ZWICK 4 PREZ;1482995 wrote:Parents bed is for parents, not kids. Those saying it's ok are just lazy and don't care to correct it.

Yea, I guarantee your answer will change in about 3 or 4 years.

GoChiefs;1483005 wrote:Yea, I guarantee your answer will change in about 3 or 4 years.

Perhaps you were raised where it was ok to sleep with your mom and dad. At least you can blame your parents then.

ZWICK 4 PREZ;1483008 wrote:Perhaps you were raised where it was ok to sleep with your mom and dad. At least you can blame your parents then.

There's no one to blame because it's completely normal and there's nothing wrong with it. It has nothing to do with laziness.

Raw Dawgin' it;1483002 wrote:ok tough guy - remember when you sat on the side of the road and waited for AAA to come change your tire? Talk about lazy...

I work hard to have those perks of AAA that i pay for for my family plus I had a meeting that morning and the idea of getting dirty was not in the plans. I made the call to use my hard earned AAA membership. Lazy ... Or ...Rational thinking

Belly35;1483016 wrote:I work hard to have those perks of AAA that i pay for for my family plus I had a meeting that morning and the idea of getting dirty was not in the plans. I made the call to use my hard earned AAA membership. Lazy ... Or ...Rational thinking

Lazy. It's not exactly hard to wash your hands after they get dirty from changing a tire.

ZWICK 4 PREZ;1482995 wrote:Parents bed is for parents, not kids. Those saying it's ok are just lazy and don't care to correct it.

Lol

Belly35;1483016 wrote:I work hard to have those perks of AAA that i pay for for my family plus I had a meeting that morning and the idea of getting dirty was not in the plans. I made the call to use my hard earned AAA membership. Lazy ... Or ...Rational thinking

QQ old man

ZWICK 4 PREZ;1482995 wrote:Parents bed is for parents, not kids. Those saying it's ok are just lazy and don't care to correct it.

I actually agree with this. And I won't change my mind in 3 or 4 years, because I already have a 6 and 10 year old. Neither EVER sleep in our bed. The only exception is if my wife or I is out of town, one might sleep in our bed as a treat. And they know it's a treat. Most parents I know who have kids that sleep in their bed, do it because they don't want to fight it. It's easier to let Johnny sleep with them when it's thundering or they hear a noise at 3 am.

Occasionally is ok, even if unnecessary. But for those that do it regularly, I don't think it's a good thing.

WebFire;1483034 wrote:Occasionally is ok, even if unnecessary. But for those that do it regularly, I don't think it's a good thing.

I agree with that.

ernest_t_bass;1483031 wrote:Lol

The fact you allow it only proves my point.

Belly35;1483016 wrote:I work hard to have those perks of AAA that i pay for for my family plus I had a meeting that morning and the idea of getting dirty was not in the plans. I made the call to use my hard earned AAA membership. Lazy ... Or ...Rational thinking

excuses are for pussies.

When Belly is lazy, it's because he works hard and is thinking rationally. When everyone else is lazy, it's because they're lazy. Got it.

Two kids... 9 (boy), 5 (girl). Both have slept in our room since their birth. From time to time they'll fall asleep in the living room (long day in a kid's life type of thing) and we'll leave them on the couch. But by morning, they've found their way into our room (downstairs master bedroom).

The main, and sometimes the only, reason my wife and I come up with letting it continue? Simple - One day they won't. And we will NEVER have the time back. Only get one shot in life. Take part in the good things; avoid the distractions.

My guess is we only have two or three years before my son decides he wants to venture up to his room and his bed for the night. From that point on, he'll never be back. Bedtime stories, conversations, prayers, etc. can all still happen, but it'll be different. And when that times comes, we'll adjust. But no need to rush the time.

Will I enjoy the space on the bed? Sure. Will I remember the nights my wife and I couldn't be together with no kids in the bed? Nope.

cruiser_96;1483139 wrote:Two kids... 9 (boy), 5 (girl). Both have slept in our room since their birth. From time to time they'll fall asleep in the living room (long day in a kid's life type of thing) and we'll leave them on the couch. But by morning, they've found their way into our room (downstairs master bedroom).

The main, and sometimes the only, reason my wife and I come up with letting it continue? Simple - One day they won't. And we will NEVER have the time back. Only get one shot in life. Take part in the good things; avoid the distractions.

My guess is we only have two or three years before my son decides he wants to venture up to his room and his bed for the night. From that point on, he'll never be back. Bedtime stories, conversations, prayers, etc. can all still happen, but it'll be different. And when that times comes, we'll adjust. But no need to rush the time.

Will I enjoy the space on the bed? Sure. Will I remember the nights my wife and I couldn't be together with no kids in the bed? Nope.

