Ironman92
Posts: 49,363
Nov 18, 2013 11:42pm
Takes a lot of energy to raise young kids in your mid to late 30's. Early 50's when they graduate.....then you can retire when they get out of college. Grandparents in early-mid 60's.se-alum;1538491 wrote:I think it's pretty common in urban areas. In rural areas, people seem to think they're behind if they don't have a full family by their mid-20's. I have good friend, who is pretty hot and has a good job, that will date just about anyone, because she thinks if she isn't married with kids by the time she is 30, that somehow she is running behind in life. It's absurd to me, but some people truly believe that.
Not bad.
OSH
Posts: 4,145
Nov 18, 2013 11:49pm
Married. Kid due in March.
Don't look forward to being single, ever again. I don't miss the single life.
I'm having a kid a little earlier than what I wanted. Didn't get married until 26 -- my brother married at 20-21, and that made me want to wait even more. I wanted to wait at least another year before we started having kids, but it happens. Once we start, we won't be stopping now until we decide we've had enough kids (2-4). Definitely happy with where we are in life.
Don't look forward to being single, ever again. I don't miss the single life.
I'm having a kid a little earlier than what I wanted. Didn't get married until 26 -- my brother married at 20-21, and that made me want to wait even more. I wanted to wait at least another year before we started having kids, but it happens. Once we start, we won't be stopping now until we decide we've had enough kids (2-4). Definitely happy with where we are in life.
Classyposter58
Posts: 6,321
Nov 18, 2013 11:56pm
I don't think I'll have a choice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost three years now. She's pretty cool though and loves baseball and hockey so I don't mind, plus she is way hotter than I should have lol
Laley23
Posts: 29,506
Nov 19, 2013 1:00am
Not single. Will probably be married by 2015 summer. Plan on proposing in the next few months.
I want no part of raising a young kid, but I want nothing more than to have my kid grow up and take part in conversations with me etc.
Essentially, can I just skip ahead to when they turn 18???
I want no part of raising a young kid, but I want nothing more than to have my kid grow up and take part in conversations with me etc.
Essentially, can I just skip ahead to when they turn 18???
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 8:21am
It's like you're the Red Sox, and she's the Tigers then?Classyposter58;1538546 wrote:I don't think I'll have a choice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost three years now. She's pretty cool though and loves baseball and hockey so I don't mind, plus she is way hotter than I should have lol
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 8:22am
Young kids are great. A lot of time and effort, but it is these days that will be missed the most. I have an 8/4 year old daughter. 8 year old is already reaching the age of attitudes, but she's still very sweet. 4 year old reminds me daily of why I will miss them being young.Laley23;1538563 wrote:Not single. Will probably be married by 2015 summer. Plan on proposing in the next few months.
I want no part of raising a young kid, but I want nothing more than to have my kid grow up and take part in conversations with me etc.
Essentially, can I just skip ahead to when they turn 18???
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Nov 19, 2013 9:38am
Not a guy, but I will chime in. I am 28 and am currently in a relationship. Kind of. I have been in several serious relationships, but the longest I have ever dated anyone was 2-2.5 years (which has happened four times). I am not super confident that I can make it past that mark, or that marriage is for me. I hope that that's not true, but I just really don't know.
I am not in any hurry to be married or have children, but I also know that I want at least three kids. If I end up waiting until I am 35ish to have the first one, a big family probably won't happen, and that will be a huge bummer for me.
I am not in any hurry to be married or have children, but I also know that I want at least three kids. If I end up waiting until I am 35ish to have the first one, a big family probably won't happen, and that will be a huge bummer for me.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 9:57am
^^^
Why wait to get married to have kids? That seems to be the (disappointing) trend these days...
Why wait to get married to have kids? That seems to be the (disappointing) trend these days...
Commander of Awesome
Posts: 23,151
Nov 19, 2013 10:06am
I took more as a synonym for a family. Prob doesn't want to raise a kid solo. I would prefer not to as well.ernest_t_bass;1538674 wrote:^^^
Why wait to get married to have kids? That seems to be the (disappointing) trend these days...
Heretic
Posts: 18,820
Nov 19, 2013 10:09am
Was married once, that didn't work.
Not really in any hurry to have any sort of commitment now. If something comes along and everything feels "right" about it, that'd be cool, but I don't feel any overwhelming urge to jump into anything. I'm just sort of happy to have a drama-free life where no one's dragging me down, which is pretty much the opposite of the end of that marriage.
