Rule is you want from me (money) I need to know where it going, when, and how the payment will be made.
Rule then is I will make the payment for you. Without knowing the financial or some of the financial situation you're asking for problems. I help people out all the time with gift card ...
Enabling relative or family member is a problem for you ... Stop now
Learn more of the problem in detail if they are not willing to provide information then you are not willing to give. Feeding a problem is not helping anyone