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Jun 12, 2012 10:51 AM
Fab4Runner;1196536 wrote:You guys are a bunch of assholes.
Can't argue with this.
Jun 12, 2012 10:51am
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Jun 12, 2012 11:19 AM
If he was also abused and hasn't addressed it then you're likely in for a doomed marriage.
Jun 12, 2012 11:19am
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Jun 12, 2012 12:09 PM
Steel Valley Football;1196564 wrote:If he was also abused and hasn't addressed it then you're likely in for a doomed marriage.
This is pretty negative. Meanie.

Just address it as you being concerned. Should be that easy. No anger. Just concern.
Jun 12, 2012 12:09pm
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Jun 12, 2012 12:19 PM
pnhasbeen;1196641 wrote:This is pretty negative. Meanie.

Huh?
Jun 12, 2012 12:19pm
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Jun 12, 2012 12:21 PM
Steel Valley Football;1196658 wrote:Huh?
dooming her marriage is kind of negative man.
Jun 12, 2012 12:21pm
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Jun 12, 2012 12:28 PM
pnhasbeen;1196661 wrote:dooming her marriage is kind of negative man.
What does that have to do with reality?
Jun 12, 2012 12:28pm
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Jun 12, 2012 12:30 PM
Steel Valley Football;1196674 wrote:What does that have to do with reality?
That's just, like, your opinion, man.
Jun 12, 2012 12:30pm
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Jun 12, 2012 12:31 PM
pnhasbeen;1196681 wrote:That's just, like, your opinion, man.
Quit trolling me.
Jun 12, 2012 12:31pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:00 PM
I don't think she asked what she should do. She will come to that determination eventually. I also didn't read anyone saying it wasn't her right or to inquire or not.

She asked what we would do if in that situation. I wouldn't bring it up unless I had a need to....but I also wouldn't have internet searched the name either. If I didn't want to visit my Father-in-law I wouldn't. If my wife asked why, I would tell her. Those actions would be both honest to myself and my wife.
Jun 12, 2012 2:00pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:01 PM
^^^^

Very good post.
Jun 12, 2012 2:01pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:04 PM
Ytowngirlinfla;1196367 wrote:So I just found this out via google search that he's a registered sex offender in Utah. He never told me and he hasn't seen his father in like 8 or 9 years. He talks to him on occasion. Should I approach the hubs and ask why he never told me or even if he knows?
So what did you type in to find this info out? insertnameofhubs sex offender? insertnameofhubs likes little girls? insertnameofhubs jail time? If I had a guess this was not an accident. You were curious to what his dad was in jail for and you started looking it up. Maybe you shouldve asked him first before you came here and asked a bunch of egotistical guys.
Jun 12, 2012 2:04pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:44 PM
Fab4Runner;1196536 wrote:You guys are a bunch of ****s.

Based on the information you have given, you have every right to ask your husband about this. That doesn't mean accuse, start an argument, etc. But if you are planning to go see this man in July, I believe you should have your questions answered beforehand. It's unfortunate that your husband did not tell you any of this, but I am guessing he was probably embarrassed and ashamed...who could blame him? I can understand him wanting to keep this buried, but since you guys are planning a trip he shouldn't be upset that you want to know about the person you are going to see.
Somebody call the trailor park the trash is loose
Jun 12, 2012 2:44pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:56 PM
mcburg93;1196779 wrote:So what did you type in to find this info out? insertnameofhubs sex offender? insertnameofhubs likes little girls? insertnameofhubs jail time? If I had a guess this was not an accident. You were curious to what his dad was in jail for and you started looking it up. Maybe you shouldve asked him first before you came here and asked a bunch of egotistical guys.
. I wasn't looking for information on his father. I was looking at intellus to see if they have both our information correct as we are looking to buy a house. His dad was linked to him so I.clicked just to see and that's when all the information came up. Anyways he has no idea what his dad was in prison for and I'm not going to.tell.him. if.anything he needs to ask his father Wtf. I definitely will not visit him.
Jun 12, 2012 2:56pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:59 PM
Thinthickbigred;1196842 wrote:Somebody call the trailor park the trash is loose
lol here comes a wildcats infraction.
Jun 12, 2012 2:59pm
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Jun 12, 2012 2:59 PM
Thinthickbigred;1196842 wrote:Somebody call the trailor park the trash is loose
Lol uhh what?
Jun 12, 2012 2:59pm
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Jun 12, 2012 3:01 PM
Thinthickbigred;1196842 wrote:Somebody call the trailor park the trash is loose
Ironic post is ironic.
Jun 12, 2012 3:01pm
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Jun 12, 2012 3:05 PM
Ytowngirlinfla;1196376 wrote:I'm not trying to pick a fight at all. I'm not mad. I'm just wondering why anyone would even talk to a father who did this. Just curious because we may go to Utah to see him in July.
When you are there shoot the guy and put him out of commission for good --- public service; thanks.
Jun 12, 2012 3:05pm
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Jun 12, 2012 3:48 PM
queencitybuckeye;1196867 wrote:Ironic post is ironic.
Isn't it?
Jun 12, 2012 3:48pm
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Jun 12, 2012 3:55 PM
Has he responded yet?
Jun 12, 2012 3:55pm
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Jun 12, 2012 9:01 PM
Fab4Runner;1196536 wrote:You guys are a bunch of assholes.

Based on the information you have given, you have every right to ask your husband about this. That doesn't mean accuse, start an argument, etc. But if you are planning to go see this man in July, I believe you should have your questions answered beforehand. It's unfortunate that your husband did not tell you any of this, but I am guessing he was probably embarrassed and ashamed...who could blame him? I can understand him wanting to keep this buried, but since you guys are planning a trip he shouldn't be upset that you want to know about the person you are going to see.
Sorry that we normal people don't have these issues. If any girl I dated had a father that fucked little boys, I would tell that girl to fuck off and would not want that in my gene pool.
Jun 12, 2012 9:01pm
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Jun 12, 2012 9:48 PM
ohiobucks1;1196941 wrote:Has he responded yet?
Yeah he had no idea what his father was in prison for. I guess he googled it today and found out he's a registered sex offender. Though he said he didn't want to know why or what happened so I'm assuming he doesn't know it was with a kid 14 or younger. He said he also doesn't have any need to see his father and only wanted to go visit to just see him for a day or two since it's been almost 10 years he said. I feel bad because that's still his father and it's got to be hard to think that anyone can do that to someone.
Jun 12, 2012 9:48pm
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Jun 12, 2012 10:23 PM
Another story solved by help from OC


Case closed.
Jun 12, 2012 10:23pm
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Jun 12, 2012 10:42 PM
Ytowngirlinfla;1197417 wrote:Yeah he had no idea what his father was in prison for. I guess he googled it today and found out he's a registered sex offender. Though he said he didn't want to know why or what happened so I'm assuming he doesn't know it was with a kid 14 or younger. He said he also doesn't have any need to see his father and only wanted to go visit to just see him for a day or two since it's been almost 10 years he said. I feel bad because that's still his father and it's got to be hard to think that anyone can do that to someone.
You are a dating a guy, who's dad fucked little boys/girls. Nice choice.
Jun 12, 2012 10:42pm
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Jun 12, 2012 10:59 PM
DeyDurkie5;1197522 wrote:You are a dating a guy, who's dad fucked little boys/girls. Nice choice.
married.
Jun 12, 2012 10:59pm
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Jun 12, 2012 11:02 PM
Pick6;1197577 wrote:married.
Point still stands
Jun 12, 2012 11:02pm