The ex is getting married...

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DeyDurkie5
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May 24, 2011 5:35pm
Man the fuck up and realize that bitch isn't worth your time. If she didn't want to marry you, then fuck her. Plenty of better women out there, and the day she realizes she picked the wrong one is the day you smile at her while smoking a blunt like "cya bitch!"
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friendfromlowry
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May 24, 2011 6:24pm
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O-Trap
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May 24, 2011 7:19pm
enigmaax;778909 wrote:In that case, lay off the roids and learn to love like a lesbian.

lulz
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hasbeen
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May 24, 2011 7:44pm
bwcomet89;778449 wrote: Like I hold her as the standard for the other girls I've dated, stuff like that. It's just kind of a shitty feeling.

Never compare a girl to an ex. Don't let an ex be a standard because your standard is failure.
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MontyBrunswick
May 24, 2011 8:09pm
fuck sluts, get money.
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sonofsam
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May 24, 2011 10:05pm
Wasn't the right girl bro.
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bwcomet89
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May 25, 2011 1:32am
enigmaax;778909 wrote:Oh, I got it now. Stealing locks of hair. Uncontrollable rage. Emotionally distant. You're more of the pompous ass control freak type that thought there was no way she could ever leave you because you're so tough and manly. But since she did, you either have to beat up the girly guy who stole her (AND your manhood) or convince yourself that it isn't you, it's the rest of the world. In that case, lay off the roids and learn to love like a lesbian.

Lol it's like you're trying to pinpoint me with a hand grenade. Try not to be so narrow-minded as it doesn't work in all situations. I also see you either cannot interpret sarcasm or are simply trying to stir shit up. Either way I appreciate your input, even if you're being far too polar. My intent of this thread was not to try to get someone to analyze me, or the situation, but to hear from others and see what they did in a similar event. It was much more geared towards being constructive and finding a way to deal with it in a healthy way because quite frankly I knew full well just getting pissed off about it was not the best option.
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dwccrew
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May 25, 2011 2:19am
LJ;778473 wrote:And ex and I broke up in November 2008, a new guy started at her work Jan 1 2009 , they were married in March 2009 and had a kid sometime last spring.

I guess they started dating as soon as they met, then he proposed after 2 months and they went to the court house. I dodged that nutjob.

Are you positive that she met him after you two broke up? I had a friend that thought he was in the same situation only to find out his girl had been with the new guy before he (my friend) and the chick broke up.

To the OP, fuck it. In the words of the greatest rapper ever, Biggie, "I don't chase them, I replace them." The best advice ever.
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bwcomet89
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May 25, 2011 2:36am
dwccrew;779745 wrote:Are you positive that she met him after you two broke up? I had a friend that thought he was in the same situation only to find out his girl had been with the new guy before he (my friend) and the chick broke up.

To the OP, fuck it. In the words of the greatest rapper ever, Biggie, "I don't chase them, I replace them." The best advice ever.

I like your advice, personally. From here and on previous events. Thank you for your sincerity.
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O-Trap
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May 25, 2011 2:48am
In case it hasn't been mentioned:

Do the maid of honor the day before the wedding.
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bwcomet89
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May 25, 2011 2:58am
Her sister?
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enigmaax
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May 25, 2011 3:02am
bwcomet89;779751 wrote:Her sister?

Exactly. And then there's the upper decker.
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O-Trap
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May 25, 2011 3:04am
bwcomet89;779751 wrote:Her sister?

If her sister is her maid of honor, it's only fair.
enigmaax;779752 wrote:Exactly. And then there's the upper decker.

At the location of the wedding reception if you can.
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enigmaax
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May 25, 2011 3:11am
bwcomet89;779741 wrote:Lol it's like you're trying to pinpoint me with a hand grenade. Try not to be so narrow-minded as it doesn't work in all situations. I also see you either cannot interpret sarcasm or are simply trying to stir shit up. Either way I appreciate your input, even if you're being far too polar. My intent of this thread was not to try to get someone to analyze me, or the situation, but to hear from others and see what they did in a similar event. It was much more geared towards being constructive and finding a way to deal with it in a healthy way because quite frankly I knew full well just getting pissed off about it was not the best option.

