FatHobbit
Posts: 8,651
May 30, 2012 11:25am
http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/highschool-prep-rally/iowa-father-tries-forcibly-remove-son-game-poor-103115475.html
What would you do if you told your son his grades were not good enough to play sports and he played anyway? I'm fine with a parent removing his own child from a game when he was told he should not play.
What would you do if you told your son his grades were not good enough to play sports and he played anyway? I'm fine with a parent removing his own child from a game when he was told he should not play.
DeyDurkie5
Posts: 11,324
May 30, 2012 11:26am
I'd shoot him in the face
like_that
Posts: 26,625
May 30, 2012 11:27am
+1 for his intentions, but negs for his execution. At that point, I would have waited after the game for the kid to get his.FatHobbit;1184625 wrote:http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/highschool-prep-rally/iowa-father-tries-forcibly-remove-son-game-poor-103115475.html
What would you do if you told your son his grades were not good enough to play sports and he played anyway? I'm fine with a parent removing his own child from a game when he was told he should not play.
GoChiefs
Posts: 16,754
May 30, 2012 11:29am
Embarrass him in front of the other kids. Even more effective. It'll make him work on his grades, and think twice before he disobeys dad again.like_that;1184628 wrote:+1 for his intentions, but negs for his execution. At that point, I would have waited after the game for the kid to get his.
THE4RINGZ
Posts: 16,816
May 30, 2012 11:29am
Seems like more of a look at me for being a good dad moment rather than a teaching the kid that grades are more important than sports.
FatHobbit
Posts: 8,651
May 30, 2012 11:31am
It probably would have been smarter to either wait, or go to the coach and have him remove him. But I have had my daughter go somewhere before after I told her not to and I went directly there and removed her from the situation and drove her home. (She is 14, so that might be a little different. It also was a group of friends and not a public sporting event.)like_that;1184628 wrote:+1 for his intentions, but negs for his execution. At that point, I would have waited after the game for the kid to get his.
like_that
Posts: 26,625
May 30, 2012 11:34am
True, but it obviously didn't work in that fashion for him lol.GoChiefs;1184632 wrote:Embarrass him in front of the other kids. Even more effective. It'll make him work on his grades, and think twice before he disobeys dad again.
Going to the coach would have been smarter.FatHobbit;1184635 wrote:It probably would have been smarter to either wait, or go to the coach and have him remove him. But I have had my daughter go somewhere before after I told her not to and I went directly there and removed her from the situation and drove her home. (She is 14, so that might be a little different. It also was a group of friends and not a public sporting event.)
Devils Advocate
Posts: 4,539
May 30, 2012 11:39am
I need a lot more info on this. It appears that the boy is a pawn in a divorce battle. I want to know What his grades were,when dad found out, and what conversation that he had with the boy.
Running out on the field was a poorly executed play on the dad's behalf.
But then again, It all sucks just because it involves soccer.
Running out on the field was a poorly executed play on the dad's behalf.
But then again, It all sucks just because it involves soccer.
OSH
Posts: 4,145
May 30, 2012 11:44am
FatHobbit;1184625 wrote:http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/highschool-prep-rally/iowa-father-tries-forcibly-remove-son-game-poor-103115475.html
What would you do if you told your son his grades were not good enough to play sports and he played anyway? I'm fine with a parent removing his own child from a game when he was told he should not play.
GoChiefs;1184632 wrote:Embarrass him in front of the other kids. Even more effective. It'll make him work on his grades, and think twice before he disobeys dad again.
This is it! At least someone finally noticed the REAL story...Devils Advocate;1184641 wrote:I need a lot more info on this. It appears that the boy is a pawn in a divorce battle. I want to know What his grades were,when dad found out, and what conversation that he had with the boy.
Running out on the field was a poorly executed play on the dad's behalf.
But then again, It all sucks just because it involves soccer.
cruiser_96
Posts: 7,536
May 30, 2012 11:59am
What!?!?!? If you did that, you wouldn't be able to eat his face! Have the zombies taught you nothing!?!?!DeyDurkie5;1184627 wrote:I'd shoot him in the face
bases_loaded
Posts: 6,912
May 30, 2012 12:06pm
Go to the coach first???
I'm tired of this takes a village ideology crap. Its his son, and his son apparently disobeyed him. Its not like he went out and beat his ass. Society is fucked.
I'm tired of this takes a village ideology crap. Its his son, and his son apparently disobeyed him. Its not like he went out and beat his ass. Society is fucked.
Belly35
Posts: 9,716
May 30, 2012 12:07pm
Who's at fault ?
The dad for not taking a interest in the kids grade before it got out of control ... or ...
the kid who let his grade slip and didn't do the work ?
Two wrongs is still wrong .... father and the kids needs to come together and work in supporting each other so this does happen again.
The dad for not taking a interest in the kids grade before it got out of control ... or ...
the kid who let his grade slip and didn't do the work ?
