Do you get along with your in laws ?

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Dec 7, 2013 11:10 AM
Pick6;1549270 wrote:Only two in this thread that hate in-laws live in Massillon.
Live in North Canton and in laws live in plain twp. Nice fail though.
Dec 7, 2013 11:10am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:12 AM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;1549278 wrote:Live in North Canton and in laws live in plain twp. Nice fail though.
excuse me. Massillon fans*

But like I said, it makes little sense to me to marry someone when you cant stand their family, unless they have a bad relationship with them as well.
Dec 7, 2013 11:12am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:14 AM
Pick6;1549279 wrote:excuse me. Massillon fans*
Go chiefs is a Logan fan and doesn't care about Massillon at all. Keep up the know it all but fail schtick though.
Dec 7, 2013 11:14am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:48 AM
Pick6;1549270 wrote:Only two in this thread that hate in-laws live in Massillon.
Strike 1.
Pick6;1549279 wrote:excuse me. Massillon fans*
Strike 2.
Pick6;1549279 wrote: But like I said, it makes little sense to me to marry someone when you cant stand their family, unless they have a bad relationship with them as well.
Swing and a miss, you're out!

My wifes relationship with her family is great. I didn't marry my wife's family, I married my wife. She knows which ones I can't stand, so she just doesn't ask me to do anything that they are involved in. I am civil with them at family get togethers and holidays, and that's all she asks. I'm OK with that.
Dec 7, 2013 11:48am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:53 AM
GoChiefs;1549290 wrote:Strike 1.



Strike 2.



Swing and a miss, you're out!

My wifes relationship with her family is great. I didn't marry my wife's family, I married my wife. She knows which ones I can't stand, so she just doesn't ask me to do anything that they are involved in. I am civil with them at family get togethers and holidays, and that's all she asks. I'm OK with that.
Stop. The little yuppie obviously knows everything about life. You should take notes.
Dec 7, 2013 11:53am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:54 AM
like_that;1549292 wrote:You should take notes.
QFT. Sorry its my opinion that marrying into a family you cannot stand is stupid. Apparently having an opinion makes me a know-it-all. lulz
Dec 7, 2013 11:54am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:56 AM
Pick6;1549293 wrote:QFT. Sorry its my opinion that marrying into a family you cannot stand is stupid.
Some people don't see the real side of their in laws until they are married. What should do then? Get divorced?
Dec 7, 2013 11:56am
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Dec 7, 2013 11:57 AM
My late FIL was a narcissistic piece of garbage. I actually (discreetly) walked out of his funeral service because I couldn't stand the "hosanas" from the members of the congregation. Lady D'Friskies and I had spend too much time cleaning up the damage he'd inflicted on others over the years to listen to it. He and I co-existed and were at least civil to one another (I wasn't going to put my wife into the middle of an ongoing war), but neither of us liked the other. Maybe it was the fact that i wouldn't hesitate to call him out whenever tried to take advantage of others - he hadn't had to opportunity to beat me into submission while I was growing up.

MIL lives with us about four months of the year (worse than broke thanks to FIL, early stages of dementia). She's not my favorite person in the world (weak, submissive, textbook case of
severe passive-aggressive personality), but I can deal with it. There are certain things a man has to do in life whether you want to or not - providing for a elderly, unwell family member is one of them

Nine BIL/SIL - mixed bag. Two are dead from drugs, one is in prison (life w/o parole for beating a four-year-old to death - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree). The others function with varying degrees of success in overcoming substance abuse and emotional illnesses (Gardens35- Muggsy falls into this class!) - we're close to one of her sisters, but not the others. We're just happy that all of them live at least 250 miles away - if we lived in the same city, I think we'd have long ago severed any relationships due to having to put up with all the drama and mooching.
Dec 7, 2013 11:57am
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Dec 7, 2013 12:01 PM
like_that;1549295 wrote:Some people don't see the real side of their in laws until they are married. What should do then? Get divorced?
Winner! Got along with them just fine until about 2 years into the marriage when I started seeing their true colors.
Dec 7, 2013 12:01pm
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Dec 7, 2013 12:01 PM
like_that;1549292 wrote:Stop. The little yuppie obviously knows everything about life. You should take notes.
Reps. I'll start a journal!
Dec 7, 2013 12:01pm
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Dec 7, 2013 12:10 PM
like_that;1549295 wrote:Some people don't see the real side of their in laws until they are married. What should do then? Get divorced?
That's an unfortunate possibility I guess. Obviously wouldn't recommend getting divorced because of that, but I have seen first hand (parents) how one spouse not being favorable of the in-laws led to strain on the marriage and eventually divorce.
Dec 7, 2013 12:10pm
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Dec 7, 2013 12:26 PM
"I have seen first hand (parents) how one spouse not being favorable of the in-laws led to strain on the marriage and eventually divorce."

