Heretic
Posts: 18,820
Jun 25, 2010 9:22am
Yes. Mine is the tl;dr version of that.
se-alum
Posts: 13,948
Jun 25, 2010 9:39am
SportsAndLady;401041 wrote:Work is up there.
You don't work to spend time with your daughter, you get fired from work. You get fired from work, you have no money, you lose your child.
Go to fuckin work breh
Find some friends for your daughter or tell your mom to put the c-pipe down and play with your daughter
Pretty sure he was just talking about having alot of work to do around the house after they got back, not an actual paying job. At least that's the way I understood it.
SportsAndLady
Posts: 35,632
Jun 25, 2010 9:51am
se-alum;401068 wrote:Pretty sure he was just talking about having alot of work to do around the house after they got back, not an actual paying job. At least that's the way I understood it.
Oh, well if that's the case..fuck the house, play whitcha kid
BigAppleBuckeye
Posts: 2,935
Jun 25, 2010 10:01am
Bio-Hazzzzard;400876 wrote:I'll set it straight from the start, I love my mom, but she is a mooch. First of all she invites herself to come back with me from OH to FL with $5 dollars to her name. She said she will cook, clean, and baby sit our daughter so we wouldn't have to pay for summer camp...so the plot starts to thicken. I had a shitload of work to do the day after I got back and at 10:00am mom came outside and told me she was tired can you watch your daughter while I sleep? Uhhhhh...OK. I keep on working and then my daughter is bored asking if I can play with her, I felt bad for her so I did the right thing and spent time with my daughter....five hours later mom wakes up and asked if I got alot of work done today, I was stumped at this point, confused. She eats more than we do at our AT OUR EXPENSE, adds items to my wife's grocery list for her, she's the first one to grab a plate at supper, and she leaves skid marks in my toilet........??????
Two and a half weeks later nothing has changed besides my daughter going back to summer camp after the first day of Grandma's arrival.
What would you do in this situation?
Bus or Plane ticket back to OH?
While it's tough for me to relate, as my mother and I have a strong relationship, I do understand what you are going through. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are a good dad, so I would continue being the "bigger" person and buy your mom a plane ticket back to Ohio BUT level with her that it ends here -- if she wants to be a part of your life, it has to be a 2-way street, not a "take take take" relationship. Ultimately, you come out a good guy, and she has the option to try and be a better person to keep you in her life. Wow, that may have been the most seroius post I have ever written here! haha
Speedofsand
Posts: 5,529
Jun 25, 2010 10:04am
the snorkeler was fine, just got one chomp on the neck, broken jaw.
talk with your mom and tell her what your post says; she promised to help, and on the 1st day she wants to sleep instead of spending time with her granddaughter. Sooner or later your wife wants her gone anyway, so you might as well talk to mom about travel plans.
talk with your mom and tell her what your post says; she promised to help, and on the 1st day she wants to sleep instead of spending time with her granddaughter. Sooner or later your wife wants her gone anyway, so you might as well talk to mom about travel plans.
HitsRus
Posts: 9,206
Jun 25, 2010 10:08am
Heretic;401042 wrote:From what I've read here:
1. Mom wasn't a factor in your life growing up.
2. Mom is being a leech now.
3. Mom isn't fulfilling the terms set that gave her the opportunity to be a leech.
4. The situation is creating discord in your family to the degree it appears that your wife is prepared to take herself and your kid to her parents' house as a step to get you off your ass to do something about things.
Unless I'm misreading things, you're basically being used by a conniving bitch who's using family ties as a convenient way to get a free ride. Time to cut those ties...unless you're cool with being without a real family while putting your time and resources into supporting your mom...you know, as a way of repaying her for NOT being there in your life while you were growing up.
We have a winner! That's spot on. Just because someone is family doesn't mean that you have to put up with that kind of bullshit. It might be a lot tougher if they actually inconvieneced themselves 'raising' you....but there is no indication here that the 'mom' in question ever did anything but birth him.
I'd tell your mom that visiting time is over, that your wife and family need their space and buy her a ticket home.
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Nate
Posts: 3,949
Jun 25, 2010 10:11am
Once you knock up some OU skank, you'll realize your kid is more important than anything but you'd have to get laid first to get to that point.SportsAndLady;401041 wrote:Work is up there.
