gerb131
Posts: 9,932
Aug 4, 2013 5:35pm
I have a good friend and he has 2 kids. A boy 19 and a girl 9. Up until recently he told me that the kids slept with him and his wife until they were 7 or 8 years old.
He said they had bad dreams or would get scared or just couldnt sleep in their own beds in the middle of the night and crawl in to bed with him and his wife the boy was 8 when he quit and the girl was 7 but has done it a few times even at 9.
I said man thats weird as shit and he got mad lol I said we had our son sleep in ours one or 2 nights when he was 2 just to get him to go to damn sleep. Other than that our door is shut (not locked) and if he needed something he can always come wake us up if there is an issue.
What say you OC?
He said they had bad dreams or would get scared or just couldnt sleep in their own beds in the middle of the night and crawl in to bed with him and his wife the boy was 8 when he quit and the girl was 7 but has done it a few times even at 9.
I said man thats weird as shit and he got mad lol I said we had our son sleep in ours one or 2 nights when he was 2 just to get him to go to damn sleep. Other than that our door is shut (not locked) and if he needed something he can always come wake us up if there is an issue.
What say you OC?
GoChiefs
Posts: 16,754
Aug 4, 2013 5:40pm
Eh, it's not uncommon.
Iliketurtles
Posts: 8,191
Aug 4, 2013 5:56pm
Eh I don't think that's too bad as long as it wasn't like all the time.
Glory Days
Posts: 7,809
Aug 4, 2013 6:02pm
haha i thought they were going to still be 19 and 9...now that would be weird.
Ironman92
Posts: 49,363
Aug 4, 2013 6:05pm
It's stupid....there is a reason your kids have their own beds in their own room.
Sometimes parenting is hard and or heart-breaking. Do what is best for your kid.
Sometimes parenting is hard and or heart-breaking. Do what is best for your kid.
se-alum
Posts: 13,948
Aug 4, 2013 8:12pm
Yea, don't think it's all that odd, stupid to allow it though.
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vball10set
Posts: 24,795
Aug 4, 2013 8:19pm
Common practice for cross country runnersGlory Days;1482367 wrote:haha i thought they were going to still be 19 and 9...now that would be weird.
pmoney25
Posts: 1,787
Aug 4, 2013 8:46pm
Don't really think it is odd. My kids are 6 and 3. My son (6) rarely does anymore and my daughter (3) will maybe do it a couple times a month. I'm not sure why it is weird, it only probably has been going on since the beginning of human civilization.
Fly4Fun
Posts: 7,730
Aug 4, 2013 10:15pm
As long as they aren't just there for a late night glass of milk...
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Aug 4, 2013 10:28pm
Who gives a shit? My oldest daughter is almost 8, and if she wants to crawl in bed with us, who cares? she maybe does 2 times per year. Big fucking deal.
gerb131
Posts: 9,932
Aug 4, 2013 10:53pm
Whatever helps ya sleep at night.ernest_t_bass;1482455 wrote:Who gives a shit? My oldest daughter is almost 8, and if she wants to crawl in bed with us, who cares? she maybe does 2 times per year. Big fucking deal.
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Sonofanump
Aug 4, 2013 11:41pm
I thought the original post was more towards every night. I agree with you that infrequent is not a problem.ernest_t_bass;1482455 wrote:Who gives a shit? My oldest daughter is almost 8, and if she wants to crawl in bed with us, who cares? she maybe does 2 times per year. Big fucking deal.
O-Trap
Posts: 14,994
Aug 5, 2013 12:53am
This lady pisses me off. I don't care so much about the whole "breast-feeding 'til he can switch to whiskey" part. What bothers me is that her statement is going to get her kid made fun of all throughout school. Hell, when he's 18, I'm sure this will still be getting brought up.Fly4Fun;1482450 wrote:As long as they aren't just there for a late night glass of milk...
As for the question at hand ... well ...
Who cares? Next year it will be the same shit. 4-12 after three years; Chud will be fired along with Banner and Lombardi; then we will switch back to the 4-3.