And that is exactly why people should wait until they are mature enough to handle their parents before they get married. My parents are boring as $%#&, but are ultimately harmless, which is why I explain to them that sometimes my wife doesn't want to hang out with them. My wife's parents are stubborn and can be a bit judgmental, which is why my wife explains to them that they need to knock it off when I've had enough. In both situations, we make it clear that we didn't choose our parents, but we chose each other.
Dec 7, 2013 12:26pm
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Dec 7, 2013 12:27 PM
Pick6;1549293 wrote:QFT. Sorry its my opinion that marrying into a family you cannot stand is stupid. Apparently having an opinion makes me a know-it-all. lulz
You don't always see people true sides until they're comfortable around you. All you get up to that point is the persona they want to put off. Regardless, it's really only her mother. Her brother is a golf partner of mine in a league so obviously I can be around him... He just knows everything like you. Her father is fine one on one if we go golfing together of hang out while they shop. But he's her mothers slave and mouth piece when she's around. Her mom is a nice enough lady, she just has the mentality of a teenager which causes problems for people who aren't 13 themselves. My MIL and I are just polar opposites when it comes to everything so we don't mesh well on a personal level.
Dec 7, 2013 12:27pm
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Dec 7, 2013 1:13 PM
I get along really well with my wife's family.

Her dad has helped us out several times with things around the house. He's pretty handy, and I am the worst at that stuff...so it's nice to have him help out whenever we have to fix something. Her mom passed away after we had only been dating for about a year. I didn't get a chance to really get to know her. But from the times I met her she was super nice and great to be around.

My wife's siblings are all pretty cool. I've butted heads with her sisters a few times on some things. But since they've had their kids, we have all gotten along great. My wife's brother has autism and is seriously one of my favorite people in the world.
Dec 7, 2013 1:13pm
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Dec 7, 2013 1:38 PM
Pick6;1549270 wrote:Only two in this thread that hate in-laws live in Massillon.
I like my in laws and live in Massillon. Sorry to ruin it.
Dec 7, 2013 1:38pm
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Dec 7, 2013 1:41 PM
ts1227;1549320 wrote:I like my in laws and live in Massillon. Sorry to ruin it.
I was wrong anyways :cry:
Dec 7, 2013 1:41pm
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Dec 7, 2013 2:00 PM
Our relationship/s with in-laws is practically perfect.

End of my cool story.
Dec 7, 2013 2:00pm
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Dec 7, 2013 2:15 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;1549129 wrote: He's a know it all (doesn't really know anything but acts like he does)
like_that;1549211 wrote:Your brother in law is LJ?
lol!
Dec 7, 2013 2:15pm
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Dec 7, 2013 4:06 PM
My wife says her parents like me more than they do her! My father in law and myself remodeled our home. We worked on it for 4 months completely gutting it and redoing everything! My mil is great and loves to cook for us.

Now my mother and my wife is a different issue! My father passed away in 97', 5 years before we were married, my wife and I met after he passed. My mother is very passive aggressive with my wife. While on vacation with both my mother and in laws, I actually had to pull my mother to the side and tell her she was treating my wife like shit. She still gets her digs in, but for the most part my mother gets along! My dad was actually very grounded so I never saw that side of my mom while growing up.
Dec 7, 2013 4:06pm
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Dec 7, 2013 9:24 PM
My MIL is more of a mother to me than my own mother.
Dec 7, 2013 9:24pm
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Dec 9, 2013 8:48 AM
FIL died a few years ago. Mil is fine. Her family s huge, and I get along with them all pretty well even if I have nothing in common with any of them. It wasn't always that way. When we first starting dating they didn't like me because I wasn't Catholic. I guess they got over it when they saw I wasn't going to try to convert their daughter.
Dec 9, 2013 8:48am
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Dec 9, 2013 9:07 AM
My girlfriend's mom is great. Grandfather is a good guy, but throws his beliefs out at everyone. Gets annoying. Grandmother is the same way, but they're both nice people. I spend quite a bit of time with her family and always have a good time.

We don't speak to her dad's side of the family. I've met him once and he's an asshole.
Dec 9, 2013 9:07am
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Dec 9, 2013 12:56 PM
I actually think that whomever I trick into marrying me is going to be pretty lucky. My parents (both sets) are really awesome. My mom is the type of lady that my friends will call for advice, etc. She is also an excellent gift giver, so her kids and their significant others are fortunate when it comes to that as well. I have five brothers and a sister, and I have never dated anyone who did not get along with all of them. Obviously there are going to be people who are closer or who get along better, but so far it's been pretty great.

My mom and stepdad actually treated wildcats to many rounds of golf back in the day when we were dating. I am pretty sure he was a fan of them.
Dec 9, 2013 12:56pm
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Dec 9, 2013 1:01 PM
I never see mine. MIL likes in CA and I've seen her 3 times in 12 years. Never met my FIL. My wife hasn't spoken to him in 20 years.
Dec 9, 2013 1:01pm
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Dec 9, 2013 1:05 PM
HitsRus;1549227 wrote:I hate to say that, but sometimes I'm more comfortable with my in laws.

Having a good relationship with your in laws can be a plus for a marraige and the converse is true too.... it can put a lot of strain on a marraige if families don't get along.
My brother is a selfish asshole, who apparently didn't like the idea of sharing my time with anyone else.
Dec 9, 2013 1:05pm