LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 26, 2010 12:11am
Are you sure about that?sherm03 wrote:Exactly. The name ends regardless because our kids will have my last name.dwccrew wrote: Doesn't the family name end with her regardless? The children bore out of this union will have your last name, correct? Also, I know many women that want their children to have the same last name as them.
Unless the plan would be to give them the hyphenated name as well.
dwccrew
Posts: 7,817
Feb 26, 2010 12:11am
I think it just has to do with tradition.Fab4Runner wrote: I would never nót change my name but I also don't have a problem with women who do. Not sure why this would be such a huge issue with some men. And that's a serious question.
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Feb 26, 2010 12:12am
You could always change your last name to hers...that's still a complete union, lol. I actually do know a man who did this and yes he gets made fun of.
sherm03
Posts: 7,349
Feb 26, 2010 12:12am
LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?
GoChiefs
Posts: 16,754
Feb 26, 2010 12:13am
It would be a huge issue...but I don't think I'd be for it. We never had to worry about it considering my last name is the 5th time my wifes changed her name anyways. Lol
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 26, 2010 12:13am
Do you call him Mrs?Fab4Runner wrote: You could always change your last name to hers...that's still a complete union, lol. I actually do know a man who did this and yes he gets made fun of.
Apple
Posts: 2,620
Feb 26, 2010 12:13am
You could always take her last name or you could also agree to give your children her last name. There are many ways to keep the options open with regards to the names of your children.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Feb 26, 2010 12:14am
With her reasoning being what it is, you better double check on that onesherm03 wrote:LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Feb 26, 2010 12:18am
Let's be honest here, if she's putting out, does it really matter?
killdeer
Posts: 1,538
Feb 26, 2010 12:20am
as I said earlier, just combine the names in the name of your progeny...
i.e., let's say your girl's last name is Michelin, and your last name is Firestone...just name that first-born son Michelin Firestone.
See, everybody is happy.
i.e., let's say your girl's last name is Michelin, and your last name is Firestone...just name that first-born son Michelin Firestone.
See, everybody is happy.
NNN
Posts: 902
Feb 26, 2010 12:28am
Just do what my dad did. His maternal grandfather was lamenting the end of the line for the last name, so he offered to change his and my mom's last name for a rather princely sum.
You're working in porn?sej wrote: If I continue in my line of work, I will keep my last name professionally without hyphenation. Legally, however, I would likely change my name.
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charliehustle14
Posts: 2,224
Feb 26, 2010 12:32am
I really wouldn't care.
ts1227
Posts: 12,319
Feb 26, 2010 12:34am
I see no problem with using both maiden and married last names.
Especially if she has made a name for herself with her maiden name (in something like academia, or her job field, or whatever else), how can you stop her?
Especially if she has made a name for herself with her maiden name (in something like academia, or her job field, or whatever else), how can you stop her?
tk421
Posts: 8,500
Feb 26, 2010 12:34am
No one likes my idea of both getting a completely new last name? Is that not the true joining of people into a couple? 
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charliehustle14
Posts: 2,224
Feb 26, 2010 12:53am
Could be just like Jack White and take the name of your wife
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Feb 26, 2010 12:57am
UA5straightin2008 wrote:LOL
my nick name is "eggs" everyone calls me it...ill let you guess my last name
krambman
Posts: 3,606
Feb 26, 2010 1:00am
Or she could just keep her maiden name as a second middle name if she doesn't want to drop her middle name. Just have a four word name.dwccrew wrote: Many women I know change their middle name to their maiden name. That way it is still apart of their name, but there is no hyphenation.
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Gblock
Feb 26, 2010 1:31am
if you love her and its important to her you should do it.....just my humble opinion
Heretic
Posts: 18,820
Feb 26, 2010 1:42am
As long as she brings me sandwiches and spreads the legs when I snap my fingers (or preferably both when I snap my fingers...a sandwich is a good treat after I take what's mine), she can call herself whatever she wants.
I'm the picture of class and maturity when it comes to dealing with the female mind.
I'm the picture of class and maturity when it comes to dealing with the female mind.
sleeper
Posts: 27,879
Feb 26, 2010 2:23am
I lol'd. So true.Heretic wrote: As long as she brings me sandwiches and spreads the legs when I snap my fingers (or preferably both when I snap my fingers...a sandwich is a good treat after I take what's mine), she can call herself whatever she wants.
I'm the picture of class and maturity when it comes to dealing with the female mind.
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Swamp Fox
Posts: 2,218
Feb 26, 2010 3:13am
I would say that "Gblock" has it right. Men and women aren't each other's possessions, they are each other's partners.
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Angel
Posts: 363
Feb 26, 2010 6:37am
I sure hope that you didn't react exactly how your post is worded when she was hinting at hyphenating her name.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but, she would be smart to think twice about the actual marriage if that is how you said it.
I understand this is the Freehuddle and guys say things tougher than they might say them in person, but, if you are going into the marriage thinking that you can control her, don't get married.
Let her be her. I assume that you want to marry her because of who she is, so, let her keep being who she is. If not, your marriage could be doomed from the beginning.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but, she would be smart to think twice about the actual marriage if that is how you said it.
I understand this is the Freehuddle and guys say things tougher than they might say them in person, but, if you are going into the marriage thinking that you can control her, don't get married.
Let her be her. I assume that you want to marry her because of who she is, so, let her keep being who she is. If not, your marriage could be doomed from the beginning.
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Con_Alma
Posts: 12,198
Feb 26, 2010 6:38am
My "girl" is my wife and it's called her last name for a reason.
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iluvz
Posts: 262
Feb 26, 2010 6:39am
No way would I ever consider changing my name if I got married again. Then again, I won't ever get married again, so its really a non issue. I think its ridiculous that men think they have some devine right for a woman to change her name. What are you giving of yourself that's of equal value as half of who you identify yourself as? If you need a piece of paper, or for a woman to change her name to solidify your relationship, or for her to 'prove' her love for you, or for you to feel secure with her, you already have a fatal flaw.
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Con_Alma
Posts: 12,198
Feb 26, 2010 6:42am
^^^^
No that's not it at all. Good God! ...talk about an overreaction!
No that's not it at all. Good God! ...talk about an overreaction!