn't for you....having kids is not for you....and you can take that to the bank.
I have been married 33 years with 3 kids, and I cannot even imagine doing anything differently....nor would I ever want to.
I hardly have everposted anything from HuffPo, but this article is the honest to goodness truth.
Marraige isn't for you....having kids is not for you....and you can take that to the bank.
I have been married 33 years with 3 kids, and I cannot even imagine doing anything differently....nor would I ever want to.
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Nov 19, 2013 1:34pm
Are you a chick? This is perhaps the dumbest blog post ever and every woman seems to be gushing over it.HitsRus;1538886 wrote:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html
I hardly have everposted anything from HuffPo, but this article is the honest to goodness truth.
Marraige isn't for you....having kids is not for you....and you can take that to the bank.
I have been married 33 years with 3 kids, and I cannot even imagine doing anything differently....nor would I ever want to.
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Tiernan
Posts: 13,021
Nov 19, 2013 1:45pm
I hope all your friends have the opportunity to attend yours sooner than you'd like.Heretic;1538819 wrote:Being a guy who runs around a board complaining about mods ain't gonna get you anything besides an unattended funeral after the end.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 1:50pm
I get it... you want him to die.Tiernan;1538895 wrote:I hope all your friends have the opportunity to attend yours sooner than you'd like.
HitsRus
Posts: 9,206
Nov 19, 2013 1:52pm
In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.[INDENT]Not a guy, but I will chime in. I am 28 and am currently in a relationship. Kind of. I have been in several serious relationships, but the longest I have ever dated anyone was 2-2.5 years (which has happened four times). I am not super confident that I can make it past that mark, or that marriage is for me. I hope that that's not true, but I just really don't know.
I am not in any hurry to be married or have children, but I also know that I want at least three kids. If I end up waiting until I am 35ish to have the first one, a big family probably won't happen, and that will be a huge bummer for me. [/INDENT]
The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.
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queencitybuckeye
Posts: 7,117
Nov 19, 2013 1:56pm
If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor.HitsRus;1538911 wrote:In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.
The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Nov 19, 2013 2:01pm
No, I really mean that I don't know if it is the cards for me to be married at all. It has nothing to do with the partner/equality/selflessness thing. I just really don't know if I will ever get married. I have felt that way since I was about 23.HitsRus;1538911 wrote:In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.
The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.
wes_mantooth
Posts: 17,977
Nov 19, 2013 2:07pm
Lol...I call bullshitFab4Runner;1538915 wrote:No, I really mean that I don't know if it is the cards for me to be married at all. It has nothing to do with the partner/equality/selflessness thing. I just really don't know if I will ever get married. I have felt that way since I was about 23.
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Nov 19, 2013 2:09pm
Lol, we'll see. There is a ways to go before the 2.5 year test, haha.wes_mantooth;1538921 wrote:Lol...I call bullshit
wes_mantooth
Posts: 17,977
Nov 19, 2013 2:10pm
We'll end up married...then divorcedFab4Runner;1538924 wrote:Lol, we'll see. There is a ways to go before the 2.5 year test, haha.
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MontyBrunswick
Nov 19, 2013 2:23pm
Get a room
wes_mantooth
Posts: 17,977
Nov 19, 2013 2:27pm
What kind?dlazz;1538944 wrote:Get a room
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Nov 19, 2013 2:28pm
Actually the problem with marriage is it provides near zero benefits for men and a load of benefits from the woman. Marriage isn't for men, it's for women. Men are simply a sperm donor who provides milk to the children until that milk isn't as sweet anymore and the wife looks for more milk.queencitybuckeye;1538913 wrote:If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor.
I'd advise any man from getting married without a pre-nup and you can take that to the bank.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Nov 19, 2013 2:30pm
My advice for single childless guys....
Enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want.
Enjoy sprawling out in your bed alone.
Enjoy sleeping till noon on the weekends
and most importantly
Enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want.
Enjoy sprawling out in your bed alone.
Enjoy sleeping till noon on the weekends
and most importantly
Heretic
Posts: 18,820
Nov 19, 2013 2:32pm
Hopefully one with a sun roof. If you're going to be confined somewhere, you might as well catch a few rays while there.wes_mantooth;1538947 wrote:What kind?
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Nov 19, 2013 2:33pm
Good advice.LJ;1538951 wrote:My advice for single childless guys....
Enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want.
Enjoy sprawling out in your bed alone.
Enjoy sleeping till noon on the weekends
and most importantly
HitsRus
Posts: 9,206
Nov 19, 2013 9:20pm
No, it will fail because you seperate your interests. When you realize your interests are in fufilling your spouse's needs ( and vice versa)...and I say 'needs' versus 'wants'...without keeping score... is when your relationship solidifies and really good things start to happen. The article is about loving selflessly, and the rewards that come from that.If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor
ohiobucks1
Posts: 4,915
Nov 19, 2013 9:23pm
wes_mantooth;1538947 wrote:What kind?
Wait wait wait. So Fab is now dating you?
Where have I been this entire time. Primetime drama.