sherm03
Posts: 7,349
Feb 25, 2010 11:43pm
...keep her last name when you get married?
My girl feels really bummed out because she realized that after we get married, her family name is going to die out. She's been hinting that she wishes she could keep it and hyphenate her last name.
I said absolutely not. I can't stand it when chicks hyphenate their last name.
Anyone agree with me on this?
My girl feels really bummed out because she realized that after we get married, her family name is going to die out. She's been hinting that she wishes she could keep it and hyphenate her last name.
I said absolutely not. I can't stand it when chicks hyphenate their last name.
Anyone agree with me on this?
dwccrew
Posts: 7,817
Feb 25, 2010 11:44pm
Many women I know change their middle name to their maiden name. That way it is still apart of their name, but there is no hyphenation.
Apple
Posts: 2,620
Feb 25, 2010 11:47pm
The drama gets more intense...
killdeer
Posts: 1,538
Feb 25, 2010 11:47pm
keeping their last name....nope, I have no problem with it. The ladies have that perogative if they like.
maybe because I'm the Dad of a daughter.
Another option is to make the first-name of your child the last name of your wife.
Sometimes it works out cool, sometimes not, just depends on the name.
maybe because I'm the Dad of a daughter.
Another option is to make the first-name of your child the last name of your wife.
Sometimes it works out cool, sometimes not, just depends on the name.
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raiderbuck
Posts: 1,623
Feb 25, 2010 11:48pm
I think the only way this would work (for me) would be if we were professionals or famous. If my wife carried a Ph.D. and had numerous publications under her maiden name, then I'd consider it. Other than that, absolutely not.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 25, 2010 11:51pm
Must change name. Can change middle name to maiden name that's fine/
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Feb 25, 2010 11:51pm
shes takin my name whether she likes it or not
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 25, 2010 11:52pm
My sister hyphenated. Maiden-Married. That's just legally though. She signs everything and goes by just her married name.
dwccrew
Posts: 7,817
Feb 25, 2010 11:52pm
Mrs. UA5straightin2008. I could see her having issue with this.UA5straightin2008 wrote: shes takin my name whether she likes it or not
stroups
Posts: 3,223
Feb 25, 2010 11:53pm
If that happened to one of my friends they would get made fun of so bad. I wouldn't do it just for the grief I would have to take for the rest of my life.
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Feb 25, 2010 11:53pm
LOLmy nick name is "eggs" everyone calls me it...ill let you guess my last name
dwccrew
Posts: 7,817
Feb 25, 2010 11:53pm
Damn women and their damn rights. Next thing you know they'll want to vote.LJ wrote: My sister hyphenated. Maiden-Married. That's just legally though. She signs everything and goes by just her married name.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 25, 2010 11:54pm
huh? She did it because of her name being associated with horse training and championships and stuff. That was the only reason.dwccrew wrote:Damn women and their damn rights. Next thing you know they'll want to vote.LJ wrote: My sister hyphenated. Maiden-Married. That's just legally though. She signs everything and goes by just her married name.
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Upper90
Posts: 1,095
Feb 25, 2010 11:55pm
Grain of salt, because I'm single. But, I can't ever really imagine having a problem with this. If my wife wanted to keep her name, I would likely care less.
Not to mention, no woman in their right mind, no matter how much they love me, would want to live the rest of their life having to spell my last name, let alone explain to people how to pronounce it.
Not to mention, no woman in their right mind, no matter how much they love me, would want to live the rest of their life having to spell my last name, let alone explain to people how to pronounce it.
DeyDurkie5
Posts: 11,324
Feb 25, 2010 11:57pm
calm down it was a joke mr seriousLJ wrote:huh? She did it because of her name being associated with horse training and championships and stuff. That was the only reason.dwccrew wrote:Damn women and their damn rights. Next thing you know they'll want to vote.LJ wrote: My sister hyphenated. Maiden-Married. That's just legally though. She signs everything and goes by just her married name.
majorspark
Posts: 5,122
Feb 25, 2010 11:59pm
I agree.sherm03 wrote: ...keep her last name when you get married?
My girl feels really bummed out because she realized that after we get married, her family name is going to die out. She's been hinting that she wishes she could keep it and hyphenate her last name.
I said absolutely not. I can't stand it when chicks hyphenate their last name.
Anyone agree with me on this?
Unless your children took the hyphenated name her maiden name will die out anyways.
tk421
Posts: 8,500
Feb 26, 2010 12:00am
It's her name, why the fuck would I care? I think married couples should come up with a totally new last for both the husband and wife.
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Gardens35
Posts: 4,929
Feb 26, 2010 12:01am
If you think that you're truly in it for the long haul would you let this be a deal breaker? Seems that some brides use the hyphenation for reasons that I don't necessarily agree with, but yours seems to be very respectful and considerate of the family. I respect that. What if your family name was about to end and you could do something to keep it alive, would you?
...But I'm not walking in your shoes either. Good luck with that and your marriage too.
...But I'm not walking in your shoes either. Good luck with that and your marriage too.
dwccrew
Posts: 7,817
Feb 26, 2010 12:01am
This. LOLDeyDurkie5 wrote:calm down it was a joke mr seriousLJ wrote:huh? She did it because of her name being associated with horse training and championships and stuff. That was the only reason.dwccrew wrote:Damn women and their damn rights. Next thing you know they'll want to vote.LJ wrote: My sister hyphenated. Maiden-Married. That's just legally though. She signs everything and goes by just her married name.
dwccrew
Posts: 7,817
Feb 26, 2010 12:03am
Doesn't the family name end with her regardless? The children bore out of this union will have your last name, correct? Also, I know many women that want their children to have the same last name as them.
Unless the plan would be to give them the hyphenated name as well.
Unless the plan would be to give them the hyphenated name as well.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 26, 2010 12:03am
Sorry. 2 things I don't take lightly and that is being called a racist or being called a sexist.
sej
Posts: 540
Feb 26, 2010 12:04am
If I continue in my line of work, I will keep my last name professionally without hyphenation. Legally, however, I would likely change my name.
sherm03
Posts: 7,349
Feb 26, 2010 12:07am
I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker. I'm not going to call off the wedding over something like that. But it's something that I feel very strongly about. I can see her point of view.Gardens35 wrote: If you think that you're truly in it for the long haul would you let this be a deal breaker? Seems that some brides use the hyphenation for reasons that I don't necessarily agree with, but yours seems to be very respectful and considerate of the family. I respect that. What if your family name was about to end and you could do something to keep it alive, would you?
...But I'm not walking in your shoes either. Good luck with that and your marriage too.
But at the same time, marriage is supposed to be the complete union of two people. I feel that if the girl hyphenates her last name, there is not that complete union. To me, it's like there is always a divide between the two people.
sherm03
Posts: 7,349
Feb 26, 2010 12:08am
Exactly. The name ends regardless because our kids will have my last name.dwccrew wrote: Doesn't the family name end with her regardless? The children bore out of this union will have your last name, correct? Also, I know many women that want their children to have the same last name as them.
Unless the plan would be to give them the hyphenated name as well.
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Feb 26, 2010 12:10am
I would never nót change my name but I also don't have a problem with women who do. Not sure why this would be such a huge issue with some men. And that's a serious question.