FatHobbit;688809 wrote:...? (I would not call lying to someone about where you're going 'cheating' even though it is deceptive and I think wrong.)
I don't think anyone has claimed they have not done such...some, however, think that's cheating if you have vowed to share only such desire with one person.se-alum;689290 wrote:W..., and I guarantee that there isn't one guy who has responded to this thread that hasn't(while married) looked at another woman and wondered "what if".
If you have agreed to only share such intimacy with your spouse it would be cheating. If you have not made such a vow it would not be cheating...in my opinion of course.Little Danny;689218 wrote:Based on your definition, even if you were not watching porn but just happen to masterbate to get your rocks off you would be cheating. Do you consider self stimulation cheating?
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Con_Alma;689376 wrote:I don't think anyone has claimed they have not done such...some, however, think that's cheating if you have vowed to share only such desire with one person.
Everyone covets. Some simply accept it as wrong and don't seek it out.
FatHobbit;688811 wrote:I'm afraid to click on the hamster link, even if i wasn't at work.
Absolutely it's ok. I'm just trying to understand.Con_Alma;689372 wrote:You would not call it cheating...I would. We are different people. Isn't that O.K.?
Con_Alma;689372 wrote:Did you have any belief that someone would think your scenario was cheating? If not why did you ask?
FatHobbit;689548 wrote:Absolutely it's ok. I'm just trying to understand.
The wife in the article thought it was her fault "he strayed." I wouldn't even call it straying so I was curious to see if anyone else would.
1th;689554 wrote:if porn and chokin the chicken is cheating then im destine to be a polygamist
Little Danny;689614 wrote:If you are only 13 and you jerk off, does that make you a pedophile?
password;689371 wrote:How about watching some homemade porn that you have of an ex girlfriend that you filmed together before you became involved with your current partner, would that be cheating or just fucked up if your current partner caught you?
O-Trap;689648 wrote: If you're unsure, hell, why not ask?
enigmaax;689650 wrote:I don't know if she'd consider it cheating or not...but the fact that my wife cried the one time we started to watch porn together means I'm taking the "don't ask, don't tell" approach and just doin' my thing on my own when I'm gone.
SnotBubbles;689745 wrote:Needless to say I couldn't finish.
O-Trap;689648 wrote:Essentially, if you want to know if something is cheating, put it through this test:
If your significant other would be hurt and made to feel insecure about it, then it's cheating. If not, it's not.
If you're unsure, hell, why not ask?
Skyhook79;689782 wrote:So if your SO isn't hurt or insecure about you banging other women, its not cheating?
Con_Alma;689810 wrote:not if you had no such agreement that you would keep such thoughts and desires to be shared with only her...in my opinion.
Well, there are many more layers that would make my answers about more than just porn. I don't think she'd necessarily enjoy "catching" me, though she knows I do it - we don't talk about that specifically very much. She's never asked me to "not" do it.O-Trap;689652 wrote:If she walked in on you, would she be devastated? Do you think it'd make her feel insecure about the sexual relationship between you two? Would she be doubting her ability to be "enough" for you?
If so, do you find that risk acceptable?
If not, what do you think she would think instead?
