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tk421

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May 6, 2010 2:07 PM
bigkahuna wrote: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

We decided that we were going to use the money we had for our honey moon and or wedding gift money and put it on a down payment towards a house. We both thought that buying a house for our future was a better use of the money than a honey moon.

Plus, I took her on a trip to Macinac Island for a week last July (We got married in October) and closed on a house about 2 months ago
Ah, should have went to the moon. Maybe a trip around Uranus. :P:P
May 6, 2010 2:07pm
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j_crazy

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May 6, 2010 2:07 PM
FYI, HOUSE =/ HONEYMOON.
May 6, 2010 2:07pm
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BigAppleBuckeye

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May 6, 2010 2:11 PM
OUgrad wrote:
BigAppleBuckeye wrote: My wedding is coming in around $60,000-$65,000. I know that sounds like a lot (shit, it really does), but in New York, that is nice but not over-the-top wedding for 200 people. Good thing Websurfinbird's and my parents are chipping in! Didn't realize how expensive this stuff is ...
Wow! What the hell do you do for a living to have a wedding THAT expensive? Does that also include your honeymoon, and if so, where are you guys going? BTW, congrats to you both ahead of time!
Don't hate the playa, hate the game haha :P (I kid, I kid)

Luckily her parents are paying for about 55-60%, my parents about 20%, and we're covering the rest.
May 6, 2010 2:11pm
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bigkahuna

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May 6, 2010 2:13 PM
Well we treated it like one. so :P
May 6, 2010 2:13pm
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j_crazy

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May 6, 2010 2:16 PM
I'm just saying i had a 303,000 honeymoon if that's the case.

we took a cruise (3 grand) then bought a house 3 months after we got married.
May 6, 2010 2:16pm
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muffy

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May 6, 2010 2:18 PM
There are quite a few pastors/churches in the area that charge separate fees for church rental and pastor fees. The pastor's fees generally include 2-5 1 hour (or more) counseling sessions with the couple before the wedding so if you figure in 5 hours or counseling, 2 hours for rehearsal (assuming he arrives early and doesn't leave right at the 60 minute mark and 2 hours for the wedding ceremony - again assuming he doesn't arrive just in time to walk in and then leaves immediately after the ceremony and you are looking at about 9 hours of time, plus any prep time that he has (preparing the ceremony, etc) and divide that in to $250. I've seen some that charge $175 but I've also seen as high as $350.

For the church near us, not the one we belong to, you still must pay the pastor's fee even if you are having another pastor participate. The pastor of the church must be present and must participate, the guest pastor may do most of the ceremony but the "host" pastor still gets paid.
May 6, 2010 2:18pm
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May 6, 2010 2:20 PM
muffy wrote:
For the church near us, not the one we belong to, you still must pay the pastor's fee even if you are having another pastor participate. The pastor of the church must be present and must participate, the guest pastor may do most of the ceremony but the "host" pastor still gets paid.
If that doesn't raise some BS red flags about religion I'm not sure what will for some people.
May 6, 2010 2:20pm
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jmog

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May 6, 2010 2:29 PM
My wife's dress was about $900, alterations and everything included I think it was around $1200?

Our whole wedding, was under $4000, reception, food, etc.

We had the reception at the same church as the wedding (it had a hall), family made the food, family friend was a former wedding cake decorator and gave us the cake as our wedding gift, the dress was nearly 40% of the whole cost of the wedding. Rings were about $1400 total.

Honeymoon i spent myself about $2500 I think on a cruise and about $1500 on initial engagement ring, so grand total from engagement through honeymoon was about $8000.
May 6, 2010 2:29pm
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Curly J

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May 6, 2010 2:47 PM
CinciX12 wrote:
Curly J wrote: My daughter's dress was around $900.00. She just got married April 24th.
Is a congrats dad in order or do you not like the guy?
Thanks Cinci, and yes I like her Husband. I hope it works out for them better than it did for both their parents.

I'm about 10 Grand lighter in the pocket from the wedding, reception, and our gifts. Luckily the Groom's parents sprang for the Honeymoon in Vegas.
May 6, 2010 2:47pm
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bigkahuna

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May 6, 2010 2:52 PM
The church we used had a $700 fee but $500 was a deposit, so really only $200..... That was for non members.