Not really in any hurry to have any sort of commitment now. If something comes along and everything feels "right" about it, that'd be cool, but I don't feel any overwhelming urge to jump into anything. I'm just sort of happy to have a drama-free life where no one's dragging me down, which is pretty much the opposite of the end of that marriage.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 10:11am
I read it the same way, just making the statement. It's disturbing how many mid-20's girls in my area are having kids, mostly b/c their good friends have kids, and they want them to play together.Commander of Awesome;1538685 wrote:I took more as a synonym for a family. Prob doesn't want to raise a kid solo. I would prefer not to as well.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 10:12am
If I were to ever be single again, I don't foresee myself jumping right into marriage. It's a lot of work!! lolHeretic;1538688 wrote:Was married once, that didn't work.
Not really in any hurry to have any sort of commitment now. If something comes along and everything feels "right" about it, that'd be cool, but I don't feel any overwhelming urge to jump into anything. I'm just sort of happy to have a drama-free life where no one's dragging me down, which is pretty much the opposite of the end of that marriage.
Classyposter58
Posts: 6,321
Nov 19, 2013 10:14am
Ha so I make clutch plays and take forever to do things?ernest_t_bass;1538614 wrote:It's like you're the Red Sox, and she's the Tigers then?
justincredible
Posts: 32,056
Nov 19, 2013 10:15am
If my wife and I ever got a divorce I doubt I'd ever get married again. In the end it's just a piece of paper that entitles your spouse to half of your shit if things don't work out.ernest_t_bass;1538694 wrote:If I were to ever be single again, I don't foresee myself jumping right into marriage. It's a lot of work!! lol
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 10:15am
No... I mean... no one can hang with the Tigers... have you seen their lineup?Classyposter58;1538698 wrote:Ha so I make clutch plays and take forever to do things?
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Tiernan
Posts: 13,021
Nov 19, 2013 10:16am
Being the worst Mod ain't gonna get OB1 any xtra poon
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Nov 19, 2013 10:17am
Tiernan;1538703 wrote:Being the worst Mod ain't gonna get OB1 any xtra poon
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Nov 19, 2013 10:22am
ernest_t_bass;1538674 wrote:^^^
Why wait to get married to have kids? That seems to be the (disappointing) trend these days...
I am not against having kids on my own if it comes down to that, but I would do everything I could to make sure I could afford and support them on my own. Obviously things happen (layoffs, etc.), but I would be certain that I was as stable as possible before going down that road.Commander of Awesome;1538685 wrote:I took more as a synonym for a family. Prob doesn't want to raise a kid solo. I would prefer not to as well.
That said, I would much prefer raising children with a significant other or husband.
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vball10set
Posts: 24,795
Nov 19, 2013 10:23am
This.OSH;1538543 wrote:Married.
Don't look forward to being single, ever again. I don't miss the single life.
#1DBag
Posts: 786
Nov 19, 2013 11:17am
Leykis 101
Heretic
Posts: 18,820
Nov 19, 2013 12:19pm
Yeah, about the only way I'd get married again would be if I'd been with someone for a good amount of time, everything seemed great and one of us looked at "making it official" as some important step that should be taken for whatever reason.ernest_t_bass;1538694 wrote:If I were to ever be single again, I don't foresee myself jumping right into marriage. It's a lot of work!! lol
But after having to pay to get out of one marriage, there's no way I'd have any desire to do that sort of thing again without putting a lot of thought into things.
Heretic
Posts: 18,820
Nov 19, 2013 12:20pm
Being a guy who runs around a board complaining about mods ain't gonna get you anything besides an unattended funeral after the end.Tiernan;1538703 wrote:Being the worst Mod ain't gonna get OB1 any xtra poon
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BR1986FB
Posts: 24,104
Nov 19, 2013 12:33pm
Been married once, very doubtful it happens again. Have been with my girlfriend for 10+ years and we're both comfortable without being married. I've never had any intention of having kids either. As was the mentioned, our dog & cats are more than enough work but she has three kids, all over the age of 18.
Automatik
Posts: 14,632
Nov 19, 2013 12:35pm
Yeah, back in my hometown people are reproducing at a high rate. I get questioned about marriage/kids every single holiday...it's like clockwork. "zomg... late 20s, no girl, no kids?" Here, no one gives a shit. Turning 30 isn't the end of the world.se-alum;1538491 wrote:I think it's pretty common in urban areas. In rural areas, people seem to think they're behind if they don't have a full family by their mid-20's. I have good friend, who is pretty hot and has a good job, that will date just about anyone, because she thinks if she isn't married with kids by the time she is 30, that somehow she is running behind in life. It's absurd to me, but some people truly believe that.
TedSheckler
Posts: 3,974
Nov 19, 2013 12:42pm
So you just haven't told them you're gay then....Automatik;1538838 wrote:Yeah, back in my hometown people are reproducing at a high rate. I get questioned about marriage/kids every single holiday...it's like clockwork. "zomg... late 20s, no girl, no kids?" Here, no one gives a shit. Turning 30 isn't the end of the world.