Ha ha. I get paid the same (zero) whether I'm right or not on my little crack psychology. Just having some fun. There are seeds of my real feelings in there, but mostly not about you. I really DO think that things weren't as great as you thought for a while before you broke up, I just have no idea as to what specifically caused it (obviously). And I also strongly believe that the love-like-a-lesbian approach can work for anyone.
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bwcomet89
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May 25, 2011 3:33am
I am having fun with you too man. Like I had said I was trying to be constructive with it all and I'm glad there are people on here that are willing to help or share in good and bad ways. The whole situation was very sticky, her whole family sided with me as to why she did what she did, and things were great up until one rough patch. Distance is a bitch, is all I can say. I don't really feel the need to go into detail as I don't believe it will change things, but if it clarifies I will consent. Causes? I have ideas, and I know where they lead. But this whole thread has made things a little bit better on me, which is what I had initially hoped for. I still feel mad about it, but I don't feel consumed any longer.
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Gameover
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May 26, 2011 12:28pm
I was ring shopping for my g/f of 4.5 years. We just moved in together, she got a lot of attention at her new job, we broke up, she moved out 5 months later and is expecting a baby next month with a different guy when she moved back to PA.

Talk about escaping whack jobs.
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Con_Alma
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May 26, 2011 12:37pm
dwccrew;779745 wrote:Are you positive that she met him after you two broke up? ...
I don't know how that would matter at all.

Anytime someone wants to be with another the only reason we get pissed off about it is because it isn't us.

If she was cheating on you and then came to the conclusion she wanted the other guy you move on.
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Con_Alma
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May 26, 2011 12:37pm
Gameover;781843 wrote:I was ring shopping for my g/f of 4.5 years. We just moved in together, she got a lot of attention at her new job, we broke up, she moved out 5 months later and is expecting a baby next month with a different guy when she moved back to PA.

Talk about escaping whack jobs.
Is she a whack job because of something other than what you posted that we don't know about?
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hasbeen
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May 26, 2011 1:10pm
Con_Alma;781857 wrote:Is she a whack job because of something other than what you posted that we don't know about?

That's what I was thinking. If it was his baby, would she be a whack job? Any girl who gets pregnant accidently is a whack job?
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Murdski99
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May 26, 2011 1:13pm
yes, they're all whack jobs
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ernest_t_bass
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May 26, 2011 1:15pm
Whack my sack!
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Ty Webb
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May 26, 2011 1:22pm
Well.....

I was going to offer some serious advice,but I haven't had a serious GF since freshman year

So....Bitches,Blow,and Porn would be the way to go
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ernest_t_bass
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May 26, 2011 1:37pm
Ty Webb;781927 wrote:but I haven't had a serious GF since freshman year

I call bull-shit on you ever having a (mutual/consensual) girl friend.
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BR1986FB
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May 26, 2011 1:46pm
dwccrew;779745 wrote:Are you positive that she met him after you two broke up? I had a friend that thought he was in the same situation only to find out his girl had been with the new guy before he (my friend) and the chick broke up.

Got one better for ya. Know a situation where the guy was married and was giving his wife his paychecks to take care of the bills. She'd give him an "allowance" of $3/day and would bitch if he'd spend it.

In the mean time she was hoarding the money he was making and had 5 or 6 secret bank accounts with between $5000-7500 in them (total) at any given time. He couldn't figure out where all of there money was going. She was also taking shopping "weekends" out of state with her girlfriends. These weekends were to fly down South so she could fuck one of her boyfriends while her husband was at home working.
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FatHobbit
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May 26, 2011 1:50pm
BR1986FB;781954 wrote:Got one better for ya. Know a situation where the guy was married and was giving his wife his paychecks to take care of the bills. She'd give him an "allowance" of $3/day and would bitch if he'd spend it.

Why the fuck would he put up with that?