You don't work to spend time with your daughter, you get fired from work. You get fired from work, you have no money, you lose your child.
Go to fuckin work breh
Find some friends for your daughter or tell your mom to put the c-pipe down and play with your daughter
Please note, I'm making a joke, not being an asshole.
FatHobbit
Posts: 8,651
Jun 25, 2010 10:14am
I agree that kids are more important than work. And I would have sent the kid in to wake up grandma.
Heretic's answer was good too.
Heretic's answer was good too.
Red_Skin_Pride
Posts: 1,226
Jun 25, 2010 10:26am
Keebler;401089 wrote:Once you knock up some OU skank, you'll realize your kid is more important than anything but you'd have to get laid first to get to that point.
Please note, I'm making a joke, not being an asshole.
ernest_t_bass
Posts: 24,984
Jun 25, 2010 10:47am
Maybe your mom had jetlag.
SportsAndLady
Posts: 35,632
Jun 25, 2010 10:51am
Keebler;401089 wrote:Once you knock up some OU skank, you'll realize your kid is more important than anything but you'd have to get laid first to get to that point.
Please note, I'm making a joke, not being an asshole.
I'm not saying your kid isn't the most important thing you dildo...I'm just saying you stop working to play with your kid, you're gonna be jobless.
And seriously, you might be the worst insult-slingin poster on this site "if you can even get laid first looolzzzzz" come up w/ some better shit, chode
CenterBHSFan
Posts: 6,115
Jun 25, 2010 11:15am
Wait, why can't your wife say something?
I find it hard to believe that she would rather just up and leave with the kid rather than have a sit-down with your mother.
Even though it's your mother, your wife is just as affected. I mean, it's her house, her kid, her life, and her authority too! It's not like she's never met the woman before. I'm sure she can be rational, reasonable, fair and polite in nudging your mother to do what she promised to do, just as well as you can/could. And, if that's the route she decides to take, back her up on it.
And then, if your mother still doesn't want to pull her weight, then plan on sending her back home. But, there's no need for dramatics or drastic measures before then, IMO.
I find it hard to believe that she would rather just up and leave with the kid rather than have a sit-down with your mother.
Even though it's your mother, your wife is just as affected. I mean, it's her house, her kid, her life, and her authority too! It's not like she's never met the woman before. I'm sure she can be rational, reasonable, fair and polite in nudging your mother to do what she promised to do, just as well as you can/could. And, if that's the route she decides to take, back her up on it.
And then, if your mother still doesn't want to pull her weight, then plan on sending her back home. But, there's no need for dramatics or drastic measures before then, IMO.
Thread Bomber
Posts: 1,851
Jun 25, 2010 11:21am
When did he get a promotion to "dildo" from BUTTPLUG?
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Nate
Posts: 3,949
Jun 25, 2010 12:34pm
Chode. LOL
1994 called. It wants its insults back Samuel William Michael.
1994 called. It wants its insults back Samuel William Michael.
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sjmvsfscs08
Posts: 2,963
Jun 25, 2010 12:46pm
Buy her a ticket home except make that ticket actually be to Africa....
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BlueJayRay
Posts: 106
Jun 25, 2010 12:56pm
You owe her all the love and respect she has shown to you throughout your formative years... Nothing more... nothing less...
Buy her a Greyhound ticket and a cab ride to the station... then ask her not to try to "connect" again... then change your number just in case... She's gonna end up screwing up what sounds like a pretty decent life that you've put together with your wife and daughter, in spite of her extremely poor parenting!
Buy her a Greyhound ticket and a cab ride to the station... then ask her not to try to "connect" again... then change your number just in case... She's gonna end up screwing up what sounds like a pretty decent life that you've put together with your wife and daughter, in spite of her extremely poor parenting!
Bio-Hazzzzard
Posts: 1,027
Jun 25, 2010 1:02pm
CenterBHSFan;401193 wrote:Wait, why can't your wife say something?
I find it hard to believe that she would rather just up and leave with the kid rather than have a sit-down with your mother.