I'm baptist, so we found this church becuause I wanted to get married in a Baptist Church. She wasn't really anything (Catholic I guess). She joined church, so bye bye fee lol. I later switched my membershiip to said church.
May 6, 2010 2:52pm
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ICEMAN59

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May 6, 2010 3:00 PM
My wife spent $800.00 on her dress when we were married two years ago. I think our whole wedding came to right around 20,000.00, give or take a bit.
May 6, 2010 3:00pm
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GoChiefs

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May 6, 2010 4:24 PM
We had a very nice wedding, and it only cost us about $3500.00

A girl I went to high school with was on that show 'Platinum Weddings' just last week. Spent over 600 grand on their wedding! Fuck that!
May 6, 2010 4:24pm
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May 6, 2010 4:30 PM
SQ_Crazies wrote:
muffy wrote:
For the church near us, not the one we belong to, you still must pay the pastor's fee even if you are having another pastor participate. The pastor of the church must be present and must participate, the guest pastor may do most of the ceremony but the "host" pastor still gets paid.
If that doesn't raise some BS red flags about religion I'm not sure what will for some people.
Most churches require that you use their pastor for the ceremony. The main reason for this is because a wedding is a religious ceremony, a church is a religious house of worship, and when you bring in a guest pastor you never know what he might say or do or how he might act that may misrepresent that church. Also, most pastors don't get paid very much and doing weddings is a way for them to supplement their normal income. If my dad never did any weddings we never would have gone on vacation growing up (and we still always did very inexpensive vacations anyway).
May 6, 2010 4:30pm
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Manhattan Buckeye

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May 6, 2010 4:46 PM
^^^^

Yeah, I'm not sure why some folks think that houses of worship (of whatever faith) are simply public facilities. If you want a church wedding, play by the church's rules. If you don't like the rules, go somewhere else. We had a religious service and the minister had rules we had to abide by (namely, pre-marital counseling which we paid for), so we did. A church isn't a public hall.
May 6, 2010 4:46pm
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cbus4life

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May 6, 2010 4:47 PM
Same with my brother, he had to do pre-marital counseling, no ifs, ands, or buts about it.
May 6, 2010 4:47pm
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May 6, 2010 4:51 PM
My wedding checked in a little North of $30,000, I think. Her parents paid for most of it but we spent a lot ($10k+) on it as well.
May 6, 2010 4:51pm
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I Wear Pants

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May 6, 2010 5:20 PM
What the hell did you guys buy for that wedding?

I swear if there weren't multiple open bars involved...
May 6, 2010 5:20pm
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Websurfinbird

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May 6, 2010 5:23 PM
bigkahuna wrote: The church we used had a $700 fee but $500 was a deposit, so really only $200..... That was for non members.

I'm baptist, so we found this church becuause I wanted to get married in a Baptist Church. She wasn't really anything (Catholic I guess). She joined church, so bye bye fee lol. I later switched my membershiip to said church.
We're paying $300 for the synagogue, $600 apiece for our two officiating Rabbis, and $350 for our cantor (dude who sings all the prayers). Sadly,this is considered on the low end for Jewish weddings.
May 6, 2010 5:23pm
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May 6, 2010 5:24 PM
I Wear Pants wrote: What the hell did you guys buy for that wedding?

I swear if there weren't multiple open bars involved...
We had an open bar.

Lots of things just add up. I would've been much happier eloping and pocketing the money.
May 6, 2010 5:24pm
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Manhattan Buckeye

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May 6, 2010 5:31 PM
I Wear Pants, Muffy has a pretty good synopsis earlier in the thread, stuff adds up.

There are the basics, the license, the ceremony hall fees (if any), the wedding rings, the officiant fee - or in our case the officiant suggested donation to his church....all of this is just the start.

You want flowers? You want a good photographer? You want prints of the photos? You want a reception?---in addition to the rental fee you have the food, the drinks, the cake, the band or dj (if you want music), it really does add up. That's not discussing wardrobes or gifts for attendants.

I don't think our wedding cost as much as the IP's plans, but it was pretty darn close, and that isn't counting the Rehearsal Dinner that my Dad and I paid for (which was about $5,000 with the dinner and the out of town guest reception). I can definitely understand the arguments that the costs have got out of hand. But looking back, I'm not sure there is anything I would have reduced, money is what it is -money. You can't take it with you.
May 6, 2010 5:31pm
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May 6, 2010 5:37 PM
our wedding ran just shy of 25 grand. That doesn't include the honeymoon or the fact that we were living in WY and got married in OH.

wife's parents paid for most of it. My parents paid for the food at the reception, I paid for the rehearsal dinner and the booze since I wanted the open bar.
May 6, 2010 5:37pm
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May 6, 2010 10:43 PM
justincredible wrote:
I Wear Pants wrote: What the hell did you guys buy for that wedding?

I swear if there weren't multiple open bars involved...
We had an open bar.

Lots of things just add up. I would've been much happier eloping and pocketing the money.
Inviting me sure didn't help :p


Definitely a great wedding though!
May 6, 2010 10:43pm
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sleeper

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May 7, 2010 1:54 AM
Whatever my wife wants for the wedding she'll get, it's her one day of feeling special before reality hits and she spends the rest of her life in the kitchen and in the bedroom.
May 7, 2010 1:54am
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May 7, 2010 2:40 AM
justincredible wrote:
I Wear Pants wrote: What the hell did you guys buy for that wedding?

I swear if there weren't multiple open bars involved...
We had an open bar.

Lots of things just add up. I would've been much happier eloping and pocketing the money.
Any time you ave an open bar for ANY event, make sure you invite me... My girlfriend will thank you for the money saved on the monthly "beer payment".
May 7, 2010 2:40am