SnotBubbles
Posts: 4,492
Aug 5, 2013 6:35am
5 out of 7 nights a week at least one of my 4-year old twins gets in our bed in the middle of the night.
Belly35
Posts: 9,716
Aug 5, 2013 7:29am
My kids where never nap type kids and we didn’t encourage taking naps. Once they started not wanting to take naps, we where good with that. If they got tired and fell asleep on the floor, car seat or chair we would just make sure they didn’t sleep to long so they would sleep during the night. Now some times if a storm rolled in with heavy lighting and thunder they may wake up and come into our bedroom .. very few times that ever happen. Play hard, get tired, sleep hard wake up early…
That "nap" idea is encourageing lazyness, wimpness and weakness ...
That "nap" idea is encourageing lazyness, wimpness and weakness ...
Rotinaj
Posts: 7,699
Aug 5, 2013 8:03am
Obama slept with his parents until he was 23. He's what is wrong with our country!!!!!
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Aug 5, 2013 8:14am
Every night is weird. Once in a while is fine.
GoChiefs
Posts: 16,754
Aug 5, 2013 8:22am
Belly35;1482515 wrote:That "nap" idea is encourageing lazyness, whimpness and weakness ...
Sorry Belly, but that's just stupid.
Belly35
Posts: 9,716
Aug 5, 2013 10:42am
Presently I and my daughter have learned to take Power naps as needed or in preparation of a long event. As children they would fall asleep when their body needed and they became tried pushing the limits, short naps to restore their energy without the regimented long nap time. The body builds up strength and endurance. Plus the mental idea that it does matter if they where tired just take a nap didn't seem to be a logical justification to make the kids do something. Some parent use naps as a convenient way to get away from their kids (Parent Break Time).GoChiefs;1482528 wrote:Sorry Belly, but that's just stupid.
We have to agree that children behavior is a learned / taught aspect of growing up. What you as a parent do now is reflected as part of your children learning and behavior process. How many time have you hear this “I’m tired” where do you think this came from? Excuse...
GoChiefs
Posts: 16,754
Aug 5, 2013 10:55am
So your weak, wimpy, and lazy? Noted.Belly35;1482572 wrote:Presently I and my daughter have learned to take Power naps as needed or in preparation of a long event.
Belly35;1482572 wrote:How many time have you hear this “I’m tired” where do you think this came from? Excuse...
It comes from being tired. Something that happens to your body no matter what. Naps or not, you won't change that.
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thavoice
Posts: 14,376
Aug 5, 2013 11:34am
I would think this is very odd, but I believe it is very common. Unfortunately.
HitsRus
Posts: 9,206
Aug 5, 2013 7:07pm
I don't think there is any problem with an older toddler/young child coming into his parent's bed on rare occasion. Kids sometimes have fears and security issues and sometimes just need comforting. I think it is a problem if it becomes regular or frequent.
redstreak one
Posts: 1,152
Aug 6, 2013 7:33am
I never slept in my parents bed, and my kids have never slept in mine and my wife's bed. They come downstairs scared or upset we get up with them and walk them back to their room and settle them down there.
ZWICK 4 PREZ
Posts: 7,733
Aug 6, 2013 7:48am
Parents bed is for parents, not kids. Those saying it's ok are just lazy and don't care to correct it.
Raw Dawgin' it
Posts: 11,466
Aug 6, 2013 7:59am
ok tough guy - remember when you sat on the side of the road and waited for AAA to come change your tire? Talk about lazy...Belly35;1482572 wrote:Presently I and my daughter have learned to take Power naps as needed or in preparation of a long event. As children they would fall asleep when their body needed and they became tried pushing the limits, short naps to restore their energy without the regimented long nap time. The body builds up strength and endurance. Plus the mental idea that it does matter if they where tired just take a nap didn't seem to be a logical justification to make the kids do something. Some parent use naps as a convenient way to get away from their kids (Parent Break Time).
We have to agree that children behavior is a learned / taught aspect of growing up. What you as a parent do now is reflected as part of your children learning and behavior process. How many time have you hear this “I’m tired” where do you think this came from? Excuse...