Two wrongs is still wrong .... father and the kids needs to come together and work in supporting each other so this does happen again.
DeadliestWarrior34
Posts: 3,101
May 30, 2012 12:56pm
So if it was a basketball game, you would run onto the court and grab him while the game was going on?bases_loaded;1184683 wrote:Go to the coach first???
I'm tired of this takes a village ideology crap. Its his son, and his son apparently disobeyed him. Its not like he went out and beat his ass. Society is fucked.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
May 30, 2012 1:00pm
When I was coaching JV football, I had an irate parent in the stands who was pissed that his son was playing. He wasn't pissed at the coaches, but pissed at his son. The dad was drunk, the head coach tried to calm him down, and he ended up peeling out of the parking lot.FatHobbit;1184625 wrote:http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/highschool-prep-rally/iowa-father-tries-forcibly-remove-son-game-poor-103115475.html
What would you do if you told your son his grades were not good enough to play sports and he played anyway? I'm fine with a parent removing his own child from a game when he was told he should not play.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
May 30, 2012 1:02pm
Flagrant foul.DeadliestWarrior34;1184726 wrote:So if it was a basketball game, you would run onto the court and grab him while the game was going on?
Rotinaj
Posts: 7,699
May 30, 2012 1:04pm
The dad sounds like a douche.
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vball10set
Posts: 24,795
May 30, 2012 1:07pm
As a parent, this would have been my course of action, and the penalty would increase substantially due to his blatant disobedience...a lesson would definitely be taught here, without having to humiliate him.like_that;1184628 wrote:+1 for his intentions, but negs for his execution. At that point, I would have waited after the game for the kid to get his.
FatHobbit
Posts: 8,651
May 30, 2012 1:18pm
It would not surprise me if there were important details missing from the story.Devils Advocate;1184641 wrote:I need a lot more info on this. It appears that the boy is a pawn in a divorce battle. I want to know What his grades were,when dad found out, and what conversation that he had with the boy.
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gut
Posts: 15,058
May 30, 2012 1:22pm
Stupid parent...Clearly athletic scholarship is this kid's only chance.
Fab1b
Posts: 12,949
May 30, 2012 1:26pm
As a sports official myself, there is nothing worse that someone coming out into the field of play. You have no clue what their intentions are, if they are coming after you, an athlete, etc......After the dust settles here I agree this kid is a pawn in a divorce however this dad was dead wrong for his actions and this situation could have really gotten out of control fast. I wouldn't hesitate to protect myself or an athlete if I felt there was any threat approaching!
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Gblock
May 30, 2012 1:33pm
ive seen this happen before...you only need a 2.0 to play in our district which is barely above a d average. in some places you can play with a 1.7. just because you are "eligible" doesnt mean both parents agree that you should play. one situation involved a foster mom saying no way and the parents who didnt have custody at the time fighting for him to play. kid had a 2.1.
thePITman
Posts: 3,867
May 30, 2012 1:37pm
When I was in school, my punishment for bad grades was not being able to play any sports. It never came to that, but I'm sure that if I went against my parents' wishes and played w/o them knowing, they wouldn't embarrass me in front of everyone. They would have waited until the end of the game and scolded me big time.
Maybe another idea would be to tell the coach (and I'm VERY against parents EVER intervening w/ the coach) that the kid did not meet the parents' grade standards and they told him he was not to play, and hope the coach goes along. Haha.
Maybe another idea would be to tell the coach (and I'm VERY against parents EVER intervening w/ the coach) that the kid did not meet the parents' grade standards and they told him he was not to play, and hope the coach goes along. Haha.
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queencitybuckeye
Posts: 7,117
May 30, 2012 1:44pm
A couple of random thoughts:
Whether we lived apart or together, Mom and I would be on the same page in terms of these kinds of decisions before either of us acted.
I would not use the coach to do our dirty work. I would, however, inform the coach that the little dullard will not be playing until his academics are back in order.
Whether we lived apart or together, Mom and I would be on the same page in terms of these kinds of decisions before either of us acted.
I would not use the coach to do our dirty work. I would, however, inform the coach that the little dullard will not be playing until his academics are back in order.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
May 30, 2012 1:47pm
What it came to be with my situation with the parent was... It got to the point that we were so annoyed with dad. Every week, it seemed to be something different. The kid was playing, he wasn't playing, etc. We finally just said, "listen, your son is eligible by school standards. We're not going to keep going back and forth. You either want your son to be on this team, or you don't." Dad took him off the team.
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Gblock
May 30, 2012 1:48pm
this was tough for me at times as a coach when it involved the best player. sitting him also punished the rest of the team because now we cant win. often it wasnt just grades sometimes parents would call me the day of the game and say rico didnt clean his room so he wont be playing today. i always tried to work out some alternative punishment involving lots of running and pushups in lue of missing the game. other times i eventually had to cut the kid because i cant keep wondering if your going to be able to play or not no matter how good you are. its not fair to the team at some point that way either