Even though it's your mother, your wife is just as affected. I mean, it's her house, her kid, her life, and her authority too! It's not like she's never met the woman before. I'm sure she can be rational, reasonable, fair and polite in nudging your mother to do what she promised to do, just as well as you can/could. And, if that's the route she decides to take, back her up on it.
And then, if your mother still doesn't want to pull her weight, then plan on sending her back home. But, there's no need for dramatics or drastic measures before then, IMO.
Telling mom that she is not pulling her weight would make things worse, I would get cursed at like you wouldn't believe which I would rather spare my wife the moment of her getting cussed out. I simply have to tell her that I am not sure when I will return to OH and offer her a plane ticket back.
Mom is not a terrible person she just has it in her head that she is always owed something. I get along with her great when she's at her house and I would like to make sure she gets there soon.
justincredible
Posts: 32,056
Jun 25, 2010 1:27pm
I'm gonna have to agree with Heretic here. She may not be a terrible person but she is definitely taking advantage of your good nature. Had she not bounced and left your dad to raise the kids, I might have a different opinion, but I wouldn't hesitate to buy her a plane ticket home and tell her she has to go, now. It isn't worth straining the relationship with your wife over.
iclfan2
Posts: 6,360
Jun 25, 2010 1:34pm
SnotBubbles;400991 wrote:My mom and dad are coming to live with me for a week or so this Sunday (before they move back to Illinois). When they asked, I said I would talk to my wife.
They will be paying a portion of the grocery bill while they are there and also some extra for the additional water/electricity they use. I lived off of them for 18 years, I know. But now I have kids of my own living off of me. They weren't pissed, they understood and agreed.
That is asinine that you would make your parents pay for water and electricity.
CinciX12
Posts: 2,874
Jun 25, 2010 1:46pm
I've already told my parents if they pull this kinda crap with me they are welcome for about 72 hours and then will be redirected from the premises with a firearm.
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MontyBrunswick
Jun 25, 2010 2:38pm
iclfan2;401298 wrote:That is asinine that you would make your parents pay for water and electricity.
I disagree.
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mattinctown
Jun 25, 2010 4:55pm
Heretic;401042 wrote:From what I've read here:
1. Mom wasn't a factor in your life growing up.
2. Mom is being a leech now.
3. Mom isn't fulfilling the terms set that gave her the opportunity to be a leech.
4. The situation is creating discord in your family to the degree it appears that your wife is prepared to take herself and your kid to her parents' house as a step to get you off your ass to do something about things.
Unless I'm misreading things, you're basically being used by a conniving bitch who's using family ties as a convenient way to get a free ride. Time to cut those ties...unless you're cool with being without a real family while putting your time and resources into supporting your mom...you know, as a way of repaying her for NOT being there in your life while you were growing up.
I agree with this 100%. Your Mom wasn't a factor in your life growing up, you owe her NOTHING. She needs to get out, it's causing too much stress in your family, get her out any way you can, even if you have to pay for it.
darbypitcher22
Posts: 8,000
Jun 25, 2010 8:07pm
greyhound ticket home.
Do it.
Do it.
Bio-Hazzzzard
Posts: 1,027
Jun 25, 2010 8:39pm
I bought a ONE WAY airline ticket for $68 with my discount, she will be leaving on tuesday morning. I was suprised that air fare was cheaper than Greyhound.darbypitcher22;401600 wrote:greyhound ticket home.
Do it.
Bio-Hazzzzard
Posts: 1,027
Jun 25, 2010 8:48pm
Heretic;401042 wrote:From what I've read here:
1. Mom wasn't a factor in your life growing up.
2. Mom is being a leech now.
3. Mom isn't fulfilling the terms set that gave her the opportunity to be a leech.
4. The situation is creating discord in your family to the degree it appears that your wife is prepared to take herself and your kid to her parents' house as a step to get you off your ass to do something about things.
Unless I'm misreading things, you're basically being used by a conniving bitch who's using family ties as a convenient way to get a free ride. Time to cut those ties...unless you're cool with being without a real family while putting your time and resources into supporting your mom...you know, as a way of repaying her for NOT being there in your life while you were growing up.
Before this thread dies and as others have said, Heretic hit this spot on.
It is actually cheaper for me to buy her way home than to keep her, but more importantly we will have our own way of life back.
By the way she is flying into Columbus, anyone want to pick her up?