gut;1484772 wrote:Should we discuss "fatherless" kids growing up in the inner city? Do you really think there's no value to having a strong male and female influence in your household? Why do we talk about diversity so much, but suddenly it doesn't matter when talking about two parents wanting to adopt a child?
It's based on nature, it's based on common sense. It's based on a sense of how our society values diversity, values male & female influence and roles. Show me the data that says it's not. I don't believe there's enough data at this point to conclude otherwise, not to mention the inherent difficulty in measuring this factor in the first place.
I didn't say gay couples shouldn't adopt, I said all else equal I think a traditional couple is more optimal. When I say common sense I'd just ask this question: Do you think any kids raised by gay couples never regret not having a mommy or daddy? If that answer is >0, then I am correct.
I pretty much agree with Gut on this issue. We can't choose our parents. However, in this day and age culturally, I imagine if we
could choose our parents, potential adoptees would choose the traditional norm of a mother and father, male and female, if they could.
Maybe that won't always be true. But, I think, if you've got one child left up for adoption and it's high quality gay married couple vs. high quality straight married couple, you choose the straight couple. I also don't see why some liberals (in my experience) find this particular view so egregious when there's a large swath of the population who is unequivocally opposed to gay adoption, gay couple in vitro/surrogates, etc.