Any updates?

Seriously..... It sounds to me that she was setting you up with an argument because she wants to end it .......She needed some ammo ...It was totally unreasonable for her to expect you to go out of the way for a lunch pickup ..She might be seeing somebody else ,or she is just tired of you ..You never did anything that bad for her to get rid of you ,and she needed to start something out of nothing.....When you said you would do it ,she said dont worry about it ,and then said she thought you were not serious ...She just wants to break up and doesnt know how .......That is the real deal man ...It sucks but thats it ,move on .....curious you said you were not at the staying over part yet,does that also mean you were not having sex? If you are having sex I dont know why she cant stay over some nights anyway ,thats like kinda lame anyway...

Fly4Fun;565196 wrote:The more recent events only confirm the theory that she was testing you and you failed. She might not have even thought about it as "I'm going to test him," but she got information about you (actions speak louder than words) and that pretty much ruined your chances. Lesson learned, move on.

Whats up with the test crap....that is bunk ..why do some of you think that way ..go ahead and test me ,dont let the door hit you in the ass ,that I spend so much money on...If you are an adult ,just be strait . fuck games silly rabbit tricks are for kids...This is why its better just to get friends with bennies have some sex when you need it , forget all this bullshit..it might be a test but guess what ,that chick is going to either end up with one un manly dude or just be known for as a bar fly cause she cant keep anybody

I missed this thread originally, but I will weigh in w/ my thoughts now.

Incident #1: Bottomline, you should've gone to see her if you really liked her. Going 30-40 minutes out of your way isn't a big deal, even if you only get to see her for a few minutes. I once drove an hour to take ice cream to my sick girlfriend, she was asleep when I got there so I just left the ice cream in the freezer and a note. I think I got home about 1am and had to be at work at 7:30am. It was worth it though, because it showed her how much I cared. She may or may not have been testing you, but either way, you failed.

Incident #2: "The drunk mind speaks the sober truth" She said what she truly felt, even though she may have said something different when she sobered up, her drunkeness allowed her to relay her TRUE feelings.

Incident #1 she failed because it prooved how selfish and childish she was ...Is she still in HS or is she a grown woman ...

Get an older woman ...They will treat you like gold and they are better in bed ..alot better

Thinthickbigred;601678 wrote:Get an older woman man ...They will treat you like gold and they are better in bed ..alot better

I suppose a woman man would be more versatile in bed. Do you find that you exclusively date those?

CenterBHSFan;560069 wrote:As a woman, here's my guess:

She just wanted to see if you'd do it. Much like somebody else already said. Hate to break it to ya, but that's the scenario that makes the most sense.
I mean, there's no cafeteria? She couldn't order in? Brown bag? Vending machines?

So, yeah. She was sort of testing those waters.

As a nurse I can honestly say this...if you can't find someone to cover your patients then no you can't run down to the cafeteria, running to the break room IF you are able to order in might be possible. However if you have 4 to 5 patients and it is close to time to give report (she might not have the same patients for both shifts) or it is even remotely close to time to give meds (and it does take time to be in the med. room, log into the pixus, scan all the meds, scan the pts arm bad for each & every med. etc) then be ready to down your food in less than 5 mins. It is a JACHO violation to consume food and/or drink at the nurses’ station, so you can’t eat it there. Also leaving your pts when another nurse can't FULLY cover them can actually be considered abandonment which is a punishable offense. There was a case down here recently when a nurse came into work after having dental surgery. It was a mistake and she ended up getting very sick. She decided to leave maybe 20 mins into her shift. But since she had already taken report she was mandated to stay until an oncall replacement could be called in to take her place. Because she didn't, in thinking that the other nurses would cover her, she was sanctioned and received a several thousand dollar fine and had her license suspended for abandonment .
Had she already known she was going to have to work a double? If not she might not have planned a head of time to have extra food with her. Also, even if she got a break, not all hospital cafeterias are open past 7 or 8 pm. Does she work 12s or 8s? I'd hate to think of her working 24 hours straight....not safe. I mean it might have just came down to this; she was there taking care of other people for several hours (her job yes, but not an easy one), she was tired, hungry and maybe was just hoping that someone could be nice and do something for her. I'm that way with my Hubby, I don't mind going out of my way to be nice. Before we moved when he worked an hour away and forgot his lunch at home...I took it to him without him having to ask. Very pregnant, loaded the other wee ones up in the car took it to him, let the kids see him for 10 mins or so and then came home. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with putting other people's needs first. I mean what is an extra couple of hours or so out of your day when it is not something you do every day, once a week, heck once a month even.

