ernest_t_bass;1538615 wrote:Young kids are great. A lot of time and effort, but it is these days that will be missed the most. I have an 8/4 year old daughter. 8 year old is already reaching the age of attitudes, but she's still very sweet. 4 year old reminds me daily of why I will miss them being young.

TedSheckler;1538843 wrote:So you just haven't told them you're gay then....

TedSheckler;1538843 wrote:So you just haven't told them you're gay then....

Automatik;1538858 wrote:Straight as an arrow.

Automatik;1538858 wrote:Straight as an arrow. My family is old school though, they probably do think I'm doing it wrong.

BR1986FB;1538862 wrote:Enjoy your youth. I was always told "if you're going to get married, wait until you're at least 30."

HitsRus;1538886 wrote:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html

I hardly have everposted anything from HuffPo, but this article is the honest to goodness truth.

Marraige isn't for you....having kids is not for you....and you can take that to the bank.

I have been married 33 years with 3 kids, and I cannot even imagine doing anything differently....nor would I ever want to.

Heretic;1538819 wrote:Being a guy who runs around a board complaining about mods ain't gonna get you anything besides an unattended funeral after the end.

Tiernan;1538895 wrote:I hope all your friends have the opportunity to attend yours sooner than you'd like.

[INDENT]Not a guy, but I will chime in. I am 28 and am currently in a relationship. Kind of. I have been in several serious relationships, but the longest I have ever dated anyone was 2-2.5 years (which has happened four times). I am not super confident that I can make it past that mark, or that marriage is for me. I hope that that's not true, but I just really don't know.

I am not in any hurry to be married or have children, but I also know that I want at least three kids. If I end up waiting until I am 35ish to have the first one, a big family probably won't happen, and that will be a huge bummer for me. [/INDENT]

HitsRus;1538911 wrote:In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.

The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.

HitsRus;1538911 wrote:In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.

The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.

Fab4Runner;1538915 wrote:No, I really mean that I don't know if it is the cards for me to be married at all. It has nothing to do with the partner/equality/selflessness thing. I just really don't know if I will ever get married. I have felt that way since I was about 23.

wes_mantooth;1538921 wrote:Lol...I call bullshit

Fab4Runner;1538924 wrote:Lol, we'll see. There is a ways to go before the 2.5 year test, haha.

dlazz;1538944 wrote:Get a room

queencitybuckeye;1538913 wrote:If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor.

wes_mantooth;1538947 wrote:What kind?

LJ;1538951 wrote:My advice for single childless guys....

Enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want.
Enjoy sprawling out in your bed alone.
Enjoy sleeping till noon on the weekends

and most importantly

If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor

wes_mantooth;1538947 wrote:What kind?