Well said.

cruiser_96;1483139 wrote:Two kids... 9 (boy), 5 (girl). Both have slept in our room since their birth. From time to time they'll fall asleep in the living room (long day in a kid's life type of thing) and we'll leave them on the couch. But by morning, they've found their way into our room (downstairs master bedroom).

The main, and sometimes the only, reason my wife and I come up with letting it continue? Simple - One day they won't. And we will NEVER have the time back. Only get one shot in life. Take part in the good things; avoid the distractions.

My guess is we only have two or three years before my son decides he wants to venture up to his room and his bed for the night. From that point on, he'll never be back. Bedtime stories, conversations, prayers, etc. can all still happen, but it'll be different. And when that times comes, we'll adjust. But no need to rush the time.

Will I enjoy the space on the bed? Sure. Will I remember the nights my wife and I couldn't be together with no kids in the bed? Nope.

Reps

cruiser_96;1483139 wrote:Two kids... 9 (boy), 5 (girl). Both have slept in our room since their birth. From time to time they'll fall asleep in the living room (long day in a kid's life type of thing) and we'll leave them on the couch. But by morning, they've found their way into our room (downstairs master bedroom).

The main, and sometimes the only, reason my wife and I come up with letting it continue? Simple - One day they won't. And we will NEVER have the time back. Only get one shot in life. Take part in the good things; avoid the distractions.

My guess is we only have two or three years before my son decides he wants to venture up to his room and his bed for the night. From that point on, he'll never be back. Bedtime stories, conversations, prayers, etc. can all still happen, but it'll be different. And when that times comes, we'll adjust. But no need to rush the time.

Will I enjoy the space on the bed? Sure. Will I remember the nights my wife and I couldn't be together with no kids in the bed? Nope.

Wait a second... your son is 9 years old and has slept in your room for 9 years? Not his room?

ZWICK 4 PREZ;1483148 wrote:Wait a second... your son is 9 years old and has slept in your room for 9 years? Not his room?

Might as well just save that post so he can give it to the kid's therapist in about 10 years....

I don't consider the time I'm sleeping to be quality family time.

ZWICK 4 PREZ;1483148 wrote:Wait a second... your son is 9 years old and has slept in your room for 9 years? Not his room?

This. LOL. That's ODD.

WebFire;1483159 wrote:I don't consider the time I'm sleeping to be quality family time.

and this...how is sleeping 'quality family time'. I wonder if he will be okay with letting his kids live there until they are 30, because thats time theyll never get back.

ernest_t_bass;1483143 wrote:wtf?

fify

Quality family time ends around 10:00 during school and around 11:00 other days......then they go to bed.

One of my daughter's good friends slept in the same bed as her mom all through her life and up through high school....more mom than daughter. Now she's going off to THE OSU and I'll be interested if it lasts. Hopefully it does.

My daughter is 3 and she has only slept in my bed a couple times. Usually when she's sick. Plus how are you suppose to get it in if your kids are always in your bed? My daughter will and has always slept in her own bed.

If my kids when they were little came into my my room to sleep, my wife and I would get up and go into their room so we could go to sleep in their bed.

If they have emotional distress and want to be with us, I'd be happy to get up and go be with them in our family room if they need comfort or reassurance. It certainly wont be while falling asleep in our bed. That's where I sleep. There's no room for more than two.

These are two different issues.

1. The comforting need of a parent.

2. The physical need for rest/sleep.

They aren't the same thing to us.

I don't judge how other parents might handle this....it really doesn't impact me one way or another. This just happens to be how we chose to do it.

Wow! A lot going on here...

Zwick: 9 years. Correct. The only odd thing I deal with is my wife's purchase of a second bed. HE NEVER USED THE FIRST ONE!!!!!! But in all fairness, his bed IS sweet. It's a raised bed so he can have a fort underneath. Awesome stuff.

WebFire: It's not really the time asleep that is quality, it's the stories, the reflection on the day, the plans for the next day, the time to think of others and their needs, and ways we, as a family, can reach those needs. (Our five year old daughter has come up with some doozies!) Great stuff though!!!

CrimsonStreak: Our "together-time" is cut into, but there are PLENTY of other times in the day, or even ways to show my affection for my wife. Flowers, calls, notes, text messages, or even the walk we are about to take - as a family, with the dog - around the neighborhood. And when our time on earth is through, I'm sure I'll ensure one more "romp in the hay" but it couldn't replace getting to know the person my wife is as we grow together old.

As for staying in our home until he's thirty... I doubt it. I see a shift in expectations as my child approaches 12, 15 and 18. My job is to provide a functioning member in society... I believe the first 10-12 years of their lives is all about building a solid foundation, one day at a time.

Oh well. Thank God for the freedom to live as our family sees fit. And the confidence and surety to allow others to live as they please.

Gotta walk.