Your toddlers just died & you're mad that you don't get money from the memorial fund?

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Jun 18, 2011 1:07 AM
http://www.zanesvilletimesrecorder.com/article/20110614/NEWS01/106140302/Memorial-fund-puts-family-odds?odyssey=mod|mostcom

Maybe it's how the article was written but this just doesn't sound right to me.

The mother and father, father seems most vocal about it, are upset that a memorial fund was set up in their son's names that will take the money donated and give it to charity in the boy's names. They think the money should go to them. The are unemployed(father has a temp job) and don't have much money.

It was the grandparents who set up the memorial fund. The article made it sound like they paid for funeral expenses as well.

This seems a little weird/off to me. I'm not in their shoes, so I can't say for sure how I would act, but I don't think I would file a report with the police over whether or not that money belongs to me and my family...
Jun 18, 2011 1:07am
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Jun 18, 2011 2:22 AM
It's the grandparents' money. It is their choice to do with it what they wish.
Jun 18, 2011 2:22am
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Jun 18, 2011 3:06 AM
O-Trap;806159 wrote:It's the grandparents' money. It is their choice to do with it what they wish.

Well it's not really their money(the memorial fund, not the money used for the funeral). It is money donated by others in the community
Jun 18, 2011 3:06am
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Jun 18, 2011 3:25 AM
Oh I see. I misunderstood.

The point actually remains, though. If those in the community gave it to the memorial fund, then it ought to go to the memorial fund.

I'm quite annoyed with the parents, if you can't tell. :D
Jun 18, 2011 3:25am
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Jun 18, 2011 4:09 AM
These parents just lost the supposed best thing in their life, yet in their time of loss they're acting with greed and ignorance more so than gratitude and remembrance.

They should be thankful that people are donating into this fund and embrace it as an opportunity to help out others. Don't let the child die for no reason, instead, use this memorial to continue the life and memories.

I have a 1 year old daughter whom I love more than anything, so I can't imagine the pain I would feel by losing her, BUT I know I wouldn't act in selfishness and greed.
Jun 18, 2011 4:09am
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Jun 18, 2011 8:05 AM
How the f*ck do you let your kids wonder away from your campsite? Even when I'm out in the yard doing work I'm keeping an eye on them let alone camping near a dam or river of somekind.
Jun 18, 2011 8:05am
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Jun 18, 2011 10:41 AM
"We should get the money," Richard Klein said. "We're the boys' family. We were all they had. We need that money."
"We were shocked. Then we found out it was my parents that set it up. Why should they have control? Those were my boys."
They have control because they set up the account you dip shit. Those boys didn't die so you could get rich. Maybe if you weren't such a fuck up you could have a real job and not be living in a van down by the river.
Jun 18, 2011 10:41am
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Jun 18, 2011 11:12 AM
Heelz;806180 wrote:How the f*ck do you let your kids wonder away from your campsite? Even when I'm out in the yard doing work I'm keeping an eye on them let alone camping near a dam or river of somekind.

That was what I wondered when I first read the story about the deaths. Apparently they were camping and the boys woke up before the parents? One of the kids had cerebral palsy and trouble walking, but apparently was able to put on his own shoes and wander into the river. I just don't understand the whole scenario.
Jun 18, 2011 11:12am
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Jun 18, 2011 11:31 AM
These parent need not to reproduce. They failed terribly at parenting and now they are looking to gain money from their failure. Sounds like 'ol dad (or half-dad) needs a nice wake up slap and get a real job.
Jun 18, 2011 11:31am
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Jun 18, 2011 2:02 PM
stroups;806205 wrote:... and not be living in a van down by the river.