Also remember incident#1 he was driving home from school and the drive to her work would have added 35 to 40 minutes to his already 45 min commute ..thats almost 90 min for some Mcdonalds....with gas like it is and the fact the dude just put his day in ,thats real considerate of her ...You know what a real cool girl isnt going to want for anything and if this guy isnt up to her high standards she should just move on ..dont treat a guy like that ..we aint dogs or servants.....People are programmed ..This guy seems like he is practical and this girl is a romantic maybe....they dont clique...

Once again...how hard is it to just do something nice for someone? Why does it always have to be about what's more convenient and what's easier? I am not saying that people need to expect things all the time but I really don't think it's wrong for anyone (guy or girl) to ask for something once in a while. And it's not unreasonable for someone to do something nice for someone...whether they ask or not. Relationships take work sometimes...and if you think that makes someone a "dog or servant" you should probably go ahead and stay single forever.

This is just a general statement by the way. I already commented on this specific situation and this does go along with it but also applies to relationships as a whole.

Fab4Runner;601721 wrote:Once again...how hard is it to just do something nice for someone? Why does it always have to be about what's more convenient and what's easier? I am not saying that people need to expect things all the time but I really don't think it's wrong for anyone (guy or girl) to ask for something once in a while. And it's not unreasonable for someone to do something nice for someone...whether they ask or not. Relationships take work sometimes...and if you think that makes someone a "dog or servant" you should probably go ahead and stay single forever.

This is just a general statement by the way. I already commented on this specific situation and this does go along with it but also applies to relationships as a whole.

^^ This!

Fab4Runner;601721 wrote:Once again...how hard is it to just do something nice for someone? Why does it always have to be about what's more convenient and what's easier? I am not saying that people need to expect things all the time but I really don't think it's wrong for anyone (guy or girl) to ask for something once in a while. And it's not unreasonable for someone to do something nice for someone...whether they ask or not. Relationships take work sometimes...and if you think that makes someone a "dog or servant" you should probably go ahead and stay single forever.

This is just a general statement by the way. I already commented on this specific situation and this does go along with it but also applies to relationships as a whole.

I think most guys agree with you on this, but it just isn't "cool" or "tough" to admit that they do nice things for their significant other.

se-alum;601734 wrote:I think most guys agree with you on this, but it just isn't "cool" or "tough" to admit that they do nice things for their significant other.

Any guy who is mature would admit that this is true.

Relationships require both parties to sacrifice and do things they maybe don't want to do but for the benefit of the other party. But it can't be one party always taking from the other; both must give in a healthy relationship.

If you have to question a relationship whatsoever, it isn't worth it.

Wow, didn't realize this thread was still active.
Okay, update...said girl and I are still dating (she is older by 8 years, someone mentioned something about getting an older woman) It's been tough at times, but we're still making it work. I think I figured out last night that there was going to be a learning curve for me, since I've never really had an adult relationship. The last time I was seriously dating someone was 2008 and at the time I was 21 and the girl was...20 I think. So now years later, I'm dating a 31yo who's been married (and yes officially divorced). So we'll see what happens. I can see both sides of the argument about that night. For the nurse that replied, she only worked 8 hours that night, and I don't think the workloads are ever too heavy that people go unfed, but I know that doesn't change the point.
I know I'm being ridiculed and questioned for 'getting into a mess' but it is what it is. The good times certainly override the bad times so that's what counts.

do her sister