LOL'D!
Jun 18, 2011 2:02pm
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Jun 18, 2011 2:21 PM
I feel bad for the parents, but trying to profit from your child's death should require you to have a Special place in Hell for you.
Jun 18, 2011 2:21pm
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Jun 18, 2011 3:49 PM
When my son died we set upa fund for people who wanted to donate in lieu of flowers, and clearly that any money collected would be given to his high school's athletic booster club. We already had the funeral expenses covered and didn't need the money for that. My interpetation of this story is that the public thought they were donating to a specific cause (i.e. diverting the costs of the final expenses), not to line the pockets of the parents. I am glad someone else is stepping in and seeing the money is properly distributed.
Jun 18, 2011 3:49pm
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Jun 18, 2011 6:15 PM
Po' white trash
Jun 18, 2011 6:15pm
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Jun 18, 2011 9:28 PM
well they got told by the bank they was already a fund set up. they need that money.


clowns. seems like (the kid had CP and the parents were clearly inept) this was probably best for the kids. they are in a much better place now.
Jun 18, 2011 9:28pm
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Jun 18, 2011 10:28 PM
Just shows where their true mindset was. Probably liked nascar.
Jun 18, 2011 10:28pm
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Jun 18, 2011 11:55 PM
DeyDurkie5;806468 wrote:Just shows where their true mindset was. Probably liked nascar.
The NASCAR comment was too over the top as there are some great NASCAR people out here. Just call them what they are...Assholes.
Jun 18, 2011 11:55pm
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Jun 19, 2011 2:15 AM
DeyDurkie5;806468 wrote:Just shows where their true mindset was. Probably liked nascar.

They were probably heartless atheists, too. ;)
Jun 19, 2011 2:15am
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Jun 19, 2011 8:31 AM
enigmaax;806212 wrote:That was what I wondered when I first read the story about the deaths. Apparently they were camping and the boys woke up before the parents? One of the kids had cerebral palsy and trouble walking, but apparently was able to put on his own shoes and wander into the river. I just don't understand the whole scenario.
...the kid prolly didn't just "wander" into the river. Possibly he was trying to end it all & get away from his psycho parents?
Jun 19, 2011 8:31am
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Jun 19, 2011 9:23 AM
O-Trap;806517 wrote:They were probably heartless atheists, too. ;)

thinking religion is bullshit and the bible is a fairy tale doesn't classify me as an atheist does it?
Jun 19, 2011 9:23am
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Jun 19, 2011 9:29 AM
I have handled catastrophic injuries cases for nearly 15 years. I learned in a few months that some cases are about righting a wrong, but in all the cases, it really is just about the money.
Jun 19, 2011 9:29am
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Jun 19, 2011 11:33 AM
At the risk of forming an opinion without know the background information, I felt there was something "just not right" about this situation from the beginning.

Kids a year apart with different last names, and being married to yet another man two years later doesn't bode well to begin with. Those of who who have been around toddlers for any length of time will share my concern about taking kids that age camping to begin with - let alone 25 feet from a flooded river. There's a period from about 18 month to 3 years in which kids are physically able to wander into to trouble, but have no sense of danger - you never really have a truly relaxed moment as a parent during that period of time.
Jun 19, 2011 11:33am
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Jun 19, 2011 12:28 PM
DeyDurkie5;806468 wrote:Just shows where their true mindset was. Probably liked nascar.

Im surprised GoChiefs hasnt responded to this comment.
Jun 19, 2011 12:28pm
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Jun 19, 2011 12:55 PM
Zen;806152 wrote:
The are unemployed(father has a temp job) and don't have much money.

It was the grandparents who set up the memorial fund. The article made it sound like they paid for funeral expenses as well.

The father has chosen to be unemployed by not going back to work...and the grandparents obviously knew the parents would not put the money to good use or they would have let them set up the account to begin with.My guess is the parents went to do it thinking sympathy would be an easy way to get money for their own use.They deserve nothing,and the little girl left in their custody should be removed pronto.
Jun 19, 2011 12:55pm
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Jun 19, 2011 12:59 PM
Tigerfan00;806599 wrote:Im surprised GoChiefs hasnt responded to this comment.

Why would I? Because he tries to be an online asshole? We know his game, nothing new.
Jun 19, 2011 12:59pm
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Jun 20, 2011 7:24 AM
Maybe they should take that money and buy some brains for the parents. :(
Jun 20, 